I am a faithful follower... But If you don't follow back, I unfollow after 24 hours... 😁😂😁😀 it's nothing personal, don't just try to out smart me, let's grow together.
26 days.
No politics. No distractions.
Children and teachers remain in captivity. Families remain in pain.
This is not acceptable. Bring them home. Now.
#WhereAreThey#BringThemHome#EndKidnappings
Men, some of you are too "practical" to have a peaceful marriage, you need the wisdom from 1 Peter 3:7.
Whenever a woman is talking to you, you quickly proffer solutions meanwhile what she needs(first) is a listening ear, empathy, you see men share problems for solution but women share for connection (solution can come later)
As long as you see her like that you will constantly think of discarding and disconnecting from her…
She is one with you, it's a small mental shift but it has a big effect, she's the only one you have made a vow to, not your mother or daughter.
Guys you might argue with this but your woman is not a part of your life but the priority, not a liability but an asset, not a project but a partner, she's not to be beneath you but beside you.
GENERALLY SPEAKING...
You would think Pentecostals, who are so big on the charismata and personal 'experiences' would be the proud bunch. Surprisingly, they usually come across more like "I speak in tongues. You could, and you should too." They believe everyone can and should 'do tongues.' They don't normally posture like "I am better than you because I speak in tongues", even if they feel it is better to speak in tongues than not to. They generally want to include you in their club, instead of looking down on you for being an outsider.
It is the Calvinist/Reformed folks who usually carry a superiority complex, and maybe because upstairs, they are saturated with preserved, curated, systematized theological data. They are the ones generally looking down on the "theologically poor and ignorant" Pentecostals. Strange, isn't it?
There are exceptions, of course, so this is generally speaking.
when someone says or thinks im crazy for following Jesus honestly i can’t even get that upset because i used to think the exact same way.
i thought everyone who believed in Jesus were annoying brainwashed bigots.
but God showed me the truth and i have ate all of my past words.
I am leaving Christianity…🙁🙁🙁🙁
Yes, you heard me right. I’ve been wrestling with this for a long time, and today I’m finally letting it out.
I am leaving Christianity because of the following “serious” issues:
I can’t even live my old life in peace anymore. Christianity has ruined it completely.
Anytime I try to tell a simple, innocent lie, the Holy Spirit starts convicting me. Next thing you know, I’m confessing like someone under investigation.
Why is the Holy Spirit always trying to guide me to the right path when all I want is to misbehave in peace?
Why did God become a man to take the punishment I deserve? Who told Him to love me that much?
Why did God humble Himself lower than an angel just because of me? What’s my business? Am I not allowed to stay useless in peace?
Why is God so consistent with His message that He left no loophole for me to find fault? At least make small mistake so I can argue!
Why did Jesus live a sinless life and then tell us to be like Him when I can’t even go 24 hours without sinning? How is that fair?
Why does God want me to love my enemies when I’m still struggling to love myself?
Why did Jesus say “turn the other cheek” when what I really want is to return slap with interest?
Why is God offering me eternal life for free just by believing in Christ? Why can’t I really hard for it? Why so generous?
Why does Christianity want me to stop gossiping and living a hypocritical life when that was literally my talent?
Christianity has made me understand love too much. Now I’m here loving everybody like a malfunctioning robot, help!
It even stripped me of my pride. I used to be proudly proud for no reason. Now I’m humble like someone applying for visa.
Honestly, Christianity must be false, because it has taken away all the nonsense I enjoyed and replaced it with peace, joy, and salvation that I didn’t even work for.
So yes… after deep reflection,
I am officially leaving Christianity… to become a TRUE Christian.
It was December 2023. We were in the family parlor in the East. You know the setting, crates of warm Malt, garden eggs, and heavy humidity.
The agenda was simple: Chidi’s Wedding.
Chidi is my cousin. He is 34. He has no job. He lives in the family house.
But Chidi wanted a "Shutdown" wedding. He released a budget of N5.7 Million.
