Again, you have a right to be mad. I just want to call to attention that we should be centering Black disabled voices in this discussion. Especially since it’s leading to antiblack comments. Someone made a statement that most aave terms are ableist which simply isn’t true.
Practice object permanence. Not just with inanimate objects. But with relationships and people as well! Though you may not see or have them right in front of you, they are in fact still there.