In a relationship, there's no such thing as 'that's just the way I am'. when you truly love someone you work on those toxic traits, you learn to communicate, you actively listen to each others thoughts & feelings – you adjust, grow & heal together.
Nobody talks about the HARD part of upgrading your life. The working 24/7, missing out on a lot, losing friends/relationships because you're too busy, always being tired, the wondering if you'll ever reach the goals you're trying to reach.