THE PAUL

I solemnly swear that I am up to no good. Mischief manage

Unbent, Unbowed, Unbroken

[LUCIA @Lucia_uiu]

Do I pay tithes and give offerings?

Yes.

But I don't do it because someone preached me into it. I do it because I arrived at that conviction through my own understanding and faith.

Our churches should also be equipping people with practical knowledge on how to acquire wealthy

Teach people about investing!!!

[LUCIA @Lucia_uiu]

Look, y'all shouldn't misunderstand me... Give to support the preaching of the gospel. Give to those in need. Give to your pastor if you genuinely believe you should.

But let it come from personal conviction, not because you just heard an emotional sermon.

[Mr. Láyí @layiwasabi]

date people who flirt back

[Dr. Ose Etiobhio @osemagnum]

VAGINISMUS:

THIS HAS DESTROYED MANY HOMES.

NO, SHE'S NOT PRETENDING.

READ, SHARE AND REPOST.

Dear Women and Men, come and learn...,

When the Body Says No: Vaginismus, Silence, and the Myth of a Closed Door

They come quietly, these messages, and they often begin the same way, Dear Doc, and then a confession wrapped in confusion, and sometimes shame. I married my wife as a virgin, and yet it feels like something is blocked, and I can touch her, and we can linger in foreplay, but when it is time for intercourse, the door closes. And in that sentence, a woman is almost turned into a riddle, and sometimes into a suspect. As though her body has decided to be wicked. As though pain is rebellion. As though fear is witchcraft.

But let us say this clearly, and say it gently, and say it loudly enough to undo years of silence: this is not witchcraft. She is not wicked. Her body is not conspiring against love.
This is called vaginismus, and it is far more common than we admit, and far more human than we allow.
Vaginismus is the body tightening when it should soften, and closing when it should welcome, and doing so without permission from the mind. It is an involuntary spasm of the vaginal muscles during penetration, during sex, during examinations, sometimes even during the thought of penetration.

Many women say, my vagina is blocked or I am too small, and what they are really saying is that their body has learned fear. And this fear does not belong only to first-timers, although many first sexual experiences are marked by it. It belongs also to women who have had sex before, and to women who have known trauma, and to women whose bodies remember pain from surgery, from radiotherapy, from infections, from stories whispered by aunties about how sex is suffering and womanhood is endurance. It belongs to women who were assaulted, and to women who grew up learning that sex is danger dressed as desire.

And yes, vaginismus has broken hearts, and strained marriages, and turned bedrooms into battlegrounds of guilt and misunderstanding. But it is not a moral failure. It is not stubbornness. It is not punishment. It is the body doing what bodies do when they feel unsafe, protecting itself.

So what do we do, when the body says no?
We begin with belief, belief in the woman, and belief that healing is possible. We begin with counselling, especially when there has been sexual trauma, because the body listens closely to the mind. We seek help not from one person, but from a team, the gynaecologist, and the psychologist, and the counsellor, and the physiotherapist, and the specialist nurse, because vaginismus is not a single story and cannot be solved by a single voice. We talk about lifestyle, and hydration, and the quiet power of pelvic floor exercises like Kegels, and we talk about lubricants, yes, generously, and some that soothe pain as they ease entry. We talk about patience, and vaginal massage, and gentle exploration, sometimes guided, sometimes slow, sometimes awkward, and always kind.

We talk about foreplay, not as a prelude, but as a language of reassurance. And sometimes, when anxiety refuses to loosen its grip, we use medication to help the body learn calm again. Vaginal dilators may be used, slowly and consistently, not to force the body open, but to teach it that opening does not equal harm. Surgery, we say clearly, is rare, and only for true physical obstruction, not for fear, not for memory.
This is a big issue, yes, and it can unmake intimacy if left alone in the dark. But it is also a treatable one. Help exists. Compassion works. Conversations heal.

And so, if your body has been saying no, listen to it, not with anger, but with curiosity. Seek help. Book consultations. Treat infections. Drink water. Be patient. Be gentle. Because sometimes the door is not locked.
Sometimes, it is only afraid.

