@jon_d_doe Seems like you already had the answers but you continued to deny what your natural instincts, intuition & signs were telling you. Women with liking bad boy vibez & danger. You knowingly as if helplessly, watched yourself being dragged into the lions den. Dinner was served
Times have changed.
Why?
Because the girls that weren’t checked then,have become mothers and the only thing they are teaching their girls?
Billing culture.
If you got your wife with money,it’s money signaling men your daughter will also attract cos your wife can’t teach any other thing.
@MinistryofTID My driver's license issuance status on the CVR Booking website says PRINTING_QUEUE and to be collected @ BYO ZimPost. Can this be fast tracked and lead to my license issuance today or l wait?
How to Be a Better Conversationalist :
Read this if you want to Master the Art of dealing with Human Nature and dominate any social settings.
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Read more, consume less. Your mind is muscle. Train it. Be mentally jacked. Read old books. The classics. The books no else reads. If you read "best sellers", you'll think like everybody else. Read Crime & Punishment. Read Moby Dick. Read 100 years of Solitude. Books that confuse you. Books that change the way you see people, suffering, love, meaning, and life. Books that change the way you perceive reality.
I’ve read over 1,000 books
if you want to upgrade your life, start with these 30
1. atomic habits
2. deep work
3. the psychology of money
4. the daily stoic
5. meditations
6. man’s search for meaning
7. the almanack of naval ravikant
8. think and grow rich
9. rich dad poor dad
10.the power of now
11. discipline equals freedom
12. can’t hurt me
13. the mountain is you
14. ego is the enemy
15. the 4-hour workweek
16. the slight edge
17. outwitting the devil
18. principles
19. the millionaire fastlane
20.influence
21. mastery
22.essentialism
23.the one thing
24.never split the difference
25.start with why
26.the art of war
27.the subtle art of not giving a f*ck
28.shoe dog
29.the compound effect
30. awaken the giant within
read slowly. apply aggressively.
how many books have you read?
There is no way two adults from different homes, upbringing & experiences would come together to cohabit or be married as a man & a woman, & they'll not have a fight, quarrel or arguments.
And it starts from relationships.
If you're not ready to sow the pains, then you do not deserve to reap from the joy.
Relationship frictions are not necessarily red flags.
What is a red flag is extreme violence, threat to life, and when there is more quarrels than peace.
Do not go into any relationship, hoping that it will always be peaceful.
Otherwise, you're in a relationship where you're either pretending, not being yourself or burying the dirts under the rug to make the living room look beautiful.
Your partner must provoke you.
Your partner will test your resolve, & sometimes, do the unexpected.
This is how you train each other to learn how to tolerate yourselves.
And then, you snap out of it, and keep pushing.
I have always taught that the first 5 years of marriage is mostly the difficult phase.
Even if you cohabited during your relationship.
But what cohabitation will teach you, is experience.
Somethings you'd experience within your first 5 years in marriage, may not be new to you.
And you'd not have to be going out of your matrimonial homes to seek for help from "outsiders" at the slightest provocation.
Your wife may tear your boxers one day.
Your wife may seize your car keys or block the door so that you would not go out.
Your wife may refuse to cook your meal or serve you, even if she has cooked your meal.
Your wife may annoy you for nothing.
You as a man must learn tolerance, & learn that not all emotional outbursts would lead to physical violence.
Your husband may hit you out of anger.
Your husband may refuse to eat your food because you annoyed him.
Your husband may go out of the house, refuse to pick your calls, & come back very late, without responding to your greeting.
Your husband may cheat on you, too.
You as the wife, must find ways to manipulate him in a healthy way, use your feminine energy, and show him that you're still his queen, regardless.
Learn how to keep quiet when he's angry.
And learn how to speak when he's calm.
When you see couples celebrating 5, 10, 15, 20, 25, 30, 35 years of marriage, they're not telling you that it has been all rosy through the years.
They're telling you that they have persevered, tolerated each other and made sacrifices and compromises for each other.
Stop thinking that they performed magic.
They did not.
And even if those people are your parents, you do not know their real struggles.
What you know is what they decided to show you.
Go and get married, and see if you would do better than they did.
End.
1) Invest your idle funds
2) Do not be addicted to betting or gambling
3) Do not steal
4) Do not be complacent & upgrade your skill & knowledge
5) Build good connections & don't burn bridges
6) Marry a woman that is contented & very patient
7) Learn to honor your father with your first fruit
8) Do not lead a woman with money
9) Learn to give to charity
10) Be kind to your wife, & be financially transparent
11) Learn to have kids that only you can cater to, without necessarily depending on your wife's money
12) Do not let a woman set you up for failure
13) Plan your wedding mostly according to your resources
14) Hold on tight to God
15) Learn to pay your wife back her debt
16) Invest in yourself, far more than you would want to invest in your wife
17) Learn to say No, sometimes
18) Marry early
You'll surely have financial challenges, but you'll overcome, if you do most of the above.
End.
@MuGaratia@Mugaratia Haaaaa wapa wakabika mujaya....kuita kubhilivhisa😩🔥
Ghetto Midzi, On God, etc haaaaaa
The kinda album that reduced my international airplay to almost zero.