I would hate to look back one day and discover that I spent my youth waiting for my life to begin, you know. I am at one of those points where I’d like to feel more of my life as I am living it. Maybe for a while now I’ve felt far away from myself, but I would find myself again.
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Congratulations to our incredible Flamingos on winning the FIFA U-17 Women's World Cup! What a remarkable achievement! What a moment of pride for Nigeria! 🇳🇬❤️
Our girls came, fought, and conquered! The future is bright! Formidable indeed! 💚🤍💚🏆🎉
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My name is Emmanuela Amen Eze, a Nigerian international student at Missouri University of Science and Technology, USA.
I am humbly appealing for financial assistance after losing my PhD research advisor and graduate funding.
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MY ADMISSION WAS DEFERRED, BUT MY DREAM WASN’T CANCELLED.
January 2027 is another chance to make Southampton happen.
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Assumpta Emmanuel Idaka
People aren't just TIRED. They're grieving the lives they thought they'd be living by now while trying to survive a reality that keeps moving the finish line.
As a Christian, a sexual purity advocate, and a feminist, one question I often get is what I think about purity culture and the objectification of women.
I began to question how that message was taught, particularly to women.
For a long time, there was language that treated women who were not virgins as damaged, less valuable, or somehow morally inferior. That thinking is deeply problematic. Purity culture, as it has often been practised, is deeply sexist, placing enormous scrutiny and expectations on women while placing no comparable burden on men.
That brings me to my biggest issue with the purity culture many of us inherited: sexual purity was treated almost like a female assignment. Every seminar, every warning, every instruction seemed to be for girls.
I kept wondering: Where were the boys?
If sexual purity is a biblical standard, why were girls being trained to manage both their own sexuality and men's sexuality?
Why was a woman’s clothing blamed for a man’s lack of self-control? Why were women expected to prevent men's sexual sins? And in its ugliest form, why did this thinking sometimes lead people to ask what a woman was wearing after she had been sexually assaulted?
That is where purity culture becomes not only sexist, but objectifying.
I still advocate for sexual purity as a Christian. I believe Christians are called to honour God with our bodies, and I believe abstinence until marriage is a Christian conviction that I uphold.
What I reject is a version of purity culture that measures a woman’s worth by her virginity, shames people for their past, excuses male behaviour, or makes women responsible for men's thoughts and actions. I reject a purity culture that places its gaze almost entirely on women. I vehemently reject the idea that women should carry the burden of sexual morality for both sexes.
Teach the girls sexual purity. Teach the boys too. Teach both self-control. Teach both consent. Teach both accountability.
Sexual purity should be a Christian responsibility, not a female burden.
One of the ugliest truths about life is, every choice we make kills another version of ourselves. Get married, and you'll eventually miss the freedom you had alone. Stay single, and there will be nights when you wonder what it would've been like to build a life with someone. Have children, and you'll miss parts of the life you never had before them. Don't have children, and you may spend years wondering about the family you never created.
There is no perfect path and there is no decision that leaves you with everything.
The life you didn't choose will always look better from a distance because you never had to pay its price.
Stop searching for a choice you won't regret, it doesn't exist. choose your life, accept what it costs, and live with the consequences.
I am no longer afraid of things falling apart. I have seen what happens after the worst of it. The sun still rises, people still laugh, new things still begin, and one day, you find yourself happy about something you once thought you would never recover from.
"No one can tell which cigarette, in many years of smoking, started the cancer. Or the very conversation that changed our lives. Or the exact gesture that caused us to fall in love. It’s the thing about tipping points; you wake up one day and life has changed. You’re happier, your next meal is promised. You finally happened to life..."
Destiny Ogedengbe.
Look around, you can be surrounded by people that you talk with and still live an extraordinarily lonely life. Loneliness is not entirely the lack of people in close proximity, but the absence of someone with whom your existence is meaningfully entangled.
We created gyms because modern day work no longer required physical activity. Without exercise, our muscles atrophy.
I predict we’ll need gyms for our brains too, once AI starts doing our knowledge work.