Make A Difference

Make A Difference: empowering people in need & positive world change. Do/Act vs. Talk

[Make A Difference @OneView01]

Your point is that we’re really no different than lions in the jungle. You’re basically saying human society should be like the lions where there are top males that mate with women and the other men just exist in a hierarchical structure catering to the lead men and their women.

Not sure how that would work. Probably would cause an uprising because humans have weapons beyond pure physical attributes.

And some portion of society, probably the majority, want to experience true and deep love, which is well beyond physical “Chad” attraction.

[Make A Difference @OneView01]

This should be easy to fix with AI and get to the truth. Dating apps need forget the left/right feature and give clear, honest representation of men/women that are your physical match.

The reason they won't do this is probably because no one would pay for the app - they would be horrified of her/his physical equivalents. But, at least it would start to give a dose of reality of where you stand in looks and begin to correct the delusions in your mind.

[Make A Difference @OneView01]

This is all subjective opinion and very far from the truth. Unfortunately, we now live in a "you can't say that" world, and some of us like you suck up for attention, rather than just being honest.

With AI, I would love to see dating apps that take your picture, then sort through eligible men and give women a realistic, truthful view of men that match. It should be simple to create this feature, but most women would get sick to their stomachs at the sight of their actual, objectively assessed physical matches on the dating app.

There should also be a "suck up" feature that posts like community notes. This post would be highlighted as the suck-up, disingenuous, trying to score points with political correctness note. Sucking up is worse than people who are on the other side, because you are providing a false narrative that distorts the reality of a situation and life.

[Make A Difference @OneView01]

I thought this disconnect between men and women was all hype. For generations, once we got past arranged marriages and being able to marry for love, men and women kind of knew, growing up, the attractiveness category they were in.

When did people become this delusional about how much better they looked compared to the rest? There is only one 7 in the back, and the rest are very average or below average in looks.

The reality is, you may get a drunk guy or a sexually motivated guy that's a 7+, six feet plus tall, with great career potential, and with an income of $ 150k+ to sleep with one or all of these women, but honestly, he's not going to be with any of them. Unless she has the most awesome personality in the world and is the kindest, most caring, and decent woman he's ever met.

After that guy has slept with them, these poor women think and set that male target for themselves. It's an unrealistic target, and people need to get back to reality and make a thorough, realistic assessment of themselves as a potential partner. Otherwise, they're destined to live an unhappy life, and even worse, make their future husbands they settle for miserable because they never got the guy whose only interest in them was a one-night stand or maybe a month or two purely sexual relationship.

The truth hurts sometimes, but that's the problem with the everyone gets a trophy society we created. Very sad for the future of humanity.

[Make A Difference @OneView01]

Kind of funny seeing all the women hating on this guy. Do the math? She's saving $ 24,000 per year after taxes by living with him. Can someone tell me how he's taking advantage of her? In less than two years, she'll have enough money to buy a home if the relationship ends. In her current $ 3,000 per month rent situation, she's most likely not saving anything for a home.

She needs to count her blessings. She's going to live with a guy she supposedly loves, cut her housing costs in 1/3rd, cut her 1-hour travel time to zero, and live a very nice lifesytle - probably with wonderful vacations she's never been able to afford. She's stepping up in every area of her life.

By the way, Moms also need to start charging their deadbeat sons rent to live in the basement. So, they learn to become responsible adults rather than stay children.

This isn't about not loving the person. This is about providing a hand up while not being taken advantage of. When you pay nothing to your loved one (even your Mom), you become an entitled person with a mindset that you deserve everything for free with no effort on your part. There's no free lunch in life, you should learn to thank and appreciate someone who's giving you lunch at prices others would die for.

[Make A Difference @OneView01]

Yeah, super red flag. I could see him asking to be the sole owner if he were making a 100% down payment and paying 100% of the monthly mortgage.

One of the responses was best, it should be 30/70 or whatever the actual contribution is to the down payment and the monthly mortgage.

My concern for you and this situation is that he is giving you nothing as his supposed significant other for your financial contribution. When he knows 1000% if he was making a partial investment in any other asset (like an apartment building) where he was involved with an investment group, he would never even think of telling his investment partners, "you put in $ 100,000, and I'll put in $ 300,000 for the down payment. You pay 30% of the monthly building costs, and I'll pay 70%. And, I will take 100% of the asset, and you get nothing."

How many investors do you think would take that deal?

I'd say, "Run, run like the wind from him" - because he provides less fairness to you than a regular person off the street. When people show you who they are, believe them. Good luck!

[Make A Difference @OneView01]

@sarahmccammon Too funny. I want to be there when moms start kicking their sons out of the basement so the unrelated younger guys they want sex can waltz in.

It's only a matter of time. You can only support so many, "so son you have to go : )". Sons, be careful, your days are numbered : )

[Make A Difference @OneView01]

The strangest thing I’ve noticed today is women using the word boyfriend so much. Women say things like they broke up with their boyfriend after two months.

That’s not a boyfriend. That’s a guy who used you for sex for two months. He was most likely above your level. And now you’re setting the bar of your future relationships based on this ex-boyfriend, who had no interest in you whatsoever.

Women should also now just apologize to men for shaming them for dating younger. You’ve always been the same way.

You’re so hateful of misogyny but have no issue with misandry now that it’s available to you. Time to get off your high horse and understand you’re just like every man you couldn’t stand for dating a younger woman.

[Make A Difference @OneView01]

Keywords are "last boyfriend." You have the same mindset as many men. Many men think younger women are attracted to them because of their knowledge, status, relationship skills, and maturity.

