Barbara Roberts

Victim theologian. Book: divorce for abuse, adultery & desertion. YouTuber.

[Barbara Roberts @NotUnderBondage]

The Bible allows victims of abuse to divorce their abusive spouses.

My book sets out the scriptural arguments for this, and refutes all the misinterpretations that have disallowed divorce for abuse.

#Bible #scripture #divorce #DomesticAbuse

[Barbara Roberts @NotUnderBondage]

@SamNotReallySam @karenmitchell__ @suprion_verlag Sam, you can DM me your question.

[Aleksandr Solzhenitsyn @AI_Solzhenitsyn]

“[I]t is within the power of writers and artists...to defeat the lie!”

[Barbara Roberts @NotUnderBondage]

@karenmitchell__ @suprion_verlag I have more anecdotes illustrating #3 than I could tell in a lifetime.

[Barbara Roberts @NotUnderBondage]

@karenmitchell__ @suprion_verlag #2 The predator is an artist with every colour on this palate. He selects the colour that will best convey coded meaning to his target. Target reads meaning perfectly. Everyone else reads what he’s doing as benign, insignificant, inconsequential and unremarkable.

[Barbara Roberts @NotUnderBondage]

@karenmitchell__ @suprion_verlag 4. Arranging child access w my ex for each school holiday. Split the holiday—who gets the first half, who gets the second half?
Like pulling teeth to get him to agree to a plan… then later he denies he agreed.

[Barbara Roberts @NotUnderBondage]

@DrPJWilliams Cool number analysis Peter. Have you and @JamesBejon been swapping a few brain cells? 🤣

[Barbara Roberts @NotUnderBondage]

@karenmitchell__ @ibejiggly Thanks Karen!
I really appreciate the time you put into responding to serious questions. 🥰

I have pre-ordered your book at Amazon Australia and I expect I’ll be reading more about chirality in your book. Thanks for being a trail blazer. 💛

[Barbara Roberts @NotUnderBondage]

@skim_milk @karenmitchell__ I like your questions William 🥰. Let’s continue pondering.
There may be information that is yet to be revealed, more data to be gathered, more research to be done.
Perhaps ‘something more real’ is related to spiritual things, dimensions that FMRI’s can’t detect.

[Barbara Roberts @NotUnderBondage]

Recalibration can take the rest of one’s life. I’m still doing it at age 70.
I was predated on age 9, then diff predators in my 20s-60s (mult’l predators + systemic abuse).

I expect more recalibrating in the New Earth as I’m being healed by the leaves of the wood (Rev 22:2).

[Dr Karen Mitchell PhD @karenmitchell__]

Victims of narcissists/psychopaths (human predators) go through a process I refer to as ‘recalibration’ after they deeply ‘see’ the true nature of the narcissist/psychopath.

Recalibration involves mentally replaying and reviewing past situations, conversations, circumstances, interactions, other points of engagement with the narcissist/psychopath in light of the realisation that the human predator has two distinctly different sides to them. One side is the fake ‘normal’ side that the victim has been relating to (and which is only an act).

One side (which the victim sees just prior to recalibration) is severely dishonest and without any respect for laws, rules, agreements, moral principles or codes of any kind. This is the real nature of the predator.

Recalibration does not just happen in intimate partner relationships either. It could be a friend, relative, doctor, cult leader, accountant…

The victim replays situations and questions everything during the period of recalibration. Did that really happen as the human predator said it did? Were they really at that place then? What was really motivating them during this situation? Was that other person in on it too? Were they with the people they said they were with during that weekend? Did they actually do what they said they were going to do then? Did they know that they were hurting me when they did that? Where were they during that time really? Were they really abused as a child as they said they were or is that just a story they made up to suck me in? When did they first start targeting me? So that might not have been a coincidence when that happened? The questions are endless.

Recalibration is often a sickening and highly distressing process as the victim starts to uncover what has really been going on in the dynamic/relationship between themselves and the human predator.

Sometimes the recalibration process may last for years. The victim may continue to have (distressing) lightbulb moments where they realise something that was said by the human predator was untrue and something completely different was going on than what they understood.

[Barbara Roberts @NotUnderBondage]

@karenmitchell__ Recalibration can take the rest of one’s life. I’m still doing it at age 70.
I was predated on age 9, then diff predators in my 20s-60s. Individual predators + systemic abuse.

