Habits I noticed in women who have genuinely healed
1. They stopped explaining themselves to people who had already decided who they were. They understood that clarity is not owed to everyone. Some people are not asking questions. They are building cases.
2. They have one standard they do not negotiate on. Not a list of rules. One deep knowing of what they will not accept. And that one knowing removes the exhausting daily decision of where their line is.
3. They feel the grief and they name it out loud to themselves. "I am sad today." "I am scared today." That one sentence creates just enough distance from the feeling to keep it from becoming their entire identity
4. They stopped trying to heal in the same environment that wounded them. They changed the inputs. The people. The conversations. The content they consumed. They understood that you cannot think your way out of a room you have never physically left.
5. They allowed the anger. They did not perform forgiveness before they had processed the rage. They let the anger do its sacred work of showing them what they would never allow again.
you don’t realize how much your environment affects your mental state until you finally spend time somewhere that feels calm and your body stops feeling tense for once
Please stop telling people y’all business when y’all going through stuff. You can't imagine the conversations being held with people y’all trust in rooms y’all never been in. & not of them being a helping hand!!! People really get off seeing you down. DONT TRUST NOBODY, TALK TO GOD
Narcissists will often “give” you something they know you won’t like—whether it’s a gift, a meal, an outing, or “help”. It’s not a mistake. It’s a setup. They want to control your reaction, shame you for being “ungrateful,” and rewrite the story so they look generous while you look difficult. It’s never about the gift—it’s about power. It’s their way of looking like they’ve given you something without actually giving you anything.
ppl w adhd do shit like procrastinate for 3 months straight & then in one 24-hr day knock out 3 months of tasks. you either know this life or you don’t lol.
I never play victim I LOVE telling people why I was the villain and why the victim got what they deserved. I love taking accountability for MY reactions to a person’s action. I love teaching a person to find somebody else to play with when I genuinely don’t start, I only finish. Liars and narcissists make everybody else the problem, but themselves and say they ain’t did NOTHING. Naw baby this is what I did, why I did it and how I did it!