You don’t become confident by shouting affirmations in the mirror, but by having a stack of undeniable proof that you are who you say you are.
Outwork your self doubt.
every successful person I know is the same
slightly autistic
obsessed
crazy
made tons of sacrifices
100% confident
relentless
delusional
there's no easy way to achieve shit and become someone....
Women who have high cognitive drive and are highly educated tend to engineer a hybrid rather than submit to pure domestic repetition.
They may value being a SAHM, but they keep a second arena for mastery and status through things like part time work, self employment, study, or a serious creative project, because a full exit is perhaps financially costly and almost certainly psychologically claustrophobic.
If the value of a smart woman is her genetics, of which her career is an expression, then to get smart women to have more babies you have to make motherhood higher status than career and pay her enough that the opportunity cost is beaten, not merely softened.
If you want to be a master of the universe, master your internal universe. You are the creator of your reality. What exists in your reality that you do not like? What thoughts are creating or contributing to these components of your reality? Notice. Take a deep breath. Let it go.
you're describing "Pascal’s Wager for Happiness."
mathematically, the pessimist pays the "suffering tax" twice.
once during the anticipation of the bad event, and again when the bad event actually happens.
the optimist only pays the tax once (when the event happens).
if the bad event doesn't happen, the pessimist suffered for nothing, while the optimist enjoyed the ride.
You don’t need to choose. You can take the path of Einstein, who used a 'tedious' job to fund the stability his genius required. Or you can follow the martyrs, Van Gogh, Dostoevsky, and Diogenes, and accept the price of not paying your rent.
Or, you can respect and recognize the art in responsibility. Garbage collectors stave off the chaos of the world, preschool teachers raise the next Einsteins, caregivers alleviates suffering. And your landlord is offering you the best price-value for shelter you have found. If you accept the terms.