manifested this but this is unreal, being featured on the biggest music magazine in my country is a big deal for me. Thank you @RollingStoneIN a lot more to come :)
‘Arranged marriage’ is largely dead in the urban upper middle class strata.
Kids grew on movies and TV, want to find love, for whatever reason — dont.
Then parents set them up. Kids forcefully superimpose a romancemax hollywood love-style relationship frame on what is otherwise a contractual relationship that hopefully blossoms into love.
Proposals, rings, baby/shona from day 1. None of this is felt, its performed.
Reality sets in 6-12 months later. Wife will not play 80-90s style bahu who runs around saying ‘mummy ji ko bura na lage’. Modern bahus care 2 shits about saas. Men quickly fall out of fascination with their ‘new toy’- the honeymoon, the wedding, the photos, the sex fades.
Family expects joint family behavior, couple has nuclear family ethics. Family set up an arrangement, kids performed a different performance.
Resentment builds slowly. Man gets dragged between parents and wife. Wife feels antagonised by in laws. Parents feel mistreated and isolated in old age.
It could have been simple if they picked one lane and lived it out. But marriage has become too complicated in modernity— too many concepts, references, moviepilled ideas, reelpilled fantasies, nostalgia coded platitudes compressed into one private relationship space, commented on and critiqued by everyone.
If youre getting arranged married, dont force love into it. Let it arrive. It may not, and thats your gamble. But people who get married out of love may end up being wrong, or fall out of love. Thats their gamble.
Live by the spirit of your decisions. Not by the aesthetics of someone else’s decision.
a lot of people misinterpret courteous behavior for being friendly or nice, they start over-sharing stuff even when its just their 2nd or 3rd message and all you can do if you dont like where the conversation is heading, is to leave them on read and exit the conversation.
cant wait for some idiot to make a video that says " here's a hack to make your content ideas stand out" and its just a video saying use your brain than Chatgpt and the worst part people in the comments will actually have a revelation.