Queer Mormon Confessions

Anonymous Confessions from Queer inactive/active/ex Members of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints. send submissions via DM.

[Shayla Frandsen @shayla_who]

For those of you who have left the LDS church, have you replaced that leaving with other spirituality and/or ritual? Have you joined another church, or found other spiritual communities, or anything like that? And/or have you done that for your kids (if you have them)?

[Queer Mormon Confessions @QueerMormonconf]

"my old bishop, that said i'm going to hell for being gay, and suggested that i get a nose job, finally got replaced a while ago. might be able to start going to church again."

[Queer Mormon Confessions @QueerMormonconf]

she recently expressed a desire to join the church. i really wish i could tell her that i know that she'd be able to get baptized."

[Queer Mormon Confessions @QueerMormonconf]

"before covid my gf would come to church with me for support. we regularly experienced slut shaming, people were telling us not to hold hands there and that we were setting a 'bad example'. she said that she still enjoyed it even despite it all and that she wasn't religious.

[Queer Mormon Confessions @QueerMormonconf]

"Mom just told me that if I'm not engaged to a man by my next birthday then I have to move out. So much for being like Jesus I guess"

[Queer Mormon Confessions @QueerMormonconf]

"i appreciate lds and exmo allies. they're great. but please make sure to listen to lgbtq+ lds ppl and don't pressure us to leave or stay or whatever"

[Queer Mormon Confessions @QueerMormonconf]

"I'm not out but I'm very thankful for the people trying to make BYU a better place for queer people"

[Queer Mormon Confessions @QueerMormonconf]

"sometimes i'm horny"

[Queer Mormon Confessions @QueerMormonconf]

"Some of my extended fam. are disappointed with the election. I don't understand how people don't understand how Trump is un-Christlike. I'm so relieved that someone sensible is going to be leading soon."

[Queer Mormon Confessions @QueerMormonconf]

"Sometimes I skip church because I don't feel welcome and feel like #QueerStake and #TwitterStake are my real "Ward family""

[Queer Mormon Confessions @QueerMormonconf]

He doesn't understand just how MUCH privilege he has as a Straight, White, RM Multi-Generational Member and I'm not sure he ever can or will."

[Queer Mormon Confessions @QueerMormonconf]

"I love that my husband accepts my sexuality without hesitation but it kills me that he cannot comprehend why the changes and harmful policies and targeting of my Queer Mormon Family hurts so much and makes me so angry and resentful and

[Queer Mormon Confessions @QueerMormonconf]

is causing me to question my faith/place in the Church. It feels like a growing divide in our relationship and I don't know how to fix it and losing him scares me more than almost anything.

[Queer Mormon Confessions @QueerMormonconf]

The church will never see me as an example If I don't get married and have children. Basically I'd have to sacrifice my feelings to the person I actually love, just because is same gender as me."

[Queer Mormon Confessions @QueerMormonconf]

"The fact that I'm bi will always make me feel like I'm not enough for God and His Church. So I guess I'll have to live with this crap all my life. Unless I got excommunica~ oops, my membership withdrawn. I'll never serve in more Church callings unless I got married... to a woman

[Queer Mormon Confessions @QueerMormonconf]

These things are another cruel reminder of the fact that I WON'T HAVE AN ETERNAL FAMILY.

I'm sick of this feeling.

[Queer Mormon Confessions @QueerMormonconf]

"I really wish the Church would stop enforcing and making church harder for our fellow trans people. I love y'all and stay strong 🏳️‍🌈🙏❤🧡💛💚💙💜"

[Queer Mormon Confessions @QueerMormonconf]

(DM)
"Its so hard being queer & half-out at BYUI. I know I got this- but taking eternal families rn is NOT helping. Anyway, I have faith in EVERYONE will be loved by their fellow queer peers💜💚❤🧡💛💚💙if anyone wants to see me at SL Pride, I'll be there in a suit and red hair!

[Queer Mormon Confessions @QueerMormonconf]

(question via DM)
"I have friends that choose to be in a mixed orientation marriage or be abstinent. how do I support or help them?"