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[Greg Baer, M.D., Relationship & Parenting Educator @RealLoveCompany]

The Surgeon General of the United States, Vivek Murthy, has announced a formal warning:
“Parenting can be harmful to your mental health.” He states that half of parents say that the stress
in their lives is COMPLETELY overwhelming. They can’t function, and they don’t know where
get help.

He says that the youth mental-health crisis is the defining public-health challenge of our time,
and parents are stressed out of their minds.

So, what is Dr. Murthy proposing as a solution for this “challenge of our time?” Predictably, he
does what everybody else has done, which is to place the responsibility in all the wrong places.

1. He challenges lawmakers to create child income-tax credits. Well, that might create a few
dollars, years from now, but that’s just throwing money at the problem. Parents with enough
money are almost as stressed as those without. So, we’ll give that solution a big “incomplete.”

2. He’s suggesting that workplaces provide courses in identifying stress in parents, and then I
laughed out loud. Why? Imagine that you’ve identified a stressed parent—which hardly requires
taking a course. But now what? What will you do to help that parent to interact more calmly with
a child who is demanding and angry? So, that solution merits a chuckle at best.

3. He suggests that parents seek more mindfulness and self-care. Hmm, I know a great many
parents who have tried that, and it does not prepare them at all for the moments when a child is
screaming in their face or refusing to come out of the room where they are gaming or glued to
social media with friends who are just as stressed, confused, and lost as they are. So, no on that
solution.

4. He suggests that parents need the support of family members, friends and neighbors. But every
parent is already using all of that support they can think of, from people who know nothing about
parenting either. So, hard pass on that one.

5. He says that the issues of parenting “need to be a priority.” Well, who knew? Maybe all these
stressed parents simply didn’t know that parenting needed to be a priority. Silly. Another no.

6. He says that tech companies need to make their platforms safer. This will never happen. Tech
companies only care about profits, which they have proven uncounted times. Another hard pass.

7. Dr. Murthy wants a national paid family leave program. That might give parents more time to
be with their kids, but in that additional time the parents still won’t know how to interact with
kids who are stressed and on their phones all day and half the night. Another no.

8. He wants pediatricians to provide more mental-health screenings for parents when they bring
in their kids. So, now we’ll identify even more kids and parents who are stressed but without any
solutions. No again.

Seeing the pattern here? The Surgeon General of the United States is telling us that our kids are
intolerably stressed and even mentally ill, and parents are every bit as stressed. Then he suggests
solutions without once considering the underlying NEEDS of the parents and kids. That’s like
seeing a drowning man and offering him new furniture instead of identifying his need for, you
know, air. Not once did Dr. Murthy consider what kids and parents need most, nor did he
question whether the failure to meet that need might be the real problem.

So, what do kids and parents need? Intuitively, everybody knows the answer. Gandhi knew,
Jesus knew, the Beatles knew, for heaven’s sake. All we need is love—but not just any kind of
love. Children need unconditional love—the kind they don’t have to earn, the kind without the
pollution of disappointment and anger. But parents don’t know how to give that because they
never got it themselves.

Children who have enough unconditional love are NOT stressed. Neither are adults who feel
loved. They don’t need the intervention of the government, business, pediatricians, or tech
companies. We all need to learn what unconditional love is, we need to learn how to find it, and
we need to share it with our children. THAT is what we need, and when we have identified our
primary need, we can move to a solution.

You’re not alone here. You can learn how to find and give unconditional love.

Imagine that you’re in a rowboat in the ocean. You see that a man is drowning. What would you
do? Would you shout to him that the government should make water safer for people?
Would you say that the U.S. Coast Guard should be more available?

Would you tell the drowner to be more mindful? Or just swim harder?

Ridiculous, and yet we—including the Surgeon General, who I am not picking on—are just as
foolish in making recommendations to parents who are drowning in stress.

If you are a drowning parent, get into the rowboat, right now, and that’s exactly what I’m
offering—a boat.

We cannot do parenting alone. We need help. If you really want to eliminate the stress of
parenting, go to https://t.co/AN6HCU6XrE
Study the Ridiculously Effective Parenting Training like your life depended on it, because it
does. And your children’s lives depend on what you learn.

[Greg Baer, M.D., Relationship & Parenting Educator @RealLoveCompany]

The Surgeon General of the United States, Vivek Murthy, has announced a formal warning:
“Parenting can be harmful to your mental health.” He states that half of parents say that the stress
in their lives is COMPLETELY overwhelming. They can’t function, and they don’t know where
get help.

