Imagine if he had invested that N300k plus other monies he had been giving to her at just 24. By the time he gets to 30, with careful financial planning and discipline, he would be prepared to be a husband and father.
Let me repeat:
Your girlfriend is supposed to invest in you and make sacrifices for you, while you invest and sacrifice for the future of both of you.
But lack of patience and foresight and the love for toto is taking a huge toll on you young men.
And greed has taken a toll on you young girls.
A young man who is just starting life deserves to be in a relationship. It's how he would find his future wife and the mother of his future children.
It's not a period for him to waste scarce resources.
It's a period of vetting, cohabiting, helping each other, and living a prudent or frugal life..
Then he starts to build his life brick by brick while you, the girlfriend, support him, while he also leads you towards the right path and in line with your future goals and aspirations.
Stop all these transactional relationships you people are doing..
They're unhealthy, and they create unnecessary entitlement, lack of focus and misplaced priorities.
You should have sex if you want.
But sex should not be sold in your relationship.
He would always spend on you, but it should not be seen as a compensation for sex.
How will he spend on you?
1. When you go on dates.
2. When you cohabit with him from time to time.
3. When he wants to get you gifts.
4. Then occasionally dash you money.
Not him paying for your rent.
Not him buying expensive phones, hairs, shoes, bags etc.
Not him paying for your school fees.
And certainly not him buying you sanitary pads or feeding your family.
And all his earnings must be legitimate.
This is what young people in relationships should practice.
Contentment, discipline, and reasonable financial planning and future ambitions.
By the time you keep at it, you'd be building a healthy relationship and setting the proper foundations for your future, and possibly, marriage.
You would have earned your place, and be proud of yourselves.
Make no mistakes; you will definitely make mistakes.
You'll fight, quarrel, and even curse at each other.
It doesn't have to lead to breakups.
As long as no red lines are crossed.
Use each fight, quarrel, or misunderstanding as a teaching moment.
Where you have to apologize, do so.
Where you have to be accountable, do so.
Where you have to be transparent, do so.
This is my gospel for you all, this beautiful wet morning.
End.
Many of you young men have taken the privilege of having me on this app for granted.
You don't have sense when it comes to dealing with women.
And it's quite unfortunate that many of you do not have close relationships with your fathers.
You cannot be a happy man in life if you do not find a good wife and a good mother for your children.
And whether you like it or not, all these young girls that you're misleading, would be your future wives.
I come here every day, using myself as example to illustrate how you should lead women and treat them, but may be you think I am lying or deceiving you.
If you think that all these young girls that you're sleeping with, will not get married, you're joking.
They'll repackage themselves for other men.
And others that you didn't sleep with, will repackage themselves for you.
And then you'll see the wife that you married.
You can't escape it.
You keep spending money on young women like you're married to them, and making them used to a lifestyle that is not sustainable, and makes them prone to cheating, should such lifestyle stop coming.
Even if you marry a virgin, it's the same.
I pity you people ooo.
If your father (when he was dating your mother) treated your mother the way you treat your girlfriends today, most of you would not have good mothers.
And to make things worse, many of you are criminals or sympathetic to criminals.
When young men steal, young women will become prostitutes.
End.
Stop giving away your attention freely, stare at that phone call & just let it ring out if there aren’t any important things to discuss
Stop giving away your attention for free.
Don’t be that guy they call for gist, you might not see it as anything but the disrespect will come
June is going to bless us
June will be our best month so far this year
June will not be the end of us
June will be a profitable month
June will be a blessing
Happy new month 🗓️