Uncle Obi, the head of the meeting, cleared his throat. He didn't even look at the other cousins. He looked straight at me.
with that smile elders use when they want to bill you.
Uncle Obi: "Chizitere, Nne, look at you. You are glowing. God has buttered your bread in the city. You see, your brother Chidi is ready to settle down. We have calculated everything. The budget is N5.7m. We the elders will raise N500k. We are looking at our daughter, the star of the family, to cover the rest. the hall, food, and drinks. It is small for you."
I sat there, freezing. "The rest? As in N5.2 million?"
The room went quiet. Everyone looked at me, smiling, waiting for me to say "No problem, send the account number."
I adjusted my glasses. I looked at Chidi. He was pressing his phone, looking unbothered, like it was his birthright.
I cleared my throat.
Me: "Uncle, wait o. Before I speak... how much is Chidi contributing? He is the groom."
Uncle Obi: (Frowning) "Ah, Asa, you know the situation of the country. Chidi is still finding his feet. That is why we are family. We must cover his nakedness."
That was the moment I chose violence. I dropped the Unpopular Opinion.
Me: "Uncle, I will not give a dime. If Chidi has no job and no savings, he has no business doing a wedding of N5.7 million. Let him go to the registry, sign the paper, and go home. I will not finance a luxury party for a man who cannot afford to buy pampers for the child he is about to make."
Boom.
The scene was exactly like that picture. The swords came out.
My Aunty slammed her hand on the table.
Aunty Ngozi: "Look at you! You are a Biomedical Engineer! Do you know what that means? It is one of the biggest occupations in the world! You drive a big car! You work in a big Teaching Hospital! What is N5.7 million to you? It is chicken change! Do you want your brother to do a small wedding so his mates will laugh at us?"
Chidi: (Finally speaking up) "Asa, I am disappointed. I thought we were blood. You want to disgrace me? You want my mates to laugh at me?"
Uncle Obi: "You are wicked! A stingy girl! You will rot with that your money! If you don't help him, who will?"
They gaslighted me for 2 hours. They called me "Arrogant." They said the city had corrupted me.
I stood my ground. I didn't drop one Kobo.
They gathered the money from themselves. Uncle Obi sold a plot of land. Aunty Ngozi borrowed from a loan shark. They threw the wedding. It was the talk of the town. I didn’t attend the weeding, i traveled back to Benin.
Fast forward to last week.
I received a call. It was Uncle Obi. His voice was no longer loud; it was trembling.
Uncle Obi: "Asa... Nne... are you busy? We have a crisis. Chidi's wife is in labor. Complications. The hospital is asking for deposit. And... the landlord has locked their door because of 1½ year rent. Please, shame is trying to kill us. Can you send something?"
I took a deep breath.
Me: "Uncle, but you people spent N5.7 million on Jollof rice and DJ just a year ago. Where is the 'Glory' of that wedding? Can the wedding gown pay the rent now?"
He was silent. The phone cut.
The Unpopular Opinion that got me attacked?
"Poverty should be quiet."
We have a toxic culture where we shame people for not funding the reckless lifestyle of family members. We call it "Support," but it is actually "Enabling"
I am still the "Wicked Cousin" in their eyes.
But I am a Wicked Cousin with my savings intact, while the "Good Family Members" are still broke.
Sometimes, you have to let them point the swords at you, so you don't use your own money to buy the knife they will use to stab you later.
Today, I found this beautiful verse: “I have heard your prayer, I have seen your tears, surely I will heal you.” 2 Kings 20:5.
If you believe God will heal you, please say Amen.
Some are being triggered by #TheHerd on @NetflixNaija for showing our current reality?
The same terrorist attacks I witnessed first hand on my way to Gembu, Taraba during NYSC?
Abeg if you’re part of the few that have sense pls help me RT this poster for everyone to see it! 👀
“Justice Needed for My 2-Year-Old Daughter Sexually Assaulted at Abundant Life Academy, Gwarinpa, Abuja”-Mother Whose Daughter Was Molested By a Man Teacher Speaks.