He says that the youth mental-health crisis is the defining public-health challenge of our time,
and parents are stressed out of their minds.

So, what is Dr. Murthy proposing as a solution for this “challenge of our time?” Predictably, he
does what everybody else has done, which is to place the responsibility in all the wrong places.

1. He challenges lawmakers to create child income-tax credits. Well, that might create a few
dollars, years from now, but that’s just throwing money at the problem. Parents with enough
money are almost as stressed as those without. So, we’ll give that solution a big “incomplete.”

2. He’s suggesting that workplaces provide courses in identifying stress in parents, and then I
laughed out loud. Why? Imagine that you’ve identified a stressed parent—which hardly requires
taking a course. But now what? What will you do to help that parent to interact more calmly with
a child who is demanding and angry? So, that solution merits a chuckle at best.

3. He suggests that parents seek more mindfulness and self-care. Hmm, I know a great many
parents who have tried that, and it does not prepare them at all for the moments when a child is
screaming in their face or refusing to come out of the room where they are gaming or glued to
social media with friends who are just as stressed, confused, and lost as they are. So, no on that
solution.

4. He suggests that parents need the support of family members, friends and neighbors. But every
parent is already using all of that support they can think of, from people who know nothing about
parenting either. So, hard pass on that one.

5. He says that the issues of parenting “need to be a priority.” Well, who knew? Maybe all these
stressed parents simply didn’t know that parenting needed to be a priority. Silly. Another no.

6. He says that tech companies need to make their platforms safer. This will never happen. Tech
companies only care about profits, which they have proven uncounted times. Another hard pass.

7. Dr. Murthy wants a national paid family leave program. That might give parents more time to
be with their kids, but in that additional time the parents still won’t know how to interact with
kids who are stressed and on their phones all day and half the night. Another no.

8. He wants pediatricians to provide more mental-health screenings for parents when they bring
in their kids. So, now we’ll identify even more kids and parents who are stressed but without any
solutions. No again.

Seeing the pattern here? The Surgeon General of the United States is telling us that our kids are
intolerably stressed and even mentally ill, and parents are every bit as stressed. Then he suggests
solutions without once considering the underlying NEEDS of the parents and kids. That’s like
seeing a drowning man and offering him new furniture instead of identifying his need for, you
know, air. Not once did Dr. Murthy consider what kids and parents need most, nor did he
question whether the failure to meet that need might be the real problem.

So, what do kids and parents need? Intuitively, everybody knows the answer. Gandhi knew,
Jesus knew, the Beatles knew, for heaven’s sake. All we need is love—but not just any kind of
love. Children need unconditional love—the kind they don’t have to earn, the kind without the
pollution of disappointment and anger. But parents don’t know how to give that because they
never got it themselves.

Children who have enough unconditional love are NOT stressed. Neither are adults who feel
loved. They don’t need the intervention of the government, business, pediatricians, or tech
companies. We all need to learn what unconditional love is, we need to learn how to find it, and
we need to share it with our children. THAT is what we need, and when we have identified our
primary need, we can move to a solution.

You’re not alone here. You can learn how to find and give unconditional love.

Imagine that you’re in a rowboat in the ocean. You see that a man is drowning. What would you
do? Would you shout to him that the government should make water safer for people?
Would you say that the U.S. Coast Guard should be more available?

Would you tell the drowner to be more mindful? Or just swim harder?

Ridiculous, and yet we—including the Surgeon General, who I am not picking on—are just as
foolish in making recommendations to parents who are drowning in stress.

If you are a drowning parent, get into the rowboat, right now, and that’s exactly what I’m
offering—a boat.

We cannot do parenting alone. We need help. If you really want to eliminate the stress of
parenting, go to https://t.co/AN6HCU6XrE
Study the Ridiculously Effective Parenting Training like your life depended on it, because it
does. And your children’s lives depend on what you learn.

[Greg Baer, M.D., Relationship & Parenting Educator @RealLoveCompany]

The Surgeon General of the United States, Vivek Murthy, has announced a formal warning:
“Parenting can be harmful to your mental health.” He states that half of parents say that the stress
in their lives is COMPLETELY overwhelming. They can’t function, and they don’t know where
get help.

He says that the youth mental-health crisis is the defining public-health challenge of our time,
and parents are stressed out of their minds.

So, what is Dr. Murthy proposing as a solution for this “challenge of our time?” Predictably, he
does what everybody else has done, which is to place the responsibility in all the wrong places.

