Quirky Girl

Handcrafted fidget jewelry, artfully designed for #actuallyautistic women & girls whose concentration & confidence are improved when their hands are distracted.

[Quirky Girl @QuirkyLikeYou]

For girls and women, the debunked myth of the extremely male brain remains barrier to ASD Dx. We seek care but are too often misdiagnosed. New @sbaroncohen research into death by suicide leads to posthumous ASD Dx for some.
In life, the signs of ASD were there—help was not.

[Emily Kavanagh @emchlokav]

Suicide is an autistic crisis - particularly in autistic women. 2/3’s have experienced suicidal ideation and 1/3 have attempted to take their life - why are we so misunderstood?! #AGNhealthdata

[Quirky Girl @QuirkyLikeYou]

Actually autistic and actually awkward. As an undiagnosed aspie, I checked out library books on etiquette and manners—at age 5—apparently aware that others followed a code that wasn’t obvious to me. Curious to know how you learned social norms! #ActuallyAutistic

[Quirky Girl @QuirkyLikeYou]

@lucykhobbs When you consider how high unemployment and underemployment is among #ActuallyAutistic it isn’t a surprise that we aren’t being tapped for those roles. My tweets tell a story of what happens when an industry leader advocates for ND at Work from within. Still we must persist.

[Quirky Girl @QuirkyLikeYou]

Amazing! This celebration seemed like an impossibility when I was @chloeshayden’s age and masking like my life, career and relationships depended on it. #aspiegirls give me hope and the courage to “come out” to love authentically! #ActuallyAutistic

[🌻 c h l o é h a y d e n 🌻 @chloeshayden]

Woman. Of. The. Year.

I am so overwhelmed, so overjoyed.
This doesn’t feel real.

Thank you.

[The Australian @australian]

Chloe Hayden, who plays Quinn Gallagher-Jones in Netflix’s Heartbreak High, is shining a light on neurodiversity.
https://t.co/1NS9S8U3GE

[Quirky Girl @QuirkyLikeYou]

@MissPatVanLady They’re almost certainly trying to push me to resign so they don’t have to fire me. To preserve my wellbeing, I’m going to have to let them win. No wonder unemployment is so ungodly high among autistic individuals! I’m a midcareer professional with a stellar employment record!

[Quirky Girl @QuirkyLikeYou]

Last week, management told me not to talk about autism at work unless a coworker asks me a question. This week management disparaged my autistic traits to a coworker who bullies me. The shame I’m experiencing is paralyzing. #ActuallyAutistic #workingwhileautistic #ADA

[Quirky Girl @QuirkyLikeYou]

@baffled_hacker Thanks for expressing your support. The situation at work has created an alienating and isolating environment. My mother says it’s my fault for disclosing. I’ve really felt alone in my experience.

[Quirky Girl @QuirkyLikeYou]

@LilStarWonder The corporation is famously anti-union. I’ve experienced accommodation retaliation too and twice reported it the outside company that manages accommodation. Manager then emailed me assurances that they’ve been sensitive to my needs. Um… Writing it down doesn’t make it true.

[Quirky Girl @QuirkyLikeYou]

@adhd_ffs I’m in the US. Sr manager actually cc’ed HR a summary of the mtg! A watered down version but included advise that “as a leader” I shouldn’t discuss autism with my team unless asked. The implication: a high-functioning autistic adult can’t lead if others know she’s autistic.

[Quirky Girl @QuirkyLikeYou]

@haleymossart Thanks, Haley. I had hoped my success and ability might help to open minds if I disclosed my Dx at work. Looks like we have a long way to go to normalize neurodiversity.

[Quirky Girl @QuirkyLikeYou]

@haleymossart Inspired by a younger generation, I disclosed my #asd dx at work for the first time in my 25yr successful career. It has been disastrous.

[Quirky Girl @QuirkyLikeYou]

I was just informed that disclosing my autism diagnosis to my teammates was “oversharing.” Sr management advised me not to talk about #neurodiversity unless others have questions. #ActuallyAutistic #aspie #workingwhileautistic

[Quirky Girl @QuirkyLikeYou]

Thanks to this employer, I’ve gained a new #AutismAwareness of my own: I now understand why so few #ActuallyAutistic adults can find and maintain employment, and for the first time in my long, distinguished career, I’m #underemployed like so many in the #ASD community.

[Quirky Girl @QuirkyLikeYou]

I was just informed that disclosing my autism diagnosis to my teammates was “oversharing.” Sr management advised me not to talk about #neurodiversity unless others have questions. #ActuallyAutistic #aspie #workingwhileautistic

[Quirky Girl @QuirkyLikeYou]

Manager proceeded to “coach” me on social skills—making two gross misassumptions: (1) all #autistic individuals have social deficits and (2) I welcome unsolicited coaching from my employer. Fact check: (1) we don’t and (2) I don’t.

[Quirky Girl @QuirkyLikeYou]

Thanks for this. Needed to know I’m not alone. My heart is breaking for my inner child today. I’m experiencing SM on the job and feeling deeply the pain and frustration of my very quiet, very misunderstood early childhood.

[Quirky Girl @QuirkyLikeYou]

Selective mutism and adult ASD. Discuss.

#ActuallyAutistic

[Quirky Girl @QuirkyLikeYou]

Is #ASMR stimming? Or is #stimming ASMR? This piece in ⁦⁦@NeuroscienceNew⁩ has me thinking… #actuallyautistic #HSP https://t.co/By76q0BH4j

[Quirky Girl @QuirkyLikeYou]

Officing while #autistic. Let’s discuss. Have you worked in an open office space? How did you adapt? How did your company accommodate? Did it make you feel “othered” from colleagues? Did the transition impact your physical, mental and emotional well-being? #ActuallyAutistic