“My 2-Year-Old Daughter Was Molested By A Male Staff Member At Abundant Life Academy, Gwarinpa, Abuja. After I Reported The Case To The Police, The School Offered Me ₦500,000 To “Settle” And Keep Quiet. I Rejected The Money Because I Want Justice, Not Hush Money. Instead Of Facing Consequences, The Perpetrator Has Been Released. Now The School Is Using The Same Nigerian Police I Reported To, To Intimidate And Threaten Me Because I Refuse To Back Down. My Little Girl Deserves Justice. This School Must Be Held Accountable. The Suspect Must Be Rearrested And Properly Prosecuted. Please Help Me Amplify This. No Child Should Go Through This. No Parent Should Be Silenced For Seeking Justice.”@Jossy_Dannyking @BenHundeyin
Not that this will accomplish anything, since you people hit the "off" switch inside your brains once your religion is mentioned, but for the benefit of the roughly 9 teachable people left in Nigerja, here is what is REALLY happening around you:
1. China is winning the economic war with the US, and the US is aware that it can no longer compete industrially with China, which is already a larger economy than the US in PPP terms. The only reason the US economy is still nominally larger is that the US dollar remains wildly overvalued due to its use as the global reserve currency.
2. The rise of BRICS means that the end of the US dollar as global reserve currency is coming. Once that happens, the US economy will implode, because it is built on exporting USD and importing the world's productivity. Without the overvalued USD as an imperial tool for controlling and extracting from the rest of the planet, the US will basically become Brazil with nuclear warheads.
3. The Trump administration knows this, which is why it has gone into full imperial mode, renaming the DoD to "Department of War," and preparing to deploy the US military across Latin America as part of its 'Monroe Doctrine.' The idea is to secure land, resources, and spheres of influence to compete with China and Russia, since it is no longer the unilateral superpower.
4. In this new multipolar world whose birth you are witnessing, there will be 3 or 4 great powers instead of just one, and all of them will compete and jostle for influence and access to resources. That is what you are witnessing playing out in Nepal, Bangladesh, the Sahel, the Middle East, Venezuela, and many other places. Yes, there are local factors, but everything exists in this wider context of a world being reshaped in front of our eyes.
5. During this reshaping of the world, Africa - the only continent with a majority of its states professing 'nonalignment' with any great power - is the biggest prize that is up for grabs. All of tomorrow's technology, which guarantees economic and military supremacy is built on resources found in DR Congo, Northern Nigeria, Mali, Niger, Burkina Faso, Chad, Sudan and Somalia. (What unique security situation do all these places have in common?)
6.During this reshaping, "international institutions" are debased and made irrelevant. Bibi Netanyahu has an ICC arrest warrant that nobody will honour, and the US government sanctioned the ICC for issuing the warrant, even locking the ICC Chief Prosecutor out of his email and bank accounts. The UN has officially declared Gaza to be a genocide - and nothing happened. And nothing will happen because these "institutions" no longer have of the teeth they once pretended to have.
7. This means that the days of one state cooking up a reason to invade or annex another state - something expressly forbidden since 1945 - are now back. And since Africa has what everybody wants, any great power is now free to deploy a geopolitical meme ("Christian Genocide in Nigeria") and use it to justify invasion to take what it wants. In other words, colonialism is coming back - not IMF/World Bank, suit-wearing, conference-attending, Business-English-speaking, polite neo-colonialism, but open, obvious colonial theft and thuggery. This is not decades away - it is a few years away at the most.
8. Russia considers Europe to be its rightful sphere of influence and trade dominance. Hence it views European access to cheap African resources as a threat. Thus Russia is stepping in to provide military and infrastructure support for African states so that they can start to use their own resources for themselves and leave Europe dependent on Russia. Europe and the US see this as an existential threat, hence their proxy war in Ukraine and their new geopolitical meme ("Christian Genocide in Nigeria") to justify direct military occupation of West Africa.
