Astro

Software Engineer | Frontend Developer

[Oku @oku_yungx]

No matter how much you sugarcoat it, it is not your duty to train a woman in the name of relationship when her father is actively alive.

[Foundational Nupe Lawyer @egi_nupe]

Yes, but it was entirely her own thing. The only thing I did was to use my platform to promote her business and sell her book, just like she does for mine. I did not “make her” or “build her” as if she’s my project. Whatever it is she must have achieved is a product of her education (kudos to her parents), hardwork, consistency and idea.

[Sir Dickson @Wizarab10]

I want to agree in part and disagree in part.

Firstly, whether she is a good woman or not, is beside the point. If you choose someone, you have a responsibility to them to love and to cherish.

The whole point of relationship/marriage is to do life together. This means that everything we have and everything we are, is for our mutual benefit and for the benefit of this relationship/family. Worthy of note is that, it is the responsibility of a father to give their child good education. I'm putting myself in the position of a child and the position of a father - the answer is the same. It is whom you are, that you bring to the relationship to invest in your partner and the relationship.

It is dangerous to teach women that they should go into relationships looking for a man to sponsor their life. It is dangerous to teach men that they have a responsibility to train women in school. It is dangerous to tell parents that their daughters would be trained by the man who chooses to date them. Unintentionally, you are pushing for the ownership of women because when someone lives with the mentality that he has to carry all your responsibility and improve your life, he develops the mindset that he owns you, because you're not doing anything for him.

The advice you give to young boys are meant to be given to parents. Let us encourage responsible parenting. The whole point of relationship is to love, not to parent. Young men are already under a lot of financial pressure. Parenting is a live time responsibility. You don't retire from it.

Having said that, I'm always conscious of privilege. Not every parent has the financial capacity to train their kids to the highest level. If you willingly choose to date someone, you have a responsibility to them to love and to cherish, and that includes investing in their growth. If you choose an uneducated, partly educated, 1st degree holder, you can make the best investment that improves your partner and the overall wellbeing of the home because when your partner wins, you win. The major problem with that tweet is that, even by omission, we are teaching women that it is not their responsibility to invest in men. Woman also have a responsibility to invest in their man's growth and to do regular shopping for them. You can't tell the man to invest in his woman's education be suse he will benefit from it, while not telling women the same thing. Will the woman not benefit from investing in her man?

To love is to GIVE love and to RECEIVE love. Please love by GIVING and TAKING.
- Chimamanda Adichie

We need to teach NIGERIAN women to love and to give, because most relationships are already one sided and unrequited. That is not love.

[Ben X @Benn_X1]

When you have children, please be involved in their lives.
Even though they are still 9 years old, discuss politics with them, argue about football. Their opinions may be silly since they’re still kids, but let them speak. Don’t shut them up. It will help them become better adults.

I remember when I was writing WAEC and all the students were asked to wait outside. It was a very hot day and everybody was sweating profusely and complaining of standing under the sun, but I was the only one who was bold enough to walk to the teacher and ask why we had to wait outside. What’s wrong in sitting inside to wait for whenever the invigilator arrived? We were supposed to be writing exams and for whatever reason the invigilator is late, so why put us through this stress few minutes to our exam?

In secondary school an overzealous teacher asked me to leave the classroom instead of addressing the issue I raised. I insisted that my parents paid my school fees so I can learn and she can’t ’punish' me by preventing me from learning. Some people were saying I should leave the classroom just for peace to reign. It’s the same kind of argument we hear these days about 'applying wisdom'.

I wrote a petition against a teacher in my secondary school too. I intentionally refused to tuck in my shirt when an SS3 student asked me to because he was not properly dressed. He proceeded to assault me and I petitioned him to the VP Student Affairs. He was suspended for 2 weeks.
My argument was simple: I agreed that I was in the wrong, however the punishment was not assault since the school outlaws corporal punishment.
He was suspended and I was asked to work in the school farm.

It’s simply because as a child I was given a voice. If my own biological father can concede to a superior argument, who the hell do you think you are to bring up respect when you’re losing an argument?

[Biggest Mack @Big_Mck]

Local champion.

Look at him here, crossing his legs like Peter Okoye when he met Dangote, humbly accepting to be called just “Tony” by a foreign interviewer who is young enough to be his daughter.

