I will be 30 in a few days and I honestly think I am done with my fair share of romantic entanglements.
So I have decided that I might actually put my womb up for a very special kind of surrogacy.
I am looking for a man who wants children but is self aware enough to know that he isn't interested in, or isn't able to provide, the emotional and romantic companionship that comes with a conventional marriage.
Gay men who want to be fathers are welcome. So are men who know themselves well enough to say, I can be a good father, but I am probably not the man you should marry if what you need is a deeply emotional romantic partnership.
The financial arrangement I have in mind is ₦60 million ( if you offer me more, I go collect) throughout the pregnancy period, whether we are having one or two babies.
That arrangement would also cover the IVF process, appropriate genetic testing , embryo sex selection, as well as the cost of giving birth abroad.
My preferred options would be Canada, Brazil or Mexico, subject to medical advice, immigration requirements and whatever arrangements are legally possible at the time.
You are getting an intelligent, ambitious, financially independent and sexually responsible woman who has spent enough time building herself to understand what she wants from life.
I am well travelled, I care deeply about education and exposure, I value good manners and emotional intelligence, and I would raise our children with a lot of love without forgetting that children also need structure.
And yes, I am aware that I come with a certain amount of beauty and trophy wife aesthetics.
I also think our children would have a very interesting childhood because I am the type of mother who would rather expose them to the world than raise them believing that life begins and ends within the four walls of their house.
But the most important part of this arrangement is the father.
I am not looking for somebody to donate sperm and disappear, I want a present father.
If we bring children into this world together, I expect you to actually be a father from the moment they are born until they are adults.
I want someone who will know their personalities, attend their school events, be involved in their education, celebrate their birthdays, answer their calls, show up when things are difficult and remain present as they grow.
I am not interested in explaining to our children that their father loves them but is just not around.
There would also need to be a proper conversation about finances, parenting, residence, education, healthcare, decision-making, travel, boundaries and every other thing that two people bringing children into the world should reasonably discuss.
And yes, my lawyers are on standby for that conversation.
Everything would have to be properly discussed, medically supervised and legally documented.
This is probably the most unconventional thing I have ever posted and let me make something very clear before somebody misunderstands this arrangement: I am not asking anybody to be my lover.
There will be no expectation that we date, fall in love, move in together or pretend to be a couple for the sake of the children.
We would know exactly why we are coming together, agree on what our responsibilities are and maintain a healthy relationship as co-parents.
You don't have to desire me romantically to respect me as the mother of your children, and I don't have to be your lover to respect you as their father.
So there is a man somewhere who wants to be a father, knows himself well enough to know what he can and cannot offer romantically, wants to be fully present in his children's lives and is financially and emotionally prepared for the responsibility...
Well, my lawyers are waiting.
Here is my email: [email protected]
I will be 30 in a few days and I honestly think I am done with my fair share of romantic entanglements.
So I have decided that I might actually put my womb up for a very special kind of surrogacy.
I am looking for a man who wants children but is self aware enough to know that he isn't interested in, or isn't able to provide, the emotional and romantic companionship that comes with a conventional marriage.
Gay men who want to be fathers are welcome. So are men who know themselves well enough to say, I can be a good father, but I am probably not the man you should marry if what you need is a deeply emotional romantic partnership.
The financial arrangement I have in mind is ₦60 million ( if you offer me more, I go collect) throughout the pregnancy period, whether we are having one or two babies.
That arrangement would also cover the IVF process, appropriate genetic testing , embryo sex selection, as well as the cost of giving birth abroad.
My preferred options would be Canada, Brazil or Mexico, subject to medical advice, immigration requirements and whatever arrangements are legally possible at the time.
You are getting an intelligent, ambitious, financially independent and sexually responsible woman who has spent enough time building herself to understand what she wants from life.
I am well travelled, I care deeply about education and exposure, I value good manners and emotional intelligence, and I would raise our children with a lot of love without forgetting that children also need structure.
And yes, I am aware that I come with a certain amount of beauty and trophy wife aesthetics.
I also think our children would have a very interesting childhood because I am the type of mother who would rather expose them to the world than raise them believing that life begins and ends within the four walls of their house.
But the most important part of this arrangement is the father.
I am not looking for somebody to donate sperm and disappear, I want a present father.
If we bring children into this world together, I expect you to actually be a father from the moment they are born until they are adults.
I want someone who will know their personalities, attend their school events, be involved in their education, celebrate their birthdays, answer their calls, show up when things are difficult and remain present as they grow.
I am not interested in explaining to our children that their father loves them but is just not around.
There would also need to be a proper conversation about finances, parenting, residence, education, healthcare, decision-making, travel, boundaries and every other thing that two people bringing children into the world should reasonably discuss.
And yes, my lawyers are on standby for that conversation.
Everything would have to be properly discussed, medically supervised and legally documented.
This is probably the most unconventional thing I have ever posted and let me make something very clear before somebody misunderstands this arrangement: I am not asking anybody to be my lover.
There will be no expectation that we date, fall in love, move in together or pretend to be a couple for the sake of the children.
We would know exactly why we are coming together, agree on what our responsibilities are and maintain a healthy relationship as co-parents.
You don't have to desire me romantically to respect me as the mother of your children, and I don't have to be your lover to respect you as their father.
So there is a man somewhere who wants to be a father, knows himself well enough to know what he can and cannot offer romantically, wants to be fully present in his children's lives and is financially and emotionally prepared for the responsibility...
Well, my lawyers are waiting.
Here is my email: [email protected]
@Wizarab10 But it should be transactional.
What more can he offer ,if not money or possible connection.
The orgasm he wants to give can be gotten from a single younger guy.
@Wizarab10 Matching energy is a scam
I love you cos I love you - if you don't reciprocate then it's on you
Love is a verb! This is why it scares me when people move on from people in 2 days