[Real Madrid C.F. 🇬🇧🇺🇸 @realmadriden]

🎂 HAPPY BIRTHDAY, @BellinghamJude!

[JamesonNGR @JamesonNGR]

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Try it neat or over ice, and thank us later

[The Presiding Bishop @Diokpa_Ifeanyi]

Awolowo said he doesn't want the children of his cooks or drivers to turn out to be cooks and drivers themselves, reason he made sure free and qualitative education was available to all in the Western region.

People dey defend frying Akara as economic empowerment in 2026

[feyisayo 💸 @feyiszn]

I withdraw every negative statement I have made about my future, and I speak favor & purpose over my life…Amen!

[MAYOR KACHALLA @MayorOfNasarawa]

Have you heard what is happening inside Tinubu's Presidency?

Are you even aware that someone is publicly claiming he paid ₦600 million just to be appointed to head a federal agency?

No, this is not a movie.

According to Prince Adeyemi, he paid ₦400 million upfront and was expected to pay another ₦200 million later.

But that's not even the biggest part of the story.

He says the real trouble started when he refused to part with 48 percent of a ₦24 billion take-off grant meant for the agency he was appointed to head.

Now, before anyone jumps to conclusions, these are his allegations. The Chief of Staff to the President, Femi Gbajabiamila, has denied any connection with the agency altogether.

And that is exactly where this story becomes unbelievable.

The Chief of Staff says the agency does not exist.

Prince Adeyemi says it does.

Not only that, he says it has over ₦1 billion in the Appropriation Act, over 300 approved staff by the head of service of the federation, and even accounts with the Central Bank of Nigeria.

Now tell me...

If the agency does not exist, who inserted its budget into the Appropriation Act?

Who approved over 300 staff?

Who processed the files?

Who opened the accounts?

Or are all these claims completely fabricated?

On the other hand, if the agency truly exists, then why is the Presidency denying its existence?

Can you see why this matter cannot simply be dismissed?

Somebody is not telling Nigerians the truth.

Personally, I am less interested in the drama than in the documents.

Produce the appointment letter.

Produce the budget.

Produce the payroll.

Produce the CBN records.

Produce the evidence of the alleged payments, if they exist.

Let Nigerians see who is lying.

Because if a man can wake up one morning and falsely accuse the Chief of Staff to the President of collecting ₦600 million and demanding a share of ₦24 billion, then that is a national scandal.

And if he is telling the truth...

Then that is an even bigger national scandal.

Either way, this matter deserves much more than a press statement.

Nigerians deserve answers.

[WWE @WWE]

THE RULER IS NOW KING 👑

@Obaofwwe is the NEW King of the Ring!

#WWENOC

[Ivory ✪ @mide_io]

New Apartment, High paying Jobs, New Laptop, New phone, visa approved, New car. Amen.

[THE PAUL @Raidgan]

My country will call you dumb (not sharp) for allowing the other vehicle 😭😭

[Evreni Merak Ediyoruz @evrenseImerak]

Çinli sürücüler, fermuar birleşme tekniğini kusursuzca uyguluyor.

[Ori David (Mr. Corporate Law) @OriDavid17]

Sorry

Does LPDC not have disciplinary jurisdiction when it comes to SAN at all?

[AK! @BBKNSTNTN]

I lack words

[THE PAUL @Raidgan]

😭😭

[Troll Football @TrollFootball]

Imagine if they all played together in the same club. That club would win every trophy.

[Tasha 😋💦 @Tasha1644]

The fact that you survived seasons where your income wasn't enough but your needs were met will always be proof that God came through for you.

[The Rory Ovedje, Esq. @ovedjerory]

Don't get unhealthily pressured by what your colleagues know.

We are all in this journey of life-long learning and growth together and the learning curve for most is not linear or perfect.

At risk of information overload (no thanks to having multiple interests), what I do is pray to pay attention to the right information at the right time. You could try it too.

[feyisayo 💸 @feyiszn]

the most unseen privilege in life is a supportive family.

[Kevin W. @Brink_Thinker]

What the hell do they teach Japanese kids? It's going viral!