the “silent treatment” doesn’t work on me because a lack of communication will make me lose the desire to speak to you altogether. we’re grown as hell. if you have a problem, use your words instead of expecting me to chase you for a conversation.
Y’all not using your ancestors enough for me!
Hell, I ask mine to wake me up when I stay up later than I was suppose to. Or to remind me of things, or send a message my way to learn more about a topic I am interested in at the moment. They aren’t just for spiritual guidance!
You should never be expected to be the bigger person when you didn't create the discomfort in the first place. Too many people cause the chaos, cross the line, then want you to swallow your feelings just to keep the peace. Nah. Accountability matters. Being mature doesn't mean accepting disrespect or cleaning up messes you didn't make. Sometimes protecting your peace means standing firm and letting folks sit in the consequences of what they caused.
Let them. Let them lie. Let them be a victim. Let them twist the story. Let them talk. Let them believe what they need to. You don't need to defend your truth to people committed to misunderstanding you. Let them go. Let them learn the hard way. Let them face themselves when the silence is louder than the chaos they created. Protect your peace. Choose your growth. Stand in your integrity because that's your power
@PopBase I’m just mad she posted our Halloween costume two weeks early. 😭 Now I’m gonna look like I’m copying her when I’ve had that damn shirt in my closet for months.
You should never be expected to be the bigger person when you didn't create the discomfort in the first place. Too many people cause chaos, cross the line, and then want you to swallow your feelings just to keep the peace. Nah. Accountability matters. Being mature doesn't mean accepting disrespect or cleaning up messes you didn't make. Sometimes protecting your peace means standing firm and letting people sit in the consequences of what they caused
Never let someone become so comfortable with disrespecting u that they think there aren’t any consequences. Love yourself enough to walk away when your peace, respect, and worth are no longer being protected.
If speaking up makes you the problem, you were never safe with them to begin with. They valued silence because it allowed them to hide the harm. Your voice is proof they can't rewrite the story without facing the truth you carry.
I don't go back to people who tried to destroy me on purpose. Family, friends, anybody. once you cross that line, it's over. Hurting someone on purpose isn't an accident, it's a decision. And once you show me your true colors, I can't pretend I didn't see them. I forgive you for my own peace, but your access to me is gone forever.
I don't play the victim. I'II tell you exactly why I became the villain and what led there. I take full responsibility for how I respond to disrespect. I don't run from that. What I won't do is let people act confused. Nothing I do is unprovoked. I don't start messes, I stop cycles. The difference is I'm honest about it. I'll tell you what I did, why I did it, and stand on it. People who lie or manipulate blame everyone else. Me, I own mine