“I don’t subscribe to that Oyibo thing”

But you will go and receive Oyibo award in Belgium.

The only place they have power is when they are back home.

Local champions.

[Olawole @Olawoleaa]

Most of you have only worked in One man businesses and local oriented organizations.

Thats why you all are condemning that lady.

[The Spearhead @Spearhead_Af]

iPhone XR to iPhone 17, Nigeria's crisis of self-esteem

#ICYMI From iPhone 17 replicas to car model “upgrades,” Nigeria's infamous "I-better-pass-my-neighbour" cultural meme has graduated from simple nuisance to driver of real economic jeopardy.

Fuelled by a debilitating societal inferiority complex and high levels of extreme poverty, a new trend of disturbingly obsessive brand awareness has created a booming "insecurity economy," characterised by after-market smartphone design modification, "car model upgrade" body kit installation, Indian temple hair importation, and many other dodgy activities built exclusively around exploiting the insecurities of 230 million poor people.

Already a struggling, sub-industrialised economy with IMF-imposed economic austerity, Nigeria has now become an economic opportunity for unscrupulous suppliers in industrialised countries, as Nigerians haemorrhage their money on a desperate quest to signal imaginary status to one another.

It’s time for a cultural shift. Scientific education, economic empowerment and spiritual awakening must displace obsessive, spiritually bankrupt, low-level consumerism. If this will be Africa's century, the continent needs its most populous country to break free from this psychological trap.

[Oreoluwa Bukola, CFA. @BukkyOA]

When you start, you'll be so sure where you're headed, but in the process, while you're trusting the process and while you're doing the work that is required, you will be pushed towards your real purpose.

How you started is not necessarily how you will continue, but the work is going to work so well on you that you will be moved in the most profitable direction.

What you need to do right now is to continue to do the work and continue to trust the process.

[Ben X @Benn_X1]

There will always be an explanation for why you failed. In most cases, it will be a valid explanation, especially when you put it in certain contexts.

It may be convincing to you, and in fact, some people may understand your point of view.
But in the end, nobody gives a fuck, including those who understand your POV.
Did you make it or not? It’s a simple yes or no question, but you can choose to complicate it.

[Oreoluwa Bukola, CFA. @BukkyOA]

When it comes to money and splitting bills, it all boils down to kindness.

Marry a kind partner who, irrespective of the season you both are in, there is assurance that you both have each other’s back.

[Ben X @Benn_X1]

I had an interview with a company in Lagos and did not hear back from them after 1 week. I then reached out to the HR via phone to know if there’s any update. I think he was having a bad day or something. He said I shouldn’t bother him waiting for feedback when I told him I needed to know what the next steps were since I’ll be travelling out of Lagos soon and don’t want to have to return to Lagos for another interview round.

I actually had another offer which was fully remote and was on the verge of relocating from Lagos. If he had been reasonable I’d have rejected the other offer and agreed to their 3 days hybrid arrangement, but omnipotent HR was feeling like god 😂

[Victor Okafor @TheVictorOkafor]

“This isn’t normal anymore. I’ve given my all to this. I’m obsessed with this work. I’m intrigued by how stories compel. I’m fascinated by how narratives shape markets, societies, nations. I’m in awe of how the man who rents a space in the mind, has a free course to the wallet every time. This one thing will I master beyond what any other human has explored. I left law for this. It’s worth it. This one thing will i embody. This one thing will I use for me first before I share my findings to the world. This one thing is brand storytelling.”

- Victor Okafor 2024.

[The Tech Prophet (Amospikins) @Amospikins]

AI didn’t replace software engineers.
It exposed who was never one.
If your entire skill is prompting ChatGPT to generate a React UI, you’re not building software o, you’re decorating HTML.

A landing page working on localhost is not a product.

A demo is not a system.

A deployed app is not an engineered architecture.

When scale hits.
When concurrency spikes.
When the database locks.
When production crashes at 4am.
Vibes won’t save you o.

AI is a tool.
Engineering is depth.
And depth is finally becoming visible again, and na thus part dey sweet me for body.

Vibes coders without engineering knowledge made hacking easier again, created more jobs for engineers...

So e con be like say na HUNTER HUNTED

BYE

[Mojisola Alegbe @yehhmisi]

Since we’re on this topic….

