You are NOT rude for choosing your safety.
If you are about to get on an elevator and something feels off, do not worry about hurting somebody’s feelings.
Step back.
Get off.
Wait for the next one.
You do not owe a stranger access to your space just because being cautious might look “mean.”
That is one of the biggest things I want these girls to understand:
Your instincts do not need permission.
Check your surroundings. Pay attention to who gets on behind you. And if you do not feel comfortable, MOVE.
I would rather these girls be called rude than be afraid to protect themselves.
“Somebody gets paid to fix it” is one of the worst excuses we teach kids.
If you picked it up, changed your mind, and know where it came from… put it back.
Yes, stores have employees. No, that does not mean we should intentionally make their job harder.
Consideration is thinking about the person who comes behind you, even when nobody is making you.
That is the kind of character I want these girls to have.
Women are just as aggressive as men. The only difference is they hit who they KNOW can't hit back.
I have friends working as security / managing bars and clubs. They see this every weekend.
A woman will not hesitate to slap a man, throw a drink in his face, scratch him, hit him over a relatively minor argument IF she knows the crowd will protect her.
And she knows they will. She knows if he grabs her back, 5 white knights will jump in. She knows if cops get called, HE is getting arrested. Every time.
That is not "less aggressive." That is calculated aggression.
Male aggression is dumb and direct: I am mad, I hit you, I deal with the consequences.
Female aggression is strategic and protected: I am mad, I hit you, I know you can't hit me back because society will destroy you if you do.
She outsources her violence to bystanders and to law enforcement. She gets to strike, and then play victim the second there is a reaction.
That is leveraging violence by proxy.
So don't give me this myth that women are more peaceful, more nurturing, better at "de-escalating" and "administrating conflict."
They are not de-escalating. They are just fighting in a way where they are guaranteed to win because the system is rigged for them.
If you know you can punch someone and they legally can't punch you back, you're not less violent. You're just a bully with a badge of protection.
And that's exactly what the data shows.
Some fathers are so busy trying to give their children the childhood they never had… they forget to give them the father they never had.
The shoes matter. The trips are nice. The house, the clothes, the opportunities… all of that is a blessing.
But little you did not just need more stuff.
Little you needed Dad to show up.
Little you needed promises kept.
Little you needed time.
Little you needed consistency.
Little you needed to feel chosen.
Do not get so focused on upgrading your children’s lifestyle that you forget to upgrade their experience with you.
NewsNation invited me on to talk about the Cornell Seven case and the bigger conversation around consent.
My message to parents was simple: teach it directly. Teach boys what “no” means. Teach them to look for an emphatic yes. Teach them that consent can change. And teach them something else we do not say enough:
Just because something is consensual does not automatically make it a good decision.
We have to raise young men with more than just an understanding of the legal line. We have to give them the character, discipline, and wisdom to know when they should walk away from a situation altogether.
That is the standard.
Y’all have been in my DMs asking me to speak on the CORNELL 7 because you know I teach my boys about consent. So let’s talk about it.
I’m not here to determine anybody’s guilt or innocence. But the conversation happening around this case exposes a much bigger issue with how we teach young people about sex, consent, drugs, alcohol and personal responsibility.
My standard for these boys has NEVER been simply “don’t cross the legal line.”
That’s the floor.
I want them to have enough wisdom, discipline and character to recognize situations they shouldn’t be in to begin with.
I don’t want to raise a technically innocent idiot. I want to raise a wise man.
#cornell7
Thomas Sowell has spent decades explaining the consequences of bad policies.
His point is simple: you can’t ignore economic reality forever.
Eventually, someone has to pay the price for the decisions made today.
A timeless lesson in incentives, consequences, and government policy.
Don’t get so busy providing for your children that you forget to make memories with them.
One day they won’t remember every gift, every bill you paid, or everything you were working so hard to build. But they’ll remember Daddy playing with them, chasing them, laughing with them, and simply being there.
Work hard. Be ambitious. Provide.
But make sure your children get YOU too.