Pasha Agoes, Ph.D.

Father. Educator. Always learning.

[Dr. Glenn Patrick Doyle @DrDoyleSays]

Something may or may not be "worth" getting upset over-- but that evaluation happens in the front of your brain. You're getting fired (or f*cked) up from the middle of your brain.

It takes breathing & evocative mental imagery & physiological soothing to dial down, not a lecture.

[Dr. Glenn Patrick Doyle @DrDoyleSays]

I don't think of trauma recovery as just changing how we think & feel & behave-- I think of it as training ourselves.

We were trained & conditioned by bullies & abusers once upon a time. Now we're shaping ourselves to be authentic & effective in a life WE choose.

[Pasha Agoes, Ph.D. @PashaAgoes]

Tru dat

[diva @divaagurlxw]

I fucking love people who become more themselves with age. Stranger taste. Clearer boundaries. Louder laugh. Less interest in impressing random people. Watching somebody slowly stop auditioning for the world is fucking beautiful.

[Dr. Nicole LePera @Theholisticpsyc]

The ultimate green flag in someone:
1. Able to acknowledge their role in any situation
2. Believes life can be created on their own terms
3. Resilient (can recover from stress)
4. Can deal with disappointment
5. Doesn't put others down when embarrassed

[TK | The Development Journal @TKRok9]

@bluewmist Most of us take ourselves too seriously.

A little looseness is okay.

[blue @bluewmist]

my therapist told me:
"if you're an anxious person, do everything for fun. go to a job interview for fun. exercise for fun. start a blog for fun. anxiety feeds on importance. don't treat everything like a life-or-death situation."
and then it all made sense.

[Dr. Glenn Patrick Doyle @DrDoyleSays]

You could be utterly awesome as a person, completely amazing at everything, & you STILL wouldn't be valued by people who are invested in keeping you small & vulnerable. Not your fault.

Trying to gain their acceptance & approval is a huge, unnecessary waste of energy & focus.

[Dr. Nicole LePera @Theholisticpsyc]

8. No one has it figured out.

Not therapists, not your boss, and not your parents. We're all works in progress. We all messy parts. And we're all doing everything we can to be loved and accepted. Don't fall into the trap of believing you're lost or behind.

[Dr. Nicole LePera @Theholisticpsyc]

7. Walk anytime you're overwhelmed or need to make a difficult decision:

Walking helps us process memories and turns on the logical part of our brain. Research shows walking has "equal effectiveness" to SSRIs for moderate depression.

[Dr. Nicole LePera @Theholisticpsyc]

6. You're not supposed to be happy all the time:

Emotions have been medicalized. Normal human emotions are now being called psychiatric disorders. Suffering and sadness aren't signs you're broken, they're signs you can still feel and experience life.

[Dr. Nicole LePera @Theholisticpsyc]

1. If you are in a toxic relationship or workplace, you're going to be depressed:

Depression is not a disease. It's a natural response to dysfunctional dynamics. Your body is trying to protect you by going into a shut down (freeze) state.

[Dr. Nicole LePera @Theholisticpsyc]

2. Your gut matters:

Anxiety and digestion issues are deeply connected. Eat as well as you can. Your gut and brain are in constant communication with each other and your gut microbes impacts almost all of your neurotransmitters.

[Dr. Nicole LePera @Theholisticpsyc]

3. Sunlight heals:

Getting into the sun every day matters. Vitamin D receptors in brain help regulate the production of serotonin. Just 15-20 minutes will make a major difference in how you feel and process emotion.

[Dr. Nicole LePera @Theholisticpsyc]

4. Start your day with protein:

Protein in the morning helps you stabilize your blood sugar levels. Low blood sugar makes it difficult to regulate your emotions. When you feel irritated or overwhelmed, protein can help you calm down.

[Dr. Nicole LePera @Theholisticpsyc]

5. Your past does not matter:

Take a deep breath and forgive your past self. The only way to step into a new future is to understand the past is only part of your story and you can make new choices every single day.

[Dr. Nicole LePera @Theholisticpsyc]

Every marriage improves when you stop asking "what can I do to help?" and start saying "here's what I did to help, it's done."

Completing a task without asking questions is one of the highest forms of consideration.

[Pasha Agoes, Ph.D. @PashaAgoes]

@susipudjiastuti You cannot buy class, nor education. Hence, kalo ngga ada itu = norak.

[shobhanai @HeyShobhan]

A billionaire sat in a room for 42 minutes and listed every psychological trick that makes people lose money. for free. the finance industry has spent thirty years pretending this recording does not exist.

he didn't sell a course. he didn't write a newsletter. he sat in a chair at 96 years old and explained why brilliant people do the dumbest things with their money. then he explained why they will keep doing it.

MBA programs charge $200,000 to teach behavioral finance. he covered 25 biases in one sitting. some of them are still not in any curriculum. he gave the entire framework away on camera.

the part nobody talks about: he called crypto antisocial. he said index funds will crush most managers. he said private equity is full of wretched excess. he said all of this in a room full of people who manage money for a living. nobody argued.

a hedge fund analyst at a top firm told me this is the first thing they send to anyone who joins the desk. not a book. not a model. a 42-minute video of a 96-year-old man explaining why you will be wrong and how to recognize it before it costs you everything.

40 million people have heard his name. almost none of them have watched him explain the 25 ways their own brain is working against them.

the lecture is free. he died the following year. it is in the video.

[MindArch @mindarchx]

A dead MIT professor accidentally destroyed the $25 billion executive coaching industry with one hour of lecture, and ten million people have already watched him do it.

He filmed it once in January 2018 and died eighteen months later.

Executive coaches charge sixteen thousand dollars a session to teach a third of what he covered in that one hour for free.

His name was Patrick Winston. He ran the MIT Artificial Intelligence Laboratory from 1972 to 1997 and wrote the AI textbook every computer science major in the world read for thirty years.

Every January for four decades, he gave a lecture called "How to Speak."

His entire framework fits on a napkin.

Do not read. Be in the image. Keep images simple. Eliminate clutter. Start with an empathetic connection. End with a punch line the audience can repeat over dinner. Never open with a joke. Never end with "thank you."

That last rule alone has probably cost the executive coaching industry a hundred million dollars.

"Your success in life will be determined largely by your ability to speak, your ability to write, and the quality of your ideas. In that order."

That is the actual opening line of the lecture. Winston believed it strongly enough to spend fifty years teaching computer scientists how to talk.

Founders spend $80,000 on an MBA and then hire a communications coach to teach them the same material Winston filmed once for free. Engineers write brilliant code and lose promotions to teammates who watched this lecture on the train.

The lecture is free on MIT OpenCourseWare. The textbook is free on his page.

Winston died in 2019. Almost none of the ten million viewers have actually implemented the four rules on the napkin.

The napkin is free. The willingness to actually use it in your next meeting is the entire edge.

The answer is in this video. Don't miss this gem.

[Marshall Mathers @Eminem]

I'm sorry we never got a chance to meet, but getting this note from Dolly really had a an impact on me. She definitely didn't have to take the time to do it. Even for a kid who mostly listened to rap music, she was an icon. A superstar in every sense. Rest easy Dolly. And thank you for the kind words.