I believe all lives matter. However…
What was done to Iryna Zarutska was beyond heartbreaking. Afterwards, the savage who stabbed her said “I got that white bitch.” Also, while she was bleeding out, the people around her did nothing.
What was done to Henry Nowak was legitimate injustice. The cops were way more afraid to be seen as racist than they were to enforce the law.
Besides, wearing this shirt would piss off the right people, so I think it’s funny.
Reason I don’t wear a Black Lives Matter shirt is because no one wearing that shirt would give a rat’s ass if my black conservatarian ass died. Speaks to a larger problem than just “black lives.”
i don’t think most people can be fully prepared for the extreme edge cases of parenting and it is unreasonable to demand that people only become parents if they’re capable of dealing with these extremes.
i once read a story about a family with a psychopathic elementary schooler. they had to put a lock on the kid’s room to use at night bc she was caught attempting to murder both of her younger siblings. i do not feel prepared to have a child who attempts to murder my other children.
i knew a family growing up who had a severely disabled son. once he reached puberty he became bigger than both of his parents and they could no longer take care of him bc he would flail around and hit them. i don’t feel prepared to take care of a person who has the same body movements as my infant, but is 6’2” and 220lbs.
it is reasonable for parents to say “sorry we know that we can’t deal with a severely disabled kid, and don’t feel comfortable signing our other kids up for that responsibility after we die, and in our worldview an abortion at 11 weeks is sad but acceptable.”
@fw_naetoblaq The fastest way i fall asleep is not touching my phone and going into my own little world. I seem to fall asleep fastest if im thinking of a fox running through the woods.
@suchnerve I learned recently theres like hydrating gummies ir candies for the elderly? If they can do that, there gotta be a way to get all your nutrition from one source
A college student with ADHD once explained why their essays end up filled with so many parentheses:
“Neurotypical people think in straight lines. My brain thinks in a giant web where every single concept is physically holding hands with twelve other concepts.”
In other words, their thoughts don’t unfold in a neat, step-by-step sequence. Instead, one idea immediately triggers several related ideas at once. While writing, it can feel impossible to ignore those connections because they all feel relevant and important, even if they branch off from the main point. Parentheses become a way to temporarily “park” those side thoughts without losing them.
So the essay ends up reflecting the actual structure of their thinking: layered, branching, and constantly interlinked. What looks messy on the page is really an attempt to capture a mind that doesn’t move in a straight line, but in a network where everything is connected to everything else.
I've sat on this for a while but there's a uniquely female element to this, especially regarding how women talk about women's issues and I'm not quite sure how to convey this accurately.
Its like when they talk about not using the bathroom alone or being afraid to walk at night - both of which they blame on men - and frame it as an inherently female experience. Those are just two examples.
But as a woman, I have never had those experiences. I don't feel like I'm constantly scanning for threats or afraid of men I don't know. I'm not actively choosing not to be either, I just don't think that way.
I think there's a real issue with women who are high in neuroticism dominating conversations about female experiences, and if you try to challenge this, they call you a pick me - because they have no theory of mind for someone not being performative but genuinely being less neurotic.
I'm not sure how to fix this issue. I don't want these women speaking for me.
@MeghanEMurphy I dont think we should normalize not wanting to sleep with your husband so much that you feel relieved by essentially killing your marriage by forcing a dead bedroom through attrition. Communication should be normalized and encouraged, not whatever bs this is.
@douwuata My main tip that works for me personally is shoes and dont sit down. If i got my shoes on like im gonna go somewhere, my chances of doing things are significantly higher, and once i sit i tend to loose will so i gotta keep moving or doing something