My man told me something the other day that lowkey rearranged my brain a little.
He said, “I’m not here to control you. I’m not your father, I’m your partner. You’re grown, you can make whatever choices you want. Just know every choice comes with consequences. If you pick something that hurts what we built, that decision belongs to you.”
Then he goes, “I’m always gonna tell you when something hurts me or crosses a boundary, because that’s how real communication works. But if I show you where the line is and you keep stepping over it, then you’re not protecting us… you’re just choosing yourself.”
And yeah… that’s when it clicked for me. Accountability in a relationship isn’t yelling, rules, or control. It’s someone giving you freedom and trusting you to care enough not to misuse it.
With all the knowledge and experience I have now, if I was single and searching these are the kind of ladies I would avoid ⛔️ ⚠️
1) An Idle woman, I will avoid any lady that is jobless, idle and also refuse to learn a skill, she just wears make-up, takes pictures and scrolls on social media everyday
@fwlaroiski When a tree grows alone in the field, its branches may stretch wide, but it will have no other trees to lean on when the wind blows. Such a person is like a river that flows without tributaries; his story is deep but without many voices to echo his name.