benerdette sheila

Young, Gifted & Black

[benerdette sheila @PearlsandLoaf]

Prayer will get you in, get you out & get you through!

[Farhiya ✨ @farhiiiyaaa___]

To do list:
1. Wake up
2. #REJECTFINANCEBILL2024
3. Be a bad girl and serve 4 terms

[benerdette sheila @PearlsandLoaf]

Dear, Gentle reader…

Season 3 is here 🤍

[benerdette sheila @PearlsandLoaf]

@abumburu 🔥

[benerdette sheila @PearlsandLoaf]

@cherrrotich 😂😂😂😂 clearly it’s happened to many of us

[benerdette sheila @PearlsandLoaf]

@cherrrotich Aki for real 😂😂😂😂 this changing phones business is not it! 😂😂😂
(Also you’re in my private business 😭🌚)

[stargirl✨ @lilywanjiee]

I&M to the world😭 nimefanya all those tansactions with zero transaction cost

[benerdette sheila @PearlsandLoaf]

😂😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣🤣

[fifi❤️ @RefilweSeboko]

Before I make a baby,Why do you guys break up after having a baby?🥺

[benerdette sheila @PearlsandLoaf]

@abumburu 😂 why you always dragging me?

[benerdette sheila @PearlsandLoaf]

Whew what a week!

[benerdette sheila @PearlsandLoaf]

Yeah this going back to the gym thing is giving “no pain, no gain” a lot of meaning.

[benerdette sheila @PearlsandLoaf]

Let life happen. ✨

[benerdette sheila @PearlsandLoaf]

@abumburu Music to my ears!

[benerdette sheila @PearlsandLoaf]

I want to get back into the routine of visiting African countries - and lately I’ve just been so fascinated by Mozambique. My research is so detailed man! And Senegal is next on the list!

[benerdette sheila @PearlsandLoaf]

And she just said - her brand was not built on REST!
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Gosh this has given this season that I’m in so much meaning.
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Glad I saw it right before Monday!

[benerdette sheila @PearlsandLoaf]

Hayet said it! Emotional prep is the best prep!

[benerdette sheila @PearlsandLoaf]

@abumburu Abu

Is my teaser video about ready 😀😀😀😀😀😀🌚🌚🌚🌚🌚

[benerdette sheila @PearlsandLoaf]

@AngelaMukora @LeonKiarieN Screaming Congratulations 🎈🍾🎉

[benerdette sheila @PearlsandLoaf]

@NkiroteMutisya 😂😂😂😂
Let’s not bring that here

[benerdette sheila @PearlsandLoaf]

@NkiroteMutisya lol 😭😂 ebu try and report back

[Okong' Okuna @XivTroy]

Fundamentalism. Especially in the educated, middle-class circles. Dating was once a curiosity-driven, gracious affair. Now it is a trauma-informed, rigid vetting system. You don't get the benefit of the doubt. No clean slates. No grace: just caution.

And we can't agree to disagree anymore. It is my way or your way. Anything else is toxic. And if you are the patient one who's keen on finding a middle-ground - that it's not me versus you, but us versus the problem - you'll be called manipulative.

Being the good one gets you punished; simply because, for them, a good relationship is them always getting their way. And when you are too good, when you are too patient, then you are after his/her money. Or weak. When you put your foot down, you are too controlling.

It must always be happy too - the relationship. Pleasing and perfect at all times. Anything else is a sign: that means the relationship is not working out. So we don't try at all to make things work. We just ship out at the 1st inconvenience.

We lack individuality as we have been groupies all our lives. When we come face to face with individuality, it feels like an attack on us. You could be as loving as a pet, as dotting as a painter's brushstroke, as patient as a saint in meditation, but she/he will still judge you on the preconceived notions she/he had about your kind.

So you are not just dating them anymore; you are dating their friends too - both offline and online friends. Navigating dating traumas - that you did not cause - and have nothing to do with you as a couple.

Too much power struggle; very little camaraderie.