1. He challenges lawmakers to create child income-tax credits. Well, that might create a few
dollars, years from now, but that’s just throwing money at the problem. Parents with enough
money are almost as stressed as those without. So, we’ll give that solution a big “incomplete.”

2. He’s suggesting that workplaces provide courses in identifying stress in parents, and then I
laughed out loud. Why? Imagine that you’ve identified a stressed parent—which hardly requires
taking a course. But now what? What will you do to help that parent to interact more calmly with
a child who is demanding and angry? So, that solution merits a chuckle at best.

3. He suggests that parents seek more mindfulness and self-care. Hmm, I know a great many
parents who have tried that, and it does not prepare them at all for the moments when a child is
screaming in their face or refusing to come out of the room where they are gaming or glued to
social media with friends who are just as stressed, confused, and lost as they are. So, no on that
solution.

4. He suggests that parents need the support of family members, friends and neighbors. But every
parent is already using all of that support they can think of, from people who know nothing about
parenting either. So, hard pass on that one.

5. He says that the issues of parenting “need to be a priority.” Well, who knew? Maybe all these
stressed parents simply didn’t know that parenting needed to be a priority. Silly. Another no.

6. He says that tech companies need to make their platforms safer. This will never happen. Tech
companies only care about profits, which they have proven uncounted times. Another hard pass.

7. Dr. Murthy wants a national paid family leave program. That might give parents more time to
be with their kids, but in that additional time the parents still won’t know how to interact with
kids who are stressed and on their phones all day and half the night. Another no.

8. He wants pediatricians to provide more mental-health screenings for parents when they bring
in their kids. So, now we’ll identify even more kids and parents who are stressed but without any
solutions. No again.

Seeing the pattern here? The Surgeon General of the United States is telling us that our kids are
intolerably stressed and even mentally ill, and parents are every bit as stressed. Then he suggests
solutions without once considering the underlying NEEDS of the parents and kids. That’s like
seeing a drowning man and offering him new furniture instead of identifying his need for, you
know, air. Not once did Dr. Murthy consider what kids and parents need most, nor did he
question whether the failure to meet that need might be the real problem.

So, what do kids and parents need? Intuitively, everybody knows the answer. Gandhi knew,
Jesus knew, the Beatles knew, for heaven’s sake. All we need is love—but not just any kind of
love. Children need unconditional love—the kind they don’t have to earn, the kind without the
pollution of disappointment and anger. But parents don’t know how to give that because they
never got it themselves.

Children who have enough unconditional love are NOT stressed. Neither are adults who feel
loved. They don’t need the intervention of the government, business, pediatricians, or tech
companies. We all need to learn what unconditional love is, we need to learn how to find it, and
we need to share it with our children. THAT is what we need, and when we have identified our
primary need, we can move to a solution.

You’re not alone here. You can learn how to find and give unconditional love.

Imagine that you’re in a rowboat in the ocean. You see that a man is drowning. What would you
do? Would you shout to him that the government should make water safer for people?
Would you say that the U.S. Coast Guard should be more available?

Would you tell the drowner to be more mindful? Or just swim harder?

Ridiculous, and yet we—including the Surgeon General, who I am not picking on—are just as
foolish in making recommendations to parents who are drowning in stress.

If you are a drowning parent, get into the rowboat, right now, and that’s exactly what I’m
offering—a boat.

We cannot do parenting alone. We need help. If you really want to eliminate the stress of
parenting, go to https://t.co/AN6HCU7vhc
Study the Ridiculously Effective Parenting Training like your life depended on it, because it
does. And your children’s lives depend on what you learn.

[Greg Baer, M.D., Relationship & Parenting Educator @RealLoveCompany]

The Surgeon General of the United States, Vivek Murthy, has announced a formal warning:
“Parenting can be harmful to your mental health.” He states that half of parents say that the stress
in their lives is COMPLETELY overwhelming. They can’t function, and they don’t know where
get help.

He says that the youth mental-health crisis is the defining public-health challenge of our time,
and parents are stressed out of their minds.

So, what is Dr. Murthy proposing as a solution for this “challenge of our time?” Predictably, he
does what everybody else has done, which is to place the responsibility in all the wrong places.

1. He challenges lawmakers to create child income-tax credits. Well, that might create a few
dollars, years from now, but that’s just throwing money at the problem. Parents with enough
money are almost as stressed as those without. So, we’ll give that solution a big “incomplete.”