I expect more recalibrating in the New Earth as I’m being healed by the leaves of the wood (Rev 22:2).

[Dr Karen Mitchell PhD @karenmitchell__]

If you put your hand over one side of this person‘s face and then over the other side, what do you see?

[Barbara Roberts @NotUnderBondage]

@karenmitchell__ RHS of pic: smirk in the upturned corner of his mouth, sneer in the diagonal crease coming down from the nostril, eye intent to control watching for anyone who dares to resist him.

LHS: mouth downturned in facade-sad (?) determined grimace, eye deadness w facade-fear & control.

[Barbara Roberts @NotUnderBondage]

@ibejiggly @karenmitchell__ What is ‘chirality’?

[Barbara Roberts @NotUnderBondage]

@ProfSondergaard @karenmitchell__ The right hand corner of her smile is curled up = smirk.
You’re seeing it Bill. Its creepy.

[Barbara Roberts @NotUnderBondage]

@skim_milk @karenmitchell__ The predator surreptitiously invades the target’s mind and brainwashes the target. The brainwashing suppresses and overwrites the target’s body-gut-feelings & intuition.
The process shapes the target’s mind into what the predator wants them to think.

[Dr Karen Mitchell PhD @karenmitchell__]

3 CRUCIAL things academics got WRONG about narcissists, psychopaths (dark personalities)….

FICTION 1.
- The academics say psychopaths are grandiose, which means they make themselves appear more important, impressive, or sophisticated than they really are.
REALITY
- Psychopaths which are not as bright and have impulse control problems pretend to be more accomplished than they are but, of course, many psychopaths are religious leaders, teachers, CEOs, judges, pilots etc and so do not need to be grandiose because they are seen to have a successful life.

FICTION 2.
- Academics insist psychopaths are impulsive. World psychopath expert, Dr. Robert Hare includes impulsiveness as a core attribute of psychopaths in his assessment tool, the PCL-R.
REALITY
- Of course, higher functioning dark personalities are not impulsive at all. Many are quite strategic and are excellent at long-term planning

FICTION 3.
- The academics insists that a subset of dark personalities have “everyday sadism”. They say that psychopaths, narcissists & Machiavellians are not sadistic.
- My research, based on over 1000 years of cumulative experience of practitioner experts, both inside and outside the prison system, with dark personalities and their victims, indicates ALL narcissists, psychopaths and Machiavellians are sadistic. They enjoy demeaning, disadvantaging, humiliating, destroying, hurting, and misleading others.

[Barbara Roberts @NotUnderBondage]

@karenmitchell__ What the heck is ‘everyday sadism’?

No ordinary people use that term. Sounds like an invention cooked up by some academic who wanted to appear clever and get cited in other academics’ papers.

[Barbara Roberts @NotUnderBondage]

Each of his eyes are controlling, but in different ways. Both are calculating, but one is colder, more sadistic, more dark/dead.
The asymmetrical eyes are held in calculated practiced balance with the subtle sneer of the asymmetrical mouth.

[Barbara Roberts @NotUnderBondage]

Dr Robert Hare developed the screening tool for psychopathy.

The PCL-R doesn’t look for control or sadism, so how can it possibly detect high-functioning psychopaths who have impulse control? It can’t!

Hare has misled the public. I don’t trust him.

[Dr Karen Mitchell PhD @karenmitchell__]

This is Dr Robert Hare, world expert on psychopaths.
He developed the Psychopathy Checklist in the 1980s and the PCL-R, a tool to diagnose psychopaths. The PCL –R is now the most commonly used tool in the world to assess psychopaths.
The tool though does not contain the attributes of “control” or “sadism”. This to me is unbelievable because these are the two biggest drivers of dark personalities or human predators!!
The PCL – R focuses on impulsive, violent criminal offenders yet Hare’s been trying for decades to have it applied in workplaces and family violence too. This is useless because it’s not nuanced enough. Retrofitting a tool developed from violent criminal offender prison populations onto higher functioning human predators that are CEOs, lawyers, doctors, academics, is never going to expose them.
Hare has dominated and manipulated the global landscape for research into dark personalities/human predators ever since he developed the PCL-R in the 1980s. He has gone as far as litigate against colleagues who tried to argue that it wasn’t an appropriate tool for higher functioning dark personalities!!
Those who follow me, what do you notice about Hare?