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THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR BEING SO SUPPORTIVE AND HELPING ME GET MY FIRST EVER SUIT!! 🥹 my childhood dream came true!!
as promised i took pics to show u! i dont have a tie yet, i’ll buy one soon💀
(now watch me be too pussy to ever use this outside)
You’ve seen the meme of the guy eating soup in pouring rain. It’s a joke about acceptance. The joke is real. Scientists at Harvard and MIT proved it on a brain scan in 2017. A Roman philosopher who started life as a slave figured it out in 125 AD.
In the study, 21 women with severe anxiety went into a brain scanner. Researchers read out their personal worries and gave three different instructions: keep worrying, push it away, or just accept it. Worrying lit up the brain’s panic button, the same area that flashes when a snake crosses your path. Acceptance was the surprise. The panic button quieted. A different region took over, the part that handles tough choices, with a much stronger line of communication to the alarm system. The brain stopped wrestling with itself.
A Roman philosopher named Epictetus, who started life as a slave, opens his handbook around 125 AD with the same point. Some things are up to you, he writes. Most are not. Your judgments belong on the first list. Your body, your reputation, the weather, what other people do, all go on the second. Mix the two up and you suffer. Sort them out and almost nothing can hurt you.
Not accepting has real costs. When you can’t stop replaying a worry, a specific brain region fires harder than it should. A study combining 14 brain scans of 286 people found this pattern is one of the most reliable markers of depression. The body pays too. A 2026 study tracked more than 205,000 UK adults and found those with the most long-term stress damage were over twice as likely to develop heart disease. Stress hormones also chew away at the part of your brain you need to manage stress in the first place.
In 1967, Martin Seligman and Steven Maier shocked dogs that couldn’t escape. Later, in a box where escape was easy, the dogs didn’t try. The textbook called this “learned helplessness.” In 2016, Seligman and Maier published a paper saying they’d had it backward. Giving up is the default, hardwired by an old deep brain region. What animals learn, when they learn anything, is the opposite. They learn that what they do can change things. Helplessness is the starting state. Agency is the achievement.
Now look at the guy with the soup. He’s seen the rain, worked out he can’t argue with it, and decided to keep eating. This is the scarce skill.
Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, developed by Steven Hayes in the 1980s, has been tested in more than 325 randomized clinical trials. It teaches people to act on what they can change and stop wrestling with what they can’t. The American Psychological Association lists it as a well-supported treatment for chronic pain.
Two thousand years apart, a Roman handbook and a Boston brain scanner are finding the same answer. The rain keeps doing what rain does. You keep eating.
Mi marido hace poco me dijo algo que realmente se quedó grabado.
Me dijo: "No estoy aquí para controlarte. No soy tu padre, soy tu pareja. Eres libre de tomar tus propias decisiones. Solo entiende que cada elección tiene consecuencias. Si eliges algo que dañe lo que hemos construido, eso es por tu cuenta".
Él dijo: "Siempre te diré cuando algo me duele o cruza un límite, porque así es como se ve la comunicación saludable. Pero si sigues cruzando la línea después de que te haya mostrado dónde está, entonces nunca nos estabas protegiendo realmente para empezar".
Y honestamente, así es como suena la responsabilidad en una relación.