Part of being a domme is knowing when to stop!
Sub drops aren't as common in online domination, but that doesn't mean they don't happen. A sub drop is when a sub experiences an emotional and physical crash after intensive power exchanges, leading to sudden feelings of depression, anxiety, sadness, and exhaustion.
One of the most difficult parts of doing this online is that I cannot be there to assess the body language and expressions of my subs! This means that, during prolonged and intense play, sub drops can and DO happen. And when they do, it’s my responsibility to pause, step back, and encourage the sub to take care of themselves - because I can’t wrap them in a warm blanket or make them a comforting drink afterward.
Unfortunately, I see far too many so-called “dommes” online engaging in unsafe practices that would NEVER be acceptable in-person. They encourage sub drops, push past clearly stated boundaries, or crank up intensity purely for a higher payout. They focus on short-term profit instead of long-term trust and the well-being of the subs relying on them.
This is why it’s so important for dommes to understand safe practices and the emotional realities of power exchange. Yes, most of us are dealing with full-grown men who should be able to say no, communicate clearly, and uphold their own boundaries. But power dynamics affect people differently, and even confident adults become more vulnerable when they submit. As dommes, we hold the responsibility to recognize that vulnerability, honor it, and create a space that is both thrilling AND safe!
It's good that it HURTS so much to get kicked in the balls.
Female dominance should be taken seriously. It's not a joke. It's a way of looking at life.