2. He’s suggesting that workplaces provide courses in identifying stress in parents, and then I
laughed out loud. Why? Imagine that you’ve identified a stressed parent—which hardly requires
taking a course. But now what? What will you do to help that parent to interact more calmly with
a child who is demanding and angry? So, that solution merits a chuckle at best.

3. He suggests that parents seek more mindfulness and self-care. Hmm, I know a great many
parents who have tried that, and it does not prepare them at all for the moments when a child is
screaming in their face or refusing to come out of the room where they are gaming or glued to
social media with friends who are just as stressed, confused, and lost as they are. So, no on that
solution.

4. He suggests that parents need the support of family members, friends and neighbors. But every
parent is already using all of that support they can think of, from people who know nothing about
parenting either. So, hard pass on that one.

5. He says that the issues of parenting “need to be a priority.” Well, who knew? Maybe all these
stressed parents simply didn’t know that parenting needed to be a priority. Silly. Another no.

6. He says that tech companies need to make their platforms safer. This will never happen. Tech
companies only care about profits, which they have proven uncounted times. Another hard pass.

7. Dr. Murthy wants a national paid family leave program. That might give parents more time to
be with their kids, but in that additional time the parents still won’t know how to interact with
kids who are stressed and on their phones all day and half the night. Another no.

8. He wants pediatricians to provide more mental-health screenings for parents when they bring
in their kids. So, now we’ll identify even more kids and parents who are stressed but without any
solutions. No again.

Seeing the pattern here? The Surgeon General of the United States is telling us that our kids are
intolerably stressed and even mentally ill, and parents are every bit as stressed. Then he suggests
solutions without once considering the underlying NEEDS of the parents and kids. That’s like
seeing a drowning man and offering him new furniture instead of identifying his need for, you
know, air. Not once did Dr. Murthy consider what kids and parents need most, nor did he
question whether the failure to meet that need might be the real problem.

So, what do kids and parents need? Intuitively, everybody knows the answer. Gandhi knew,
Jesus knew, the Beatles knew, for heaven’s sake. All we need is love—but not just any kind of
love. Children need unconditional love—the kind they don’t have to earn, the kind without the
pollution of disappointment and anger. But parents don’t know how to give that because they
never got it themselves.

Children who have enough unconditional love are NOT stressed. Neither are adults who feel
loved. They don’t need the intervention of the government, business, pediatricians, or tech
companies. We all need to learn what unconditional love is, we need to learn how to find it, and
we need to share it with our children. THAT is what we need, and when we have identified our
primary need, we can move to a solution.

You’re not alone here. You can learn how to find and give unconditional love.

Imagine that you’re in a rowboat in the ocean. You see that a man is drowning. What would you
do? Would you shout to him that the government should make water safer for people?
Would you say that the U.S. Coast Guard should be more available?

Would you tell the drowner to be more mindful? Or just swim harder?

Ridiculous, and yet we—including the Surgeon General, who I am not picking on—are just as
foolish in making recommendations to parents who are drowning in stress.

If you are a drowning parent, get into the rowboat, right now, and that’s exactly what I’m
offering—a boat.

We cannot do parenting alone. We need help. If you really want to eliminate the stress of
parenting, go to https://t.co/AN6HCU6XrE
Study the Ridiculously Effective Parenting Training like your life depended on it, because it
does. And your children’s lives depend on what you learn.

[Greg Baer, M.D., Relationship & Parenting Educator @RealLoveCompany]

The Surgeon General of the United States, Vivek Murthy, has announced a formal warning:
“Parenting can be harmful to your mental health.” He states that half of parents say that the stress
in their lives is COMPLETELY overwhelming. They can’t function, and they don’t know where
get help.

He says that the youth mental-health crisis is the defining public-health challenge of our time,
and parents are stressed out of their minds.

So, what is Dr. Murthy proposing as a solution for this “challenge of our time?” Predictably, he
does what everybody else has done, which is to place the responsibility in all the wrong places.

1. He challenges lawmakers to create child income-tax credits. Well, that might create a few
dollars, years from now, but that’s just throwing money at the problem. Parents with enough
money are almost as stressed as those without. So, we’ll give that solution a big “incomplete.”

2. He’s suggesting that workplaces provide courses in identifying stress in parents, and then I
laughed out loud. Why? Imagine that you’ve identified a stressed parent—which hardly requires
taking a course. But now what? What will you do to help that parent to interact more calmly with
a child who is demanding and angry? So, that solution merits a chuckle at best.

