Read this: she messed up and she knows she messed up.
So her way of keeping you hooked while she keeps messing up is to trick you into thinking it's your fault.
If you think it's your fault you'd wanna reconcile and cut her some slack but NO! ITS NOT YOUR FAULT. SHE MESSED UP
Do not give dogs what is holy; and do not throw your pearls before swine, lest they trample them under foot and turn to attack you.
(Jesus Christ, Matthew 7:6)