It’s always fun to throw people off with your duality. You can be mysterious but also honest about your lived experiences. Funny but strict. You can be multiple things at once. Life is more fun that way when you have a multidimensional and layered personality.
We’re not doctors. We don’t work in the ER, and we’re not defusing bombs. We work in spreadsheets. Nobody needs a response within the hour. The fake urgency in corporate needs to stop.
becoming less reactive is a huge part of growth, and decreasing stress. if you let everything get you worked up, you're damaging your mind, body, and spirit.
One of the first things I tell new partners is they are never allowed to swear at me, yell at me, or be mean to me. They will get one warning and then they’re cut from the team. Life is simply too short to be metabolizing intentional hurt from people who allegedly love you!!
I’ve never looked at someone’s terrible boundaries or lack of confidence and thought, let me come and take advantage of it. In fact when I notice someone isn’t living in their power or agency, I feel compelled to teach them how to be more self assured. So although yes, people should be more self protective. It takes a bad person, to take advantage of someone that clearly isn’t. And they should be called out for it.