I was in line at the bookstore & the guy behind me was talking shit about every woman in line "her boobs are out..." "those leggings are tight" "she's looking like a hooker" so I whispered "the guy behind us is looking at people's boobs" and my aunt faces the guy & says "this guy is looking at women's boobs??"…every woman in line looked at him with disgust, he got embarrassed and left... BRING BACK PUBLIC SHAMING!
The most ruthless truth you need to face today is that you are rapidly aging out of the window where people will tolerate your lack of emotional intelligence just because you're young, attractive, or "figuring it out." In your early twenties, people will coddle your poor communication, your silent treatments, and your habit of pulling away when things get hard. They excuse it as you being "mysterious" or just going through a phase.
But the older you get, that exact same behavior stops being quirky and starts making you a massive liability. High-value people, whether that’s romantic partners, good friends, or mentors, do not have the time or the desire to decipher your moods, chase you when you ghost, or teach you basic accountability. They won't fight with you or try to "fix" you; they will just quietly distance themselves. You aren't "outgrowing" everyone; people are just no longer willing to grade your immaturity on a curve.