3. He suggests that parents seek more mindfulness and self-care. Hmm, I know a great many
parents who have tried that, and it does not prepare them at all for the moments when a child is
screaming in their face or refusing to come out of the room where they are gaming or glued to
social media with friends who are just as stressed, confused, and lost as they are. So, no on that
solution.

4. He suggests that parents need the support of family members, friends and neighbors. But every
parent is already using all of that support they can think of, from people who know nothing about
parenting either. So, hard pass on that one.

5. He says that the issues of parenting “need to be a priority.” Well, who knew? Maybe all these
stressed parents simply didn’t know that parenting needed to be a priority. Silly. Another no.

6. He says that tech companies need to make their platforms safer. This will never happen. Tech
companies only care about profits, which they have proven uncounted times. Another hard pass.

7. Dr. Murthy wants a national paid family leave program. That might give parents more time to
be with their kids, but in that additional time the parents still won’t know how to interact with
kids who are stressed and on their phones all day and half the night. Another no.

8. He wants pediatricians to provide more mental-health screenings for parents when they bring
in their kids. So, now we’ll identify even more kids and parents who are stressed but without any
solutions. No again.

Seeing the pattern here? The Surgeon General of the United States is telling us that our kids are
intolerably stressed and even mentally ill, and parents are every bit as stressed. Then he suggests
solutions without once considering the underlying NEEDS of the parents and kids. That’s like
seeing a drowning man and offering him new furniture instead of identifying his need for, you
know, air. Not once did Dr. Murthy consider what kids and parents need most, nor did he
question whether the failure to meet that need might be the real problem.

So, what do kids and parents need? Intuitively, everybody knows the answer. Gandhi knew,
Jesus knew, the Beatles knew, for heaven’s sake. All we need is love—but not just any kind of
love. Children need unconditional love—the kind they don’t have to earn, the kind without the
pollution of disappointment and anger. But parents don’t know how to give that because they
never got it themselves.

Children who have enough unconditional love are NOT stressed. Neither are adults who feel
loved. They don’t need the intervention of the government, business, pediatricians, or tech
companies. We all need to learn what unconditional love is, we need to learn how to find it, and
we need to share it with our children. THAT is what we need, and when we have identified our
primary need, we can move to a solution.

You’re not alone here. You can learn how to find and give unconditional love.

Imagine that you’re in a rowboat in the ocean. You see that a man is drowning. What would you
do? Would you shout to him that the government should make water safer for people?
Would you say that the U.S. Coast Guard should be more available?

Would you tell the drowner to be more mindful? Or just swim harder?

Ridiculous, and yet we—including the Surgeon General, who I am not picking on—are just as
foolish in making recommendations to parents who are drowning in stress.

If you are a drowning parent, get into the rowboat, right now, and that’s exactly what I’m
offering—a boat.

We cannot do parenting alone. We need help. If you really want to eliminate the stress of
parenting, go to https://t.co/AN6HCU6XrE
Study the Ridiculously Effective Parenting Training like your life depended on it, because it
does. And your children’s lives depend on what you learn.

[Greg Baer, M.D., Relationship & Parenting Educator @RealLoveCompany]

The Surgeon General of the United States, Vivek Murthy, has announced a formal warning:
“Parenting can be harmful to your mental health.” He states that half of parents say that the stress
in their lives is COMPLETELY overwhelming. They can’t function, and they don’t know where
get help.

He says that the youth mental-health crisis is the defining public-health challenge of our time,
and parents are stressed out of their minds.

So, what is Dr. Murthy proposing as a solution for this “challenge of our time?” Predictably, he
does what everybody else has done, which is to place the responsibility in all the wrong places.

1. He challenges lawmakers to create child income-tax credits. Well, that might create a few
dollars, years from now, but that’s just throwing money at the problem. Parents with enough
money are almost as stressed as those without. So, we’ll give that solution a big “incomplete.”

2. He’s suggesting that workplaces provide courses in identifying stress in parents, and then I
laughed out loud. Why? Imagine that you’ve identified a stressed parent—which hardly requires
taking a course. But now what? What will you do to help that parent to interact more calmly with
a child who is demanding and angry? So, that solution merits a chuckle at best.

3. He suggests that parents seek more mindfulness and self-care. Hmm, I know a great many
parents who have tried that, and it does not prepare them at all for the moments when a child is
screaming in their face or refusing to come out of the room where they are gaming or glued to
social media with friends who are just as stressed, confused, and lost as they are. So, no on that
solution.

