Look, I beg you. Become really good at something. Like wickedly good. Then let as many people as possible know you’re really good at that thing. The consequences will change your life.
I was on the train earlier with a new mum, her baby & her husband. The baby started crying, & the man didn’t even flinch. The mum was visibly stressed, while he remained on his video call, smiling away.
As a woman, choose wisely the person you want to have a baby with wisely.
Don’t be that adult who is constantly demanding respect while showing little to no respect to people who aren’t your peers whether because of their age, social status, or position. Respect shouldn’t be something you demand from those you perceive as beneath you while refusing to extend the same courtesy to them.
If you knew how many famous celebs have businesses & never even crossed $300m, maybe we’d appreciate Kim Kardashian’s skills a lot more
Building 2 businesses that have reached $1b in valuation under 10 years (Skims is currently at $5b) back to back is nothing short of genius!
If it were just the money part, that’s really whatever, at the end of the day it’s not a crime to decide you’ll sponsor man, but this guy was legit cruel to her !
Like you sponsor him finish & then get undiluted cruelty 24/7, ahh. What exactly was the appeal ? No money no love.
unlearn shame. all forms of shame: unemployment, illness, vulnerability, longing, desire, errors, failures. you do not need to feel ashamed of what you are experiencing or living. freedom and shame cannot coexist.
Nigerians are quite loud about the concept of ‘respect’ but I do not think we are largely a respectful people.
What we even call respect is just Plutolatory: obsessive admiration, devotion, or literal worship of money and the people who hold it,
And of course authoritarianism.
One thing i have learned last year is that when people who are your friends are mean and unkind to others, its a matter of time before they treat you same way.
I need Nigerian women to decenter marriage. I’m not saying you shouldn’t want marriage or pray for it. But marriage shouldn’t be the thing that drives you.
Don’t be moved by promises. Pay attention to his actions, his character, his consistency and how he treats you.