John Oakes

I help overweight people dismantle the root causes of their behavior so they can lose weight for good.

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Wounds don't go away, but they can heal, making us stronger than before.

Once it's been reknit together, and there's been care put into that specific weak place, we often have strengthened it.

#ptsd #ptsdrecovery #ptsdhealing #trauma #traumahealing #traumarecovery

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In living organisms, wounds want to heal. Pain takes us to the wounds we need to heal.

#ptsd #ptsdhealing #ptsdrecovery #trauma #traumahealing #traumarecovery

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Anybody who has success because of trauma also has failure because of trauma. So you sense you have huge potential, but there's all this inner stuff that's keeping you from reaching that potential.
And so the shame and frustration mount.
#ptsd #trauma #ptsdrecovery

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You built reactive structures inside of you to keep yourself safe. PTSD makes them go off all at once. This carves you up into little pieces and traps you inside yourself.

#ptsd #trauma #ptsdhealing #traumahealing #ptsdrecovery

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Behavioral "Flinching"

When we are wounded, we flinch subconsciously to avoid pain. For most people, their issues with smoking, drugs, alcohol, food, sex, working too hard, staying up too late are all forms of flinching.

#ptsd #trauma #ptsdrecovery #ptsdhealing #traumahealing

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When I have very dark thoughts, I've learned to turn toward them and feel the pain and sadness.

It's much easier to feel the pain of the wound than walk around trying to ignore it (and failing)

#emotionalpain #ptsd #ptsdhealing #ptsdrecovery #trauma #traumarecovery

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Healing Is Not a Simple Choice

If your leg's broken, you can't just say, "I choose healing" and watch it snap back into place. You need to acknowledge and accept that it's broken and that you need help.

#mentalillness #ptsd #ptsdrecovery #trauma #traumahealing

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If you locate what you're feeling in your body, it's never bigger than your body. It's always somewhere inside of your body. Which is why locating your feelings in your body is so helpful when you're dealing with anxiety, stress, panic

#ptsd #trauma #ptsdrecovery #healtrauma

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How the Hardest Days Can Speed Up Your Healing

Your inner world is built to keep you bouncing away from these core issues, b/c your mind doesn't want you to find and remove a system that is there ostensibly to keep you safe

#trauma #ptsd #traumahealing #ptsdhealing

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@paullevitin Hey Paul! Thanks so much man. Looks like you’re working in this arena as well. I know it’s not easy. Props to you. Look forward to connecting more

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When you think you're solving problems with your reactions, you're usually creating them.

There Is No Problem https://t.co/3CXHyHeK2F

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Everything about your inner world is built to keep you bouncing away from your core issues. Your mind doesn't want you to find and remove a system that is there ostensibly to keep you safe

#trauma #ptsd #ptsdrecovery #mentalhealth

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if something happened to you when you were a kid and your mind tried to adapt or compensate to make sure that that wouldn't happen again, or to keep you safe, every stage of your psychological development was impeded by this imperative

#weightloss #traumarecovery

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I'm a weight loss coach.
I help people process their trauma and dismantle the structures in the mind that we erect after traumatic events to make sure they never happen again. Those cause us to perceive and react to the world in non-logical ways
#weightloss

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If you want to lose weight, feel good and live well, what do you really need to know about the interplay between obesity, hormone balance and hunger signals?

My latest: Obesity, Hormones and Hunger
What you really need to know https://t.co/ynljJZhDmJ

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🤔 Do you fail at losing weight because you aren't giving enough effort? Or is it something else?

Hint: It's something else

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The Hidden Impact of Mental Health on Physical Wellbeing
I think that in the future, many of our medical mysteries will prove to have roots in trauma.
#trauma #ptsd

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The fastest way to lose the weight is to lose it once

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Being Goal-focused Is Keeping You Stuck.

Counterintuitive but true!

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My latest for the EASY WAY OUT 👇🏼
"Your Previous Efforts at Weight Loss Were All Doomed from the Start"