If you want to reach the top, don't look for a mentor; look for a sponsor. A mentor gives advice over coffee whereas a sponsor puts their reputation on the line to advocate for you when you are not in the room.
Merit alone won't win you opportunities; someone powerful who decides that their success is tied to yours will.
Men live without a safety net.
If a woman fails, she has options: family, friends, men, or 'marrying up.' If a man fails, he hits the pavement. There is no bailout for men. He is either useful, or he is homeless. That constant, low-level anxiety you see in his eyes? That is the fear of falling with nobody there to catch him.
Call it whatever but y'all were dating “mature people” while we struggled, but want us to settle with you after we crack it.. Let younger girls date us now because we are the “mature people” of their time
Life dangles carrots throughout the journey. In primary school, you're told to study hard so you can get to a good high school. In the good high school, you're told to get an A so you go to a good university and pursue a dream course. In university, you're conditioned to excel so you get a good job that comes with a good paycheck. Once you get the job, you're told to save, invest, and give your family the best life. You are conditioned to believe that your best life will be after retirement and if you don't save and invest, you will end up miserable and worthless.
Then you wake up at 60, worn out and discarded by the system that no longer finds you useful. You realize that you were only part of the cog, and that you regrettably forgot to live. But now you're dying anyway.
I've never met a successful business owner or farmer who treats their work as a side hustle. They pour 100% of their time and energy into their business or farm. I'm not saying side hustles are wrong, but you can't compete with someone fully dedicated to their craft while you're only part-time.
We cannot understand the true nature of the Universe, unless we question deeply.
I want to know what is real, even if the answer is total obliteration of my consciousness.
@mbiti_mwondi Why is it that God's punishments, miracles and all that divine power only seemed to happen in ancient times? Why don't we see any of that now? Where is God? Has God disappeared?
@MwendiaJnr Relationships are trades of different things, care and energy included. Certainly it takes one person to start the trade, but after that initial point the dynamic should be balanced, it will show that the other person appreciates you. Match their energy!
@MwendiaJnr The reason black tax is hated and girlfriend allowance is tolerated because the man is getting some sex in return. Guys are very generous with their money when thinking with their small brain but are very strict with their money when using their big brain.
Sending a begging woman Ksh. 2,050 via M-PESA and then the next MPESA message is you buying yourself an airtime of Ksh. 20 is complete lack of self-care.