I think the difference is that many older men will marry younger women, thinking she actually loves him. They're too naive (to be kind) to think that all these younger women really want is financial upside and will often cheat with men they're actually physically interested in.

You have this same delusion in that you believe you have the same physical value and attraction as women in their twenties. You don't.

Most handsome young men are in it for some financial benefits and an easier life, until they find a woman they really want to be with. Young men haven't yet gotten to the point where they'll settle down and marry the golden goose.

Look in the mirror and truly understand that you're the same person as the 50-year-old guy looking for love with a 25-year-old woman. Basically, looking for love in all the wrong places.

[Make A Difference @OneView01]

This is actually funny. So, younger women dating older guys are gold diggers.

What do you think these guys are? Same thing, different gender.

If you take a positive position on older women dating younger guys, instead of shaming older guys for doing the same thing, you should be supporting them too.

Or is it not a two way street in your world?

[Make A Difference @OneView01]

Said differently, older men (Thirties/forties) who aren't married and are interested in a long-term relationship want a woman who isn't up against a wall to have kids.

So, these older men pursue women who aren't up against that wall. This gives them the ability to decide how many kids they would like to have, not constrained by the woman's age.

Younger, hotter men have no interest in a long-term relationship. They're enjoying their lives to the fullest, and the last thing they want is someone wanting to settle down. If you're ok with being another notch on his bedpost, go for it. He's glad to put you on his sex list with the hundred other women already there.

[Make A Difference @OneView01]

Well, for many young guys, it's better than living in the basement of your Mom's house. They get the same pampering Mom provides, sex, and don't feel bad about being a parasite and putting Mom in a financial position where she has to keep working/retire much later than she wants.

Why not sponge off someone else?

[Make A Difference @OneView01]

This has been going on for decades. I was never interested, but when I was in my early twenties, my friends would go to a late-night bar where women in their thirties and forties would hang out. Basically, if they struck out with younger women earlier in the night, they went to this bar to get attention and sex.

If you're ok with being a mutually consensual sex partner for these younger guys with a high sex drive, great. But don't fool yourself or be delusional about these guys actually being interested in a long-term relationship with you.

You're wasting your time, unless you're happy being with Mr. Right Now.

[Make A Difference @OneView01]

@BeBetterMan_ I don't care how much you spend on a watch. I had one friend show me his $160,000 watch, which Jerry Seinfeld also owns. I told him I don't care how much you paid for your watch. The coolest watch in the world is still Omega.

[Make A Difference @OneView01]

Well, this is very misleading because it's theoretical - his math works in a lab but is not based on reality. Only a clueless, privileged, wealthy person would make this kind of statement who has no connection to everyday people and current living conditions today.

You're as much of an arse as O'Leary for highlighting his stupidity. O'Leary should put his money where his mouth is and live for a year on a $ 69,000 income. Then show everyone how his BS ideas fared in the real world.

[Make A Difference @OneView01]

I don't understand the constant chicken little comments about tariff impact. There are financial organizations that are willing to pay 50% of the tariff costs/impact if the company assigns it tariff exposure over.

If RH spent $ 200 million in tariffs, they would get $ 100 million today with no risk. These financial organizations believe the current tariff costs will be fully reimbursed by the government, and that's why they're willing to make this offer.

If RH did that deal, they would have had $ 100 million in raw $ that would have gone directly to its 2025 bottom line.

[Make A Difference @OneView01]

Young people who travel to exclusive destinations, go to exclusive nightclubs, lease exotic cars, and pay $ 5,000+ per month for rent in NYC are living a millionaires lifestyle while pissing away money that can build wealth.

You see this with athletes, entertainers, … all the time that go broke, and their careers are over. The wannabes in the 5% trying to live the same lifestyle are even more pathetic, because you’re buying and doing things trying to act wealthy, when you’re not.

You’ll be in your forties very quickly only to realize how much money you pissed away chasing a dream that only exists for the .01%.

You’re very immature for your age and have no clue in understanding your financial capabilities and position right now. Stop being a wannabe and start building real wealth and financial independence. Otherwise you’ll be in retirement with few assets and relying on social security.

[Make A Difference @OneView01]

@NFL_DovKleiman Just a personal observation: if you see someone wearing sunglasses inside, there's a 99.99% that person is an ass. The .01% are people who are like Stevie Wonder, Ray Charles, ... This could even be a scientific fact.

[Make A Difference @OneView01]

Maybe you should join the Marines. You'll learn to be an hour early and learn how to deal with actual difficult situations.

Imagine a woman who would take it out on her husband because he expected her to be on time, and she got pissed off at him because she couldn't decide what outfit to wear. That husband is in for a life of misery.

If you get that angry over a wrong outfit, what are you like when things really go wrong? Marriage is hard, about compromise and going with the flow. You're not meant to be a wife or mother, certainly not without significant self-reflection and change. Maybe you should stop dating for now and take the time to learn to be a decent, caring, and adaptable person.

[Make A Difference @OneView01]

I have a friend who's a billionaire. Lives on the top two floors of a Park Avenue building. He has no idea how much milk costs, electricity costs... He pays for two car spots (I think he bought them) in his building, so no one can park next to him.

He doesn't pay after dinner at the top restaurants he frequents. Has no idea what the dinner cost is, doesn't calculate the tip... They just send his assistant the bill every month. Has Goldman and others as his wealth advisors.

So, you wouldn't date him because he can't calculate the tip, doesn't do math, and doesn't make even one investment on his own?