What They Don’t Tell You About Being a Survivor

What They Don’t Tell You About Being a Survivor, is a podcast about life after trauma. Listen on Podbean, Spotify, Apple, Amazon, and Castbox.

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Nearly 70% of the mass shootings in the US have a domestic violence connection. A victim of domestic violence is 400 times more likely to be killed when there is a gun involved. @lisabgeller from @JHU_CGVS host this episode on DV and mass shootings.

https://t.co/N3lkIsOZs3

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@PViaterLawyer Thank you for sharing this.

[Philip Viater @PViaterLawyer]

4 part chain: 1. When is a haircut not just a haircut in family court? Common abuser tactic is to cut a child’s long hair, without discussion or informing the primary parent. Child just returns back, usually after a weekend, to primary caregiver with short hair…

[Natalie Page @NataliePage]

When a mother is accused of 'alienation' after reporting domestic abuse, it puts huge pressure on her to be nice about her abuser.
Question the behaviour? Can't do it.
Report continuing abuse? It will be looked at as further evidence of alienation. It incapacitates safeguarding.

[karen unrue @KarenUnrue]

I HOPE THESE WORDS ENCOURAGE YOU IN WHATEVER YOURE EXPERIENCING TODAY 😊

[Emma - Fighting 4 Justice 💜 @DA_Survivor_]

A question for those who have suffered domestic abuse & are in/ have been through #FamilyCourt -

What do you wish you had known before entering family court? #WishIHadKnown

For me, I wish I had been more prepared - #WishIHadKnown to speak to other mums & receive advice first...

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If we say we want victims to leave, it's time we start supporting them. When people lose everything in a natural disaster they receive help. Why do we ignore victims of abuse who leave a storm that is hurting them--and often chases them.

[Andrew Thomas Cicchetti, Ph.D. (Cis, He/Him) @AndrewCicchett1]

The hidden financial burden of being a domestic abuse victim include leaving everything behind and starting over from scratch. They should have to pay for that.

[Dr Emma Katz @DrEmmaKatz]

This 👇

As bad as this is, it doesn't even mention that if her abuser takes her to family court when she leaves, it's likely he will get lots of unsupervised times with the kids during which he's likely to continue to subject the kids to his abusive behaviour.

[D @danielle2u]

State Bill to Keep Children Safe From Family Violence in Custody Battles Passes First Hurdle

Zoe (age. 10) who testified she was traumatized at a "reunification camp" told her mother afterward that testifying was the best thing she had done in her life. https://t.co/scEUq19aHz

[Dr Emma Katz @DrEmmaKatz]

Abusers do so much to damage victims'-survivors' lives.

We as societies should be throwing resources at victims-survivors to undo some of that harm.

Cash grants, safe housing, debt written off etc.

That would take away a big chunk of abusers' power.

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@JennaForJustice @danielle2u Thank you!

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Domestic Violence & Child Custody - VAWA Kayden’s Law: How We Created It and What States Can Do Now To Protect Children | What They Don‘t Tell You About Being a Survivor featuring ⁦@danielle2u⁩ https://t.co/2V8gBxuk3H

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New episode #podcast #LifeAfterTrauma https://t.co/3JD9NUnmB8 on #Podbean

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#MMIW #healing #BringHerHome

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Great point! We need to focus on prevention through working with boys, men, and masculine folks. Intimate partner violence is a guys issue, fem folks seldom use violence against a partner.

[Dr Emma Katz @DrEmmaKatz]

I wonder what percentage of teenage boys would hit their girlfriend once then try to persuade her to give him more chances? I think that is the more important statistic to focus on.

[Dr Emma Katz @DrEmmaKatz]

In the US, federally-funded research into family court cases found in about 1 in 7 cases (14%) where courts were convinced that the father had perpetrated domestic violence against the mother, courts took custody from the mother and gave it to the father.
https://t.co/79vyoTeepi

[Dr Emma Katz @DrEmmaKatz]

Please sign and share.

This mother has had her children taken from her in highly unfair circumstances. I'm aware of the details of this case and it's appalling.

[Dr Emma Katz @DrEmmaKatz]

Coercively controlling abusers often call their victim 'controlling'.

What's this all about?

Coercively controlling abusers have a huge sense of entitlement. They think that if the victim isn't complying with them 100% of the time, they are 'controlling' them.

[Dr Emma Katz @DrEmmaKatz]

Read my latest Decoding Coercive Control blog

The Myth That Coercive and Controlling Domestic Abusers Can Be Adequate Parents

Part 2 of Explaining Coercive Control to People Who Don't Quite Get It: A Series

https://t.co/ELjzX88D54

[Surviving Economic Abuse @SEAresource]

The post-separation abuse amendment has finally come into force. This is a vital step forward in protecting victim-survivors from ongoing abuse and controlling behaviours. If you want to know how this change may affect you, check out our FAQ resource https://t.co/hlmuvR9Si7

[D @danielle2u]

If you’re feeling disheartened about #familycourt #domesticabuse #childabuse take heart that the collective work of so many of us is bringing about tangible system change @nfvlcgwu @UNSRVAW @safe_parents
Here’s a great summary of recent accomplishments written up by @custodypeace

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R. Gardner came up with parental alienation. One of many questions I have is: What kind of person would use something from a guy that also thought sexual activities between adult and child are “ancient tradition” and other concerning beliefs?
#cancelRichardGardner

[Andrew Thomas Cicchetti, Ph.D. (Cis, He/Him) @AndrewCicchett1]

TW:
In his own words, R. Gardner (1992): sexual activities between an adult and child are ancient tradition....

#ParentalAlienation
#TheRichardGardnerProblem
#FamilyCourt
cc @jessphillips @SheraFamily @danielle2u