highly relevant in relationships, especially at the beginning. assume that your partner is impotent in knowing how you like to be communicated with and not that they’re trying to disrespect you. impotent till proven guilty. this right here will save you a potential life-long soulmate.
Lean into the Villain in you. Unless you’re a clinical sociopath, this is the best thing you could do for yourself. Your good side will have your back if you face morally difficult choices. But in general, you need less of that side and more of the evil one. That motherfucker has more grit. You need to stop overthinking everything and follow a rigid moral compass. It either aligns with what you believe in and with your best interests or it’s out of question. This is what creates real tunnel vision. Fuck your plan A and plan B. Those won’t work because they’re too complex. You need to operate on pure instinct and the only way to dial that is simplifying how you operate. The good guy in you wants to please everyone, that’s too many things to consider. You need to focus on yourself and what YOU need. And for that you need to do what others will call selfish, inconsiderate or even evil. You will be painted as the Villain anyway. So be it. Lean into it.