4. He suggests that parents need the support of family members, friends and neighbors. But every
parent is already using all of that support they can think of, from people who know nothing about
parenting either. So, hard pass on that one.

5. He says that the issues of parenting “need to be a priority.” Well, who knew? Maybe all these
stressed parents simply didn’t know that parenting needed to be a priority. Silly. Another no.

6. He says that tech companies need to make their platforms safer. This will never happen. Tech
companies only care about profits, which they have proven uncounted times. Another hard pass.

7. Dr. Murthy wants a national paid family leave program. That might give parents more time to
be with their kids, but in that additional time the parents still won’t know how to interact with
kids who are stressed and on their phones all day and half the night. Another no.

8. He wants pediatricians to provide more mental-health screenings for parents when they bring
in their kids. So, now we’ll identify even more kids and parents who are stressed but without any
solutions. No again.

Seeing the pattern here? The Surgeon General of the United States is telling us that our kids are
intolerably stressed and even mentally ill, and parents are every bit as stressed. Then he suggests
solutions without once considering the underlying NEEDS of the parents and kids. That’s like
seeing a drowning man and offering him new furniture instead of identifying his need for, you
know, air. Not once did Dr. Murthy consider what kids and parents need most, nor did he
question whether the failure to meet that need might be the real problem.

So, what do kids and parents need? Intuitively, everybody knows the answer. Gandhi knew,
Jesus knew, the Beatles knew, for heaven’s sake. All we need is love—but not just any kind of
love. Children need unconditional love—the kind they don’t have to earn, the kind without the
pollution of disappointment and anger. But parents don’t know how to give that because they
never got it themselves.

Children who have enough unconditional love are NOT stressed. Neither are adults who feel
loved. They don’t need the intervention of the government, business, pediatricians, or tech
companies. We all need to learn what unconditional love is, we need to learn how to find it, and
we need to share it with our children. THAT is what we need, and when we have identified our
primary need, we can move to a solution.

You’re not alone here. You can learn how to find and give unconditional love.

Imagine that you’re in a rowboat in the ocean. You see that a man is drowning. What would you
do? Would you shout to him that the government should make water safer for people?
Would you say that the U.S. Coast Guard should be more available?

Would you tell the drowner to be more mindful? Or just swim harder?

Ridiculous, and yet we—including the Surgeon General, who I am not picking on—are just as
foolish in making recommendations to parents who are drowning in stress.

If you are a drowning parent, get into the rowboat, right now, and that’s exactly what I’m
offering—a boat.

We cannot do parenting alone. We need help. If you really want to eliminate the stress of
parenting, go to https://t.co/AN6HCU6XrE
Study the Ridiculously Effective Parenting Training like your life depended on it, because it
does. And your children’s lives depend on what you learn.

[Greg Baer, M.D., Relationship & Parenting Educator @RealLoveCompany]

The Surgeon General of the United States, Vivek Murthy, has announced a formal warning:
“Parenting can be harmful to your mental health.” He states that half of parents say that the stress
in their lives is COMPLETELY overwhelming. They can’t function, and they don’t know where
get help.

He says that the youth mental-health crisis is the defining public-health challenge of our time,
and parents are stressed out of their minds.

So, what is Dr. Murthy proposing as a solution for this “challenge of our time?” Predictably, he
does what everybody else has done, which is to place the responsibility in all the wrong places.

1. He challenges lawmakers to create child income-tax credits. Well, that might create a few
dollars, years from now, but that’s just throwing money at the problem. Parents with enough
money are almost as stressed as those without. So, we’ll give that solution a big “incomplete.”

2. He’s suggesting that workplaces provide courses in identifying stress in parents, and then I
laughed out loud. Why? Imagine that you’ve identified a stressed parent—which hardly requires
taking a course. But now what? What will you do to help that parent to interact more calmly with
a child who is demanding and angry? So, that solution merits a chuckle at best.

3. He suggests that parents seek more mindfulness and self-care. Hmm, I know a great many
parents who have tried that, and it does not prepare them at all for the moments when a child is
screaming in their face or refusing to come out of the room where they are gaming or glued to
social media with friends who are just as stressed, confused, and lost as they are. So, no on that
solution.

4. He suggests that parents need the support of family members, friends and neighbors. But every
parent is already using all of that support they can think of, from people who know nothing about
parenting either. So, hard pass on that one.

