@omgsidewalks Me,everyday. I get surprised when a debit order goes off for a streaming app and check on the TV and yep,I got that app but never watch.😭
We get caught up in the romance, the designer clothes, their good looks, etc we tend to forget that a mother lost a child, kids lost their father and families grieved for Nandipha to continue to live the soft life she coveted.
Lest we forget that the man she did all those crimes for was also a convicted murderer.
We must not forget.
Let’s help one person start 2026 with a bang. This is a law graduate, currently working at Mug & Bean, seeking an opportunity to serve articles as a candidate attorney. Please share, the right employer might just be scrolling your timeline.
Raising kids goes beyond just financial commitment. It’s even beyond the emotional and psychological aspects. It requires a lot of sacrifice, especially the sacrifice of availability.
I can’t count the number of times I’ve had to reschedule plans because of my kids. At some point, all my annual leave became childcare leave. Even in Nigeria, raising children isn’t what it was 20 years ago. Life is faster, demands are heavier, and support systems are thinner.
After witnessing my wife go through labour and the toll it took on her, I was genuinely content with one child. I had seen enough. She had to convince me for us to have a second, largely because I couldn’t reconcile what she went through the first time with the idea of repeating it.
And as my children grow, I’m constantly discovering layers of parenting I didn’t even know existed. The questions, the emotions, the need for presence. Not just being around, but being available mentally, emotionally, physically.
Parenting isn’t about how many children you can afford financially. They are people not commodities. It lies a lot on how much of yourself you can give without resentment. Because children don’t just need provision; they need presence. And every additional child stretches that resource even further.
Parenting is not a competition or a badge of honour. It’s a daily decision to show up, to sacrifice comfort, time, and sometimes ambition, for human beings who didn’t ask to be here but depend on you completely.
And until someone understands that weight, they may never truly grasp what it means to raise a child. I want to be able to say I gave my all in raising my kids not just making up the numbers in society.
The Metros & Municipalities are crippled by deliberate employment of illiterate, incompetent & corrupt people like Julius Mkhwanazi. Otherwise the country has a potential to eradicate most socio-economic issues(unemployment, infrastructure, etc..). #MadlangaCommission