Counselling Psychologists, Public Health practitioner, seasoned trainer, writer, trainer, teacher, Gender Advocate, administrator, and a mother in Israel.
Unconditional responsibility in parenting
: I have read time over time each time there is a separation or divorce between man and woman that men usually claim that the mother turned the heart of the children against the father. What is your opinion about it?.
There is this attitude people don't count in parenting - "responsibility shifting", this is when an unconcerned parent shift his/her responsibility to the person that care most, not minding the stress and pains of the other person.
It looks as if that boy was speaking from his little mind? But I am sure, he is playing the role of the father right from that age knowing the pains his young mother was going through taking care of him alone.
These are the type that comes around to say the mother poison the mind of the children, how? I watched a boy of 3yrs recently consoling his mother recently, when he noticed that she was crying, he said "mama please don't cry, I will buy a car for you" .
Some women have died, in the process of struggling to juggle jobs, business, trading etc in order to care for their children. Some are nurturing mental health issues while their partners are busy doing life around. The children are watching.
I think it important that all parties in the relationship should know that, there is not vacation in parenting, it is not acceptable to stylishly neglect responsibility to one party, it is evil to do so. It is lack of care and pure wickedness.
The unconcerned spouse don't know that no matter the age of the children, they can pick the unspoken words of care, concern and commitment to their wellbeing. They may be young, they are definitely aware of who cares for them through thick and thin periods