5. He says that the issues of parenting “need to be a priority.” Well, who knew? Maybe all these
stressed parents simply didn’t know that parenting needed to be a priority. Silly. Another no.

6. He says that tech companies need to make their platforms safer. This will never happen. Tech
companies only care about profits, which they have proven uncounted times. Another hard pass.

7. Dr. Murthy wants a national paid family leave program. That might give parents more time to
be with their kids, but in that additional time the parents still won’t know how to interact with
kids who are stressed and on their phones all day and half the night. Another no.

8. He wants pediatricians to provide more mental-health screenings for parents when they bring
in their kids. So, now we’ll identify even more kids and parents who are stressed but without any
solutions. No again.

Seeing the pattern here? The Surgeon General of the United States is telling us that our kids are
intolerably stressed and even mentally ill, and parents are every bit as stressed. Then he suggests
solutions without once considering the underlying NEEDS of the parents and kids. That’s like
seeing a drowning man and offering him new furniture instead of identifying his need for, you
know, air. Not once did Dr. Murthy consider what kids and parents need most, nor did he
question whether the failure to meet that need might be the real problem.

So, what do kids and parents need? Intuitively, everybody knows the answer. Gandhi knew,
Jesus knew, the Beatles knew, for heaven’s sake. All we need is love—but not just any kind of
love. Children need unconditional love—the kind they don’t have to earn, the kind without the
pollution of disappointment and anger. But parents don’t know how to give that because they
never got it themselves.

Children who have enough unconditional love are NOT stressed. Neither are adults who feel
loved. They don’t need the intervention of the government, business, pediatricians, or tech
companies. We all need to learn what unconditional love is, we need to learn how to find it, and
we need to share it with our children. THAT is what we need, and when we have identified our
primary need, we can move to a solution.

You’re not alone here. You can learn how to find and give unconditional love.

Imagine that you’re in a rowboat in the ocean. You see that a man is drowning. What would you
do? Would you shout to him that the government should make water safer for people?
Would you say that the U.S. Coast Guard should be more available?

Would you tell the drowner to be more mindful? Or just swim harder?

Ridiculous, and yet we—including the Surgeon General, who I am not picking on—are just as
foolish in making recommendations to parents who are drowning in stress.

If you are a drowning parent, get into the rowboat, right now, and that’s exactly what I’m
offering—a boat.

We cannot do parenting alone. We need help. If you really want to eliminate the stress of
parenting, go to https://t.co/AN6HCU7vhc
Study the Ridiculously Effective Parenting Training like your life depended on it, because it
does. And your children’s lives depend on what you learn.

[Greg Baer, M.D., Relationship & Parenting Educator @RealLoveCompany]

The Surgeon General of the United States, Vivek Murthy, has announced a formal warning:
“Parenting can be harmful to your mental health.” He states that half of parents say that the stress
in their lives is COMPLETELY overwhelming. They can’t function, and they don’t know where
get help.

He says that the youth mental-health crisis is the defining public-health challenge of our time,
and parents are stressed out of their minds.

So, what is Dr. Murthy proposing as a solution for this “challenge of our time?” Predictably, he
does what everybody else has done, which is to place the responsibility in all the wrong places.

1. He challenges lawmakers to create child income-tax credits. Well, that might create a few
dollars, years from now, but that’s just throwing money at the problem. Parents with enough
money are almost as stressed as those without. So, we’ll give that solution a big “incomplete.”

2. He’s suggesting that workplaces provide courses in identifying stress in parents, and then I
laughed out loud. Why? Imagine that you’ve identified a stressed parent—which hardly requires
taking a course. But now what? What will you do to help that parent to interact more calmly with
a child who is demanding and angry? So, that solution merits a chuckle at best.

3. He suggests that parents seek more mindfulness and self-care. Hmm, I know a great many
parents who have tried that, and it does not prepare them at all for the moments when a child is
screaming in their face or refusing to come out of the room where they are gaming or glued to
social media with friends who are just as stressed, confused, and lost as they are. So, no on that
solution.

4. He suggests that parents need the support of family members, friends and neighbors. But every
parent is already using all of that support they can think of, from people who know nothing about
parenting either. So, hard pass on that one.

5. He says that the issues of parenting “need to be a priority.” Well, who knew? Maybe all these
stressed parents simply didn’t know that parenting needed to be a priority. Silly. Another no.

6. He says that tech companies need to make their platforms safer. This will never happen. Tech
companies only care about profits, which they have proven uncounted times. Another hard pass.

