This Thanksgiving you have the power to
Shut down comments about your body
Shut down comments about what you are and aren’t eating
Shut down comments about topics you’re uncomfortable talking about
Shut down unwanted judgement on your life’s choices
It’s very challenging to be an actual functioning person in society right now. To be able to work and pretend to have happiness in the midst of everything is constantly overwhelming. No one is okay. We have no idea when we will be okay. Stay curious and not judgmental.
Friendship means sometimes someone needs space. This isn’t about you, this is about what that friend needs in this moment. Understanding boundaries and respecting people is crucial. Also taking a step back and remembering everything isn’t about you is important.
The next time you look at yourself in the mirror, instead of seeing all of your flaws share your gratitude with your body. Thank your body for getting you through another day. Thank your stomach for digesting the food you needed to eat today. Your body deserves more than hate.
You don’t have to lose weight for your wedding
You don’t have to lose weight before a big event
You don’t have to lose weight to wear a swimsuit
You look incredible exactly how you look right now
It’s time to live your life with this body without apologizing for it
Perfectionism needs to be cancelled. It stems from white supremacy culture. It’s time to embrace our flaws and challenges. You don’t need to be perfect.
When someone tells you that you’re too loud, too sensitive, too emotional, too intense, too much, it’s easy. Just tell them to go find less. True friends will accept you for exactly who you are. You don’t need to change, you just need to change your circle.
It’s Pride month. Which means it’s time for the straights to not just celebrate us, but support us. It’s time for the cis gender folks to really go out there and fight for trans people. Celebrations are great, but radical change is necessary. We need to do better. 🏳️🌈🏳️⚧️
Sometimes you see the fatphobia in your life, and sometimes you don’t even realize it. Never get that promotion at work? Never get a raise? Don’t have the same opportunities as your coworkers? Fat folks have to work twice or three times the amount of their skinnier counterparts.
When it comes to relationships it’s important to set boundaries. If someone doesn’t respect these things they aren’t the kind of people who you want in your life. Strong friendships thrive on boundaries.
Fat bodies deserve health care
Fat bodies deserve to take up space
Fat bodies deserve to be represented
Fat bodies are just a part of life
Fat bodies are normal and lovely
Fat bodies have fat joy
Fat bodies can be liberated
Fat bodies need smaller bodies to do better.
If we let brands get away with their plus sized sections only going up to a size 18 or 20, that’s not nearly enough. Just because we (as small fats) have clothes that fit us, it doesn’t end there. We have to continue to support our community by asking for more.
The moment we start to center our body liberation work around the most marginalized bodies is when we can start to see change that helps everyone. As a small fat it’s our job to fight for them and use our privilege to keep on pushing the envelopes of brands and companies.
Don’t let people shame you for not wanting to have kids. We need to start normalizing it. You don’t have to explain why not. It’s no one’s business but your own. Even when people tell you that your “maternal clock” will go off when you get older, it’s your body not theirs.
If someone wants to talk to you about their diet or their messed up relationship with food all you have to do is say one thing.
I’m not comfortable talking about this. Shut it down. You don’t have to listen to diet culture talk if you don’t want to. Protect your peace, always.
The only way we are going to get salary transparency is by talking about money. Stop making it so uncomfortable. Don’t let the older generations fool you into thinking that. Gen Z talks about it, why can’t we all? Let’s end this now. We deserve more and transparency.
If you ever want progress in this lifetime you cannot just wait for it to happen. You have to go out and make it happen. Don’t just be the messenger, make the message. Create the world you want. It might sound like too wild of an idea, but the best ones always are.
For 2023 it’s time to take up more space and stop apologizing for your existence. You 100% belong in that room. And if you’re too much for someone, that person isn’t enough for you. Set those boundaries and stick to them. It’s always worth it.