Quit Findom Day 608
608 days without sending or messaging anyone - here are my tips:
- Stay off places like Twitter that make it easy to slip up
- Disconnect your Credit Card from your phone
- Work on discovering the root cause of the addiction
- Never stop trying to quit
@InLivingColouer That said different people find different solutions.
I think it’s important to quit findom on your own regardless of reasoning. But I think eventually a good relationship can also show you what a healthy functional sexual relationship looks like 2/2
Quit Findom Day 511
So I have been seeing a few women on dates recently - the urge for findom is near if not 0 when I am doing this.
Findom to me is a temporary solution to a long-term problem (loneliness). Meaningful connections have been the best medicine for quitting
@InLivingColouer I hear you. I think different people find addiction for different reasons - for me findom has been a mechanism to cope with loneliness.
I need and want connection and I think that’s okay. Findom is just the unhealthy solution to that problem. 1/2
Quit Findom Day 487
Nearly at day 500. Just checking in to help those in recovery see what’s possible.
In the past 487 days I haven’t messaged anyone related to SW, I haven’t spent a penny on content. Recovery is possible for those who want it
Quit Findom Day 421
Typically the urge to use findom is brought about by wanting to wall off negative emotion.
Rather than feel lonely I would simply message a cam girl or dom.
My advice: Allow yourself to feel anxiety and depression, don’t relieve it with addiction
Quit Findom Day 414
It has been a long time since I’ve struggled this hard staying away from findom. For two weeks I’ve had strong urges. Nevertheless, I do not relapse.
We will all have rough periods and they are the cost of the periods of peace and happiness that follow.
Quit Findom Day 312
Quit findom. Quit it because if nothing else you build up willpower which you never knew you had.
Want to diet? Couldn’t be harder that quitting findom. Want to go to the gym consistently? That’s an easy ask compared to using findom.
Quitting opens doors
Quit Findom Day 310
Totally anecdotal but I started cutting weight 2 days ago after 3 months bulking and it’s really helped
When I was bulking I was incredibly horny. Now on the cut my sex drive is practically non-existent. Tbh I like this lack of sex drive a lot better lol
Quit Findom Day 308
Drinking puts me so close to relapse. I’ve been drunk the past two days and it makes me so uncomfortable how all the thoughts come back.
That said, I think it’s better in a relationship when there’s an outlet for sexual thoughts.
Quit Findom Day 305
If you’re engaging in findom and you’re in a relationship you’re cheating. It’s fine to have a fetish, it’s not fine when it harms others, especially your partner.
If you’re lucky enough to have someone, make sure you’re respecting them
Day 303 of Quit Findom
One thing I’ve come to appreciate is that progress comes slow over time. But I promise, putting in the work adds up.
One day of lifting a heavy weight won’t make you jacked. But 300 days of it consistently and you’d be hard-pressed not to see progress
Day 302 of Quit Findom
Honestly surreal to have surpassed 300 days. It gets easier. It gets better. It all starts with a tough day and some grit.
The first few days/weeks are the hardest. Put in the work, future you will thank you
Day 291 of Quit Findom
I have such an OCD for loneliness and I honestly think it’s what led me to findom. I miss having someone to share with
I can get like 1 date a month off the apps and doing the coed sports has went nowhere so far.
I persist.
Day 255 of Quit Findom
Looking through who I used to follow 200 days ago so many recovery accounts came and went. Hopefully because their lives moved on.
I want everyone to know it is possible, and it does get easier. Still here on day 255 :)
Day 252 of Quit Findom
I was in and now out of a fairly serious relationship. One thing I’ve learned is that the urge for findom is only really present when I am lonely.
I am proud of myself for not using it at all inside the relationship.
Onward…
Day 58 of Quit Findom
Something I used to tell myself that triggered relapse is that I’ll just spend $60 and that’ll be it.
What I forget is that it took me an additional $3,000 after the 1st $60 to get clean.
It’s never just one send
Day 74 of Quit Findom
Just popping my head in to say that in 75 days my life has pretty much turned around. I go to the gym every day, I have met someone who I can see myself with in the long-term. It all started with Day 1