tolerating always turns into resentment. at first, you call it patience, then love. but what it really is, is self abandonment. every time you swallow a boundary, excuse a pattern or silence your discomfort, something inside you keeps score. eventually, the bill comes due.
Me at the dentist
Dentist: “Hey so Im noticing a lot of wear on your teeth.”
Me: “yea I like to chew on plastic things… pen caps, bottle lids”
Dentist: “Awww so yer like a puppy.”
Me: *involuntary dumb flustered fox noises*
She laughed at me guys, I was so embarrassed…