when Michelle said Barack has “stubborn optimism” I realized I also really want that in a partner. Somebody who isn’t moved by life’s shortcomings but ALWAYS sees the light at the end of the tunnel. That’s a true leader, not just of a country but a household. what a legacy.
If you are a guy, and your lover is a brilliant person, please listen to her opinions about people, especially people around you.
Ladies are super-aware of people, especially people around you and they pick cues you'd probably not notice.
It was definitely her idea not to entertain family for more than a week. If it was his own parent that died and his siblings needed a home to stay, the rule may not be revoked.
Rules like this is a blatant red flag. Only evil people make those rules. The silent part of the rule is usually "your family."
If you have a male friend that refused to reduce the rate at which he visits you after you marry your wife, to the extent that he doesn't mind passing the night..
He might be coming to visit your wife not you.
It’s a rude awakening to graduate from school where you are rewarded for memorization only to realize that the people who made the most friends are likely to be wealthier.
The most manipulative but effective thing I’ve ever done in my life was when I read an article about how children moderate their behavior to protect their self-identity, so if a child believes he’s smart, for example, he’ll intentionally study and try to do well to protect his image of himself.
Anyway, I would pull kids aside with behavioral issues at church and tell them, “David (obviously fake name), you’re such a kind person and such a good listener. I can see that in you. Thank you for always listening.” “Little Annie, thank you for taking such good care of the babies around you. You’re going to be such a good big sister. Can you be in charge of watching Sally?”
They would ALWAYS behave afterward. ALWAYS. Worked like a charm. Morally questionable because it wasn’t initially true, but I kind of willed it into existence. Tbf, I did think that they had that in them or I wouldn’t have tried.
Will publish longitudinal results of this method once my kid is old enough to report back.