Women have been doing this since time immemorial. They have raised children they loved without always enjoying the work, sacrificed autonomy, swallowed resentment, and still showed up. And when women dared to say they wanted something other than marriage and children, they were vilified as selfish, unnatural, or broken.
Now that men are finally doing equal childcare, they’re encountering the same truth women have always lived with, that love does not guarantee enjoyment. Parenting is work. Often boring, repetitive, and draining. That has never been a moral failure. It was only framed as one when women said it out loud.
If a man chooses to have children, he is obligated to be an equal parent, whether or not it delights him. He shouldn’t see that as cruelty, it’s actually his responsibility.
Fathers feeling this discomfort aren’t monsters. They’re late to an experience women have been trying to name for centuries.
Maybe now they’ll finally hear what mothers have been saying all along.
@katealmengor@MeryAmengual Hay 3 libros. Leí q el autor quería escribir otro para cambiar el final de la serie. Yo los tengo en inglés. No se si los habrán traducido al español