Patrick Weichelt 📯

Schweigen ist Gold

[femiiiiii. @femiiiszn]

being single is so awesome because i can do whatever i want (nothing), go see whomever i want (no one), and go out whenever i want (never).

[MAJOR @Squeeze1i]

I think a lot of autistic/ADHD people grow up feeling unloved because nobody teaches us that we're missing the positive social cues too.

Half the time we don't realize people want us around.
And by the time we do, we've already convinced ourselves they don't.

[Vivian @suchnerve]

Hate how the whole “I’m an empath” thing has made it so difficult to talk about actually being very good at reading emotions, specifically because knowing how people are feeling is not that helpful when you don’t know WHY they’re feeling that way, which is a whole separate skill.

[𝓲𝓬𝓮 @be_like_ice]

Autistic people are often criticised for reading too much into things and catastrophising. People don't want to listen despite our predictions being pretty accurate thanks to our pattern recognition abilities. I think the real issue is we often highlight what others want hidden.

[yvl @yvltopshoota]

racism is a sign of low intelligence

[ً @artfuIchaos]

I actually love the concept that the right person won’t be intimidated by your depth, standards or boundaries. they’ll meet you there.

[No Nonsense Neurodivergent @NoNonsenseND]

"Autistic rigid thinking" is really just "things have to make sense before we change our minds"

[Vivian @suchnerve]

60s misogyny at least had a pretense of caring about us, like “We’re denying you rights for your own good” (🙄)… while 2000s misogyny was so unreservedly venomous, it was like “You worthless subhuman bitches should be grateful we even let you starve yourselves into fuckability!”

[daz @MetamateDaz]

boomers are slowly discovering that despite their best efforts to froce millennials and Gen Z to "respect your elders" actually we do not see them as wise and respectable but instead as evil, greedy and stupid

[𝓲𝓬𝓮 @be_like_ice]

The neurodivergent paradox: won't message first, won't answer calls, avoids eye contact... but if you speak to them? Suddenly the funniest, most passionate person in the room. We're just waiting for a safe space to switch on.

[tomie tang uwu @tomiethetang]

usually if ppl have few/no friends it’s bc they struggle w/ social skills, depression, or have a busy schedule. none of those are moral failings. however I find it consistent that highly manipulative & selfish ppl are often charismatic & have huge friend groups who enable them

[Vivian @suchnerve]

@ “You should get better at reading people”

If you wanna use me: If you’ve perceived my disbelief that other people like me as low self-worth, then you’ve got a gap in your people skills - it’s actually trust issues. *I* know I’m great; I don’t trust *other people* to see it.

[𝓐 ⭑ @ayojoestar]

every neurodivergent eventually arrives at the same MIND FUCK realization, that there was never really anything wrong with you, the suffering was an illusion, and there’s actually a lot to love about you

[jude ⚢ @dollyhitsuji]

The whole "friendless losers are such for a reason" is people doing revisionism of their own school life lol, usually some of the worst people had the biggest friend groups because all these "friends" do is enable each other

[No Nonsense Neurodivergent @NoNonsenseND]

It's always ambiguous.

Like I get the sense it may be happening, but I'm not 100% sure so my brain classifies it as "not flirting unless otherwise confirmed"

[Vivian @suchnerve]

Nobody tells you exclusion wounds make you unintentionally callous toward others’ positive feelings about you since you’ve never learned to believe on an intuitive level that a person might actually be hurt by your absence or lack of affection. Example: ghosting like it’s nothing

[. @kitschmusik]

developing these skills has very little to do with dating tbh. like people (friends, family, etc.) are going to reject you or break your heart even if you're single your whole life, and dealing with it is mostly about developing a strong sense of self. which can be done

[☺︎ @shelleddiva]

it’s not even just as a red flag, i don’t think the average allistic or neurotypical person will ever truly be accepting of autistic or neurodivergent people as a significant other. too inconveniencing and without a willingness for curiosity or patience, they can’t handle it.

[𝓐 ⭑ @ayojoestar]

Dating while neurodivergent means you're not just looking for someone you like.
You're looking for someone who doesn't make you mask.

[ame˙⋆✮ @v3lvetbunni]

the intimacy of “I barely know your world, but something in me wants to understand every corner of it”