Damilola Adegboye

Men have stories they rarely tell. Heartbreak, fatherhood, healing & rebuilding. Anonymous confessions. Honest conversations. 🖤

[Damilola Adegboye @PastThePleading]

Welcome to PastThePleading. 🖤

Some men loved deeply and lost themselves trying to save a relationship.

Some became fathers in relationships that didn’t survive.

Some are still hurting. Others are quietly rebuilding.

This is a space for the stories men rarely tell.

[Dear Son. @DearS_o_n]

A man can provide for 10 years straight, hit rock bottom for 6 months, and watch people forget everything he did.

[Dear Son. @DearS_o_n]

You're about to see a crazy flow of money in November. Dear son, Affirm this now.

[Àgbà John Doe @jon_d_doe]

A man who chooses a woman, gives her his name, and takes full responsibility for her and the children she bears him is not paying for a service.

He is building a home, a family with the support of his wife.

Provision in that house is duty and honour, not a receipt.

And it serves as his shield.

The one who turns every act of care into a transaction is describing her own trade, not marriage.

Not every woman is for sale.

Some are for a covenant; marriage.

[GanaJnr @FinePopo]

I have so much to say regarding this video, but let me keep shut…

[Foundational Nupe Lawyer @egi_nupe]

I have noticed a lot of people here enjoy and engage my law related posts more. I think I should just focus on that only. From this moment😎

[Damilola Adegboye @PastThePleading]

@DearS_o_n You no quick talk ooo

[Àgbà John Doe (back up) @jon_d_doee]

Hidden lines...Silent strength! You don't need big chambers in your house like a grave... Most people only notice when the sh!t is no more going, Few ever see the trench that keeps it moving...
This is the quiet craft that holds everything together. No shortcuts,
Just clean runs, tight joints, and work that will never ask for big space in your compound...Choose CHAMBERLESS, Choose prosperity, Choose FORTY7️⃣FLOW🌊!

[💘💞 @Kauthar0001]

I love LOVE.

[Damilola Adegboye @PastThePleading]

I had my first school daughter in SS3…

It’s just basically coming through for them academically, and standing up for them in times of need.

Ko ju be lo

She was so sweet, she got me my first ever gift.. I think a chocolate and letter.

I’m still looking for her…

[budu @budu_11]

What’s behind the “School father and school daughter stuff” that people are not telling us?

[Damilola Adegboye @PastThePleading]

A lot…

Lol.

[UGO @icparklins]

You would think it’s play-play. Tech nation had a 91% rejection rate this year.

[Damilola Adegboye @PastThePleading]

Egbon, do lawyers still hold on to the belief in love and marriage after witnessing and handling cases like these every day?

This is something I’ve genuinely wanted to ask you for a while, Sir. I’d love to…. 🙏🏽

[Foundational Nupe Lawyer @egi_nupe]

In court now witnessing a proceeding. They got married in 1998 and they are in court to dissolve it. 🥱

[Foundational Nupe Lawyer @egi_nupe]

In court now witnessing a proceeding. They got married in 1998 and they are in court to dissolve it. 🥱

[💘💞 @Kauthar0001]

It's not mood swing.
You just started overthinking because you realized how broke you are.

[Damilola Adegboye @PastThePleading]

@Flohairs Beauty looks good on you!

I love your bio

[Alabama @Flohairs]

Tomorrow don reach 🥹🤧😭❤️🥰, the end of an era.

[Fabrizio Romano @FabrizioRomano]

🚨🇧🇷 Xabi Alonso on Estevão: “I understand his situation and he could be happier for sure, he wants to play…”.

“I’m sure Estevão will have his moments, that’s my responsibility, we were quite forced with the subs in the end”.

[💘💞 @Kauthar0001]

Octobag una 😒

[Damilola Adegboye @PastThePleading]

@jon_d_doe He was my pastor in Abuja guys 😂😆

A very funny dancer too

[Damilola Adegboye @PastThePleading]

@jon_d_doe That mistake will cost him his Life!

With someone below his age is a very funny crazy insult… Nah, that ego needs to be checked properly

[Àgbà John Doe @jon_d_doe]

A 23-year-old woman (married at 20, three years ago) messaged seeking advice after her husband discovered she had gone back to her unmarried 26-year-old ex.

They have a son together, but the child is currently with her alone. She described feeling neglected in the marriage; he was often “busy,” there were frequent misunderstandings, and admitted the affair damaged his trust.

He blocked her on WhatsApp, told her to contact him only about their son, and later said he didn’t want to see her again even after she asked permission to visit.

She says she still loves him, regrets the decision, takes responsibility, and wants to work on herself and possibly try counseling if he ever agrees.

She also disclosed she was raped at 17 by someone else, and her parents are disappointed and ashamed.

In the exchange that followed, she confirmed she is not a graduate (they met while she was learning a skill).

The conversation as it happened:

Àgbà: How old are you?

Her: 23 sir

Àgbà: How old is the marriage?

Her: 3 yrs sir

Àgbà: How old is your husband?

Her: 30 yrs

Àgbà: So he married you when you were 20? Were you a student then? Or are you still a student?

Her: No we meet each other when I was learning a skill

Àgbà: So you're not graduate, correct?

Her: Yes

Àgbà: Is this your ex that you went to cheat with your first? I mean, is he the one that deflowered you?

Her: No his not the one I was raped sir

Àgbà: Raped by who and at what age?

Her: At the age of 17 sir the person was disturbing me then

Àgbà: Okay
What are your parents saying?

Her: They are very disappointed and ashamed of me sir

Àgbà: As expected
How did he find out?

Her: Through my phone
He saw our conversation

Àgbà: How old is your ex? And is he married?

Her: His 26 yrs and is not married

Àgbà: Okay
Unfortunately, your marriage may be over. Who is your son with?

Her: He is with me

Àgbà: Okay
Both of you should plan to coparent in peace. But as for your marriage, it's over. You're still young, and I hope you learn from this. No one can force your estranged husband to take you back. Cheating consequences are not the same for a man and a woman when it gets exposed.

Àgbà: I don't know when you started following me, but I have been warning you young women about this. And reminding you that your worst enemy is your feelings. You allowed it get a hold of you and lost yourself in the process. Now you husband has kicked you out.

Her: Thank you for your advice sir I really appreciate it

What would you have told her?

End.