Your life is going to spoil if you don’t learn to disappoint your parents early. And by that, I don’t mean becoming a nuisance to society or a disgrace to your family.
You must learn to rebel against your parents early in life. Let them know that you are a difficult child who doesn’t fold easily.
If you take every piece of advice your parents give you, especially if you come from a poor home, you might never make it out of the trenches.
African parents, especially, are not always open-minded. Many still think like it’s 2005. They are people pleasers who care more about what people will say than what you want or what will make you happy. Disappoint them early so they can bring you down from the pedestal they have placed you on. It will help you go far in life.
There are adults who cannot travel to another city in search of greener pastures because their parents are too strict.
There are adults, especially Christians, who cannot wear trousers, earrings, wigs, lip gloss, etc., because their parents still hold on to archaic beliefs that these things are sinful. They still hide to do things that make them happy simply because they have not broken free.
Heck, there are adults who still have curfews because they have controlling parents. And we both know this is not always about protection.
Have you ever wondered why, no matter how much their parents criticize the black sheep of the family, they often seem to have more freedom and even more opportunities to succeed? It’s because they have broken free. Their “Giran mentality” has helped them discover their own paths early in life.
Until you realize that your parents can unintentionally sabotage your life, you might never find the courage to rebel against their control. And if you don’t rebel and fight for your own life, you might never break free.
You are a human being with your own goals, dreams, and aspirations. You are not an extension of your parents, nor are you an experiment designed to correct their mistakes.
They will be disappointed in you. They will complain, criticize you, and call you names. But I promise you, they will adjust. They will get used to the new program, and they will be fine.
If by 23 years you are done with NYSC & have a 2/1 degree in any discipline, you don’t know what God has done for you.
This is an indication that you have at least 3/4 more years to bag a million naira + job in this same country, at that age, the fact that you got a 300k net somewhere already by 24 should never stop you “bombing” till 27 when you’d no longer be eligible for those very big entry level jobs (IOC especially)
Some of us are that unfortunate, and I envy you lots that are lucky in that regard.
I wrote JAMB four times and started University after I’ve celebrated my 20th birthday, by the time I was done with NYSC, I have already celebrated 27th and wasn’t qualified for any Graduate trainee roles.
Thank your stars & let that count for you, I don’t like seeing young brilliant chaps wasting away because of few rejections here & there, some of us are looking up to you, make us proud champs
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CCI is not the future RCCG
RCCG is going no where.
Years to come, CCI will be there, RCCG will still be there.
As Christians, we need to be mindful of the things we say or tweet.
@ibn_wittig This is my problem. I love nostalgia like madd!!! I live for the past! I reminisce about all my old coursemate and is so eager to meet them but gets disappointed when the feeling is not mutual. If I was your classmate, my best bet is that I’ll be the one to open that group
“If you see anybody, either on social media or anywhere, dragging a man of God, don’t put your mouth, except you’re sure he’s not of God.” — Apostle Emmanuel Iren
They told us to come to school today because @officialABAT and his people were coming to share laptops, money and bags to students.
I didn’t even need laptop.
I just wanted to help my sister get one because she’s about to resume.
So, I got there past 11am for a program that was supposed to start by 10.
Registration here and there. Eventually, the program started around 12.
Few minutes into the program, they announced that the “nominees” for the laptops should get ready.
Nominees???
You told us to come and receive laptops. Nobody told us there would be nominees. Nobody told us to submit anything.
Nobody told us we needed a school letterhead explaining why we needed a PC.
So who nominated who???
I just looked at my friend and said let’s go.
Later, I called someone who stayed behind to ask what happened.
They shared table water and rice.
TABLE WATER AND RICE. 😭
Now here’s the part that is actually annoying me.
They gave us jotters.
They gave us shirts.
They gave us caps.
They printed all sorts of things.
They spent money branding the whole event.
But the laptops they brought?
From what I could see on that table, it wasn’t even up to 50.
If all this money can be spent on shirts, caps, jotters, banners and all the other things we probably didn’t need.
Why not just buy more laptops???
I’m not even saying everybody must get a laptop.
But if you’re going to announce a student laptop distribution program and gather students in school, at least make the actual laptops the main event.
Because how did we go from: “Come and collect laptops”
to “Only nominees should come with a letterhead explaining why they need a laptop”