@arianaaamedium@ketengahketepi Or else he'll be comfortable living as he's right now & make the family suffer by living under their actual means. Typical script for toxic masculinity I'd say. Simple lesson in life is to never downgrade yourself to fit in with others that you aren't meant to be with.
If we date, I want a little favoritism. I want to know I’m your person the one who gets a little more love, a little more effort, and a little more of you than anyone else.
I think one of the most heartfelt experiences in life is discovering that someone genuinely enjoys your presence. Not what you provide, Not your accomplishments. Just you, your thoughts, your energy, your existence.
I’ve never looked at someone’s terrible boundaries or lack of confidence and thought, let me come and take advantage of it. In fact when I notice someone isn’t living in their power or agency, I feel compelled to teach them how to be more self assured. So although yes, people should be more self protective. It takes a bad person, to take advantage of someone that clearly isn’t. And they should be called out for it.
If we’re together, I don’t want to be your first priority, I want to be your second. You should always come first: your goals, your future, your growth, and the life you’re building. I don’t want to distract you from becoming who you’re meant to be. I want to be the person who supports you, motivates you, and grows alongside you every step of the way.
The secret to not being awkward is to never force conversation. Don’t try to come up with interesting things to say, don’t talk to people for the sake of talking, don’t voice opinions or ask questions to sound smart. Instead, notice your own curiosity and follow it. If you don’t have any, radiate comfort in your silence.