9. No great power gives a single fuck about "Nigerian Christian genocide." All you are is a means to an end!
Joseph of Arimathea took down a corpse.
Hands still sticky with blood.
Skin already cold.
Touched death. Held it. Wrapped it.
Became ceremonially unclean for Passover.
For a dead man.
Here's what most Christians miss about the burial of Jesus:
Joseph was a wealthy man. A member of the Sanhedrin. A respected Jew.
And Passover was 3 hours away.
The holiest day of the year.
But he climbed Golgotha anyway.
Jewish law was clear:
Touch a dead body = unclean for 7 days.
Can't worship. Can't celebrate. Can't enter the temple.
Joseph knew this.
He'd spent his entire life following these laws.
But Jesus was still hanging on that cross.
Picture it:
The crowds are gone. The soldiers drunk. The women weeping.
Joseph approaches Pilate—the man who just murdered his Lord—and asks permission.
"Can I have the body?"
Pilate grants it.
Now Joseph has to actually DO it.
He walks to Golgotha.
Blood-soaked dirt. The smell of death. Three crosses against the sky.
Jesus in the middle.
Still.
Finally still.
Joseph climbs the ladder.
Grabs the first nail.
Pulls.
Feel the weight of that moment.
God's body in your arms.
The blood isn't dry yet.
It stains his expensive robes.
His hands.
Under his fingernails.
He can taste the iron in the air.
This is what obedience looks like.
Messy. Expensive. Permanent.
Nicodemus shows up.
Another secret disciple. Another Sanhedrin member.
He brings 75 pounds of myrrh and aloes.
That's about $150,000 worth of burial spices in today's money.
Two wealthy men. Two cowards until now.
Finally brave when it's already too late.
They work fast.
Sabbath is coming. They have maybe 3 hours.
Wrap the body. Pour the spices. Seal the tomb.
The sun is setting.
Joseph is now officially unclean.
Can't celebrate Passover tomorrow.
Can't enter the temple for a week.
Think about what he just gave up:
His ceremonial purity.
His Passover celebration.
His reputation (everyone saw him bury a "blasphemer").
His position (the Sanhedrin won't forget this).
His safety (Romans might come for disciples next).
All for a dead man.
But here's what most Christians miss:
Joseph didn't do this expecting resurrection.
He did it expecting NOTHING.
Jesus was dead. Gone. Finished.
This wasn't faith in resurrection.
This was love for a corpse.
That's the part that wrecks me.
Joseph touched death—literally—knowing it meant giving up everything.
Not because Jesus promised him anything.
But because Jesus deserved honor even in death.
Modern Christianity wants clean obedience.
Safe obedience.
Obedience that doesn't cost you Passover.
But Joseph shows us something different:
True discipleship gets your hands dirty.
You want to follow Jesus?
Then stop avoiding the messy parts.
Stop waiting for clean opportunities.
Stop demanding that obedience be convenient.
Joseph climbed Golgotha when everyone else went home.
He wrapped a corpse when he could've stayed clean.
He missed the holiest day of his life to honor a dead "criminal."
He risked everything when there was no visible reward.
That's not religion.
That's worship.
The twist?
Three days later, that tomb was empty.
Joseph gave his grave to Jesus.
Jesus left it empty.
Forever.
Joseph thought he was burying God.
He was actually setting the stage for resurrection.
Your messy obedience?
God's using it too.
Even when you can't see it.
So here's the question:
What are you avoiding because it's too messy?
What obedience are you postponing because it's inconvenient?
What grave are you unwilling to give?
Joseph of Arimathea held death in his arms.
Got blood on his hands.
Missed Passover.
Lost his reputation.
And earned his name in all four Gospels.
Religion says "stay clean."
Discipleship says "get dirty."
Joseph chose discipleship.
What are you choosing?
—TBM