Andrej Karpathy coined the term "vibe coding" in February 2025, and it was never meant to describe what software engineers do.

He created it to describe a workflow where non-programmers describe what they want in plain English, an AI generates the code, and they accept the output based on "vibes" rather than actually reviewing it.

Even Karpathy himself positioned it as a tool for prototypes and throwaway builds. Not production software. Not applications real users depend on.

For an actual software engineer, that concept doesn't really apply.

When you know how systems work, how code behaves, and what can go wrong, you can't fully "vibe" even if you tried.

Your engineering instinct kicks in automatically.

You're reviewing, questioning, adjusting.

That's just how you're wired at this point.

So the more accurate distinction is:

Vibe coders = non-engineers using AI to build things they don't understand, end to end.

Engineers using AI = Engineers using tools to move faster while still owning the output completely.

They are not the same thing and they shouldn't share the same label.

Which is why anytime I see a software engineer proudly say they "vibe coded" something, I begin to suspect them. 🌚

Because for a software engineer what this means is you’re admitting you didn’t properly review what you shipped or you’re misusing the term entirely.

Either way, suspicious. 🌚

[𝕯𝖆𝛎𝖎𝐝🧘🏾‍♂️ @DavidPattt]

If you’re a man, you need to watch and listen to this carefully! No truer words have been spoken!👏🏽💯

[Ben X @Benn_X1]

You joined them when sporty bet was trendy, did same with NFTs, crypto, UI/UX design, MMM, now it’s stock trading.

You keep learning hard lessons over again.
This is exactly what your father did all his life. Wasted his youth on trendy ways to make money. He did not stay long enough on one thing to truly understand it.
You’re repeating the pattern again, and your children will also hate on others who have 'generational wealth’ without realising it took a lot of discipline and consistency to create and sustain that wealth.

You can decide that this directionless approach to life ends with you or start rehearsing the excuses and defeatist stories you’ll tell your grandchildren when they ask you why you did not make it in life.

[LokiVariant @Timi_Jayyy]

@uzi_is_him Chatgpt gives a lot of nonsense and you have to be really smart and knowledgeable on a topic to be able to point out its logical inconsistencies.
it's better to read other people's work amd learn from them than to use a tool whose output is determined by your own intelligence.

[Phuong Le @func25]

The best investment for your career right now is not a new language or a new AI tool.

It is learning system design and the fundamentals deeply, because AI can generate code but it cannot reliably decide what should be built or why.

AI is good at typing. It is bad at thinking through tradeoffs.
It can write functions, boilerplate, CRUD, small helpers. But real engineering work is choosing between options.

- Should this be a service or a monolith.
- Should we cache or not.
- Should we optimize for speed or cost.
- How will this scale.
- What breaks first.
- How do we recover.

AI does not truly reason about these. It guesses based on patterns it has seen.

If you do not understand design yourself, you cannot tell when AI is wrong and that is dangerous. You will ship fragile systems and not even notice until production fails.
So the practical move is this.

- Spend most of your learning time on system thinking, performance, and the fundamentals that drive them
- Practice breaking problems into components.
- Practice drawing architectures.
- Practice explaining why you chose one design over another.
- Read real systems and ask what could go wrong.
- Review code and ask what happens at 10x traffic.

AI is a fast junior developer. Useful, but you still need to lead.

If you build strong design skills, you become the person who makes decisions. If you only rely on AI to code, you become replaceable.

Design skill compounds, tools change and that is the long term bet.

[Ben X @Benn_X1]

I'd argue that not many engineers use AI like me. I use it a lot. In fact I built a profitable trading bot with Claude Opus (I won’t share the source code 😂), got my current job using the AI job search assistant I built, etc.
However, it is important to know when to use AI and when not to deny yourself the opportunity to learn and grow by relying on AI.

[Ben X @Benn_X1]

The reason is simple: expertise and experience compounds over time and with exposure to problems like this.
Relying on AI takes this away.

The short term solution is to prompt AI to look at the documentation and fix the bug; the long term solution is to read the documentation and understand what is going on. You may find that the documentation itself is wrong and then open a PR to fix the issue in the library/framework.

This knowledge will translate to other areas too. Next time you have similar issue, you’d know exactly what to do without writing a prompt.

Faster code was never the bottleneck!