7. Dr. Murthy wants a national paid family leave program. That might give parents more time to
be with their kids, but in that additional time the parents still won’t know how to interact with
kids who are stressed and on their phones all day and half the night. Another no.

8. He wants pediatricians to provide more mental-health screenings for parents when they bring
in their kids. So, now we’ll identify even more kids and parents who are stressed but without any
solutions. No again.

Seeing the pattern here? The Surgeon General of the United States is telling us that our kids are
intolerably stressed and even mentally ill, and parents are every bit as stressed. Then he suggests
solutions without once considering the underlying NEEDS of the parents and kids. That’s like
seeing a drowning man and offering him new furniture instead of identifying his need for, you
know, air. Not once did Dr. Murthy consider what kids and parents need most, nor did he
question whether the failure to meet that need might be the real problem.

So, what do kids and parents need? Intuitively, everybody knows the answer. Gandhi knew,
Jesus knew, the Beatles knew, for heaven’s sake. All we need is love—but not just any kind of
love. Children need unconditional love—the kind they don’t have to earn, the kind without the
pollution of disappointment and anger. But parents don’t know how to give that because they
never got it themselves.

Children who have enough unconditional love are NOT stressed. Neither are adults who feel
loved. They don’t need the intervention of the government, business, pediatricians, or tech
companies. We all need to learn what unconditional love is, we need to learn how to find it, and
we need to share it with our children. THAT is what we need, and when we have identified our
primary need, we can move to a solution.

You’re not alone here. You can learn how to find and give unconditional love.

Imagine that you’re in a rowboat in the ocean. You see that a man is drowning. What would you
do? Would you shout to him that the government should make water safer for people?
Would you say that the U.S. Coast Guard should be more available?

Would you tell the drowner to be more mindful? Or just swim harder?

Ridiculous, and yet we—including the Surgeon General, who I am not picking on—are just as
foolish in making recommendations to parents who are drowning in stress.

If you are a drowning parent, get into the rowboat, right now, and that’s exactly what I’m
offering—a boat.

We cannot do parenting alone. We need help. If you really want to eliminate the stress of
parenting, go to https://t.co/AN6HCU6XrE
Study the Ridiculously Effective Parenting Training like your life depended on it, because it
does. And your children’s lives depend on what you learn.

[Greg Baer, M.D., Relationship & Parenting Educator @RealLoveCompany]

The Surgeon General of the United States, Vivek Murthy, has announced a formal warning:
“Parenting can be harmful to your mental health.” He states that half of parents say that the stress
in their lives is COMPLETELY overwhelming. They can’t function, and they don’t know where
get help.

He says that the youth mental-health crisis is the defining public-health challenge of our time,
and parents are stressed out of their minds.

So, what is Dr. Murthy proposing as a solution for this “challenge of our time?” Predictably, he
does what everybody else has done, which is to place the responsibility in all the wrong places.

1. He challenges lawmakers to create child income-tax credits. Well, that might create a few
dollars, years from now, but that’s just throwing money at the problem. Parents with enough
money are almost as stressed as those without. So, we’ll give that solution a big “incomplete.”

2. He’s suggesting that workplaces provide courses in identifying stress in parents, and then I
laughed out loud. Why? Imagine that you’ve identified a stressed parent—which hardly requires
taking a course. But now what? What will you do to help that parent to interact more calmly with
a child who is demanding and angry? So, that solution merits a chuckle at best.

3. He suggests that parents seek more mindfulness and self-care. Hmm, I know a great many
parents who have tried that, and it does not prepare them at all for the moments when a child is
screaming in their face or refusing to come out of the room where they are gaming or glued to
social media with friends who are just as stressed, confused, and lost as they are. So, no on that
solution.

4. He suggests that parents need the support of family members, friends and neighbors. But every
parent is already using all of that support they can think of, from people who know nothing about
parenting either. So, hard pass on that one.

5. He says that the issues of parenting “need to be a priority.” Well, who knew? Maybe all these
stressed parents simply didn’t know that parenting needed to be a priority. Silly. Another no.

6. He says that tech companies need to make their platforms safer. This will never happen. Tech
companies only care about profits, which they have proven uncounted times. Another hard pass.

7. Dr. Murthy wants a national paid family leave program. That might give parents more time to
be with their kids, but in that additional time the parents still won’t know how to interact with
kids who are stressed and on their phones all day and half the night. Another no.

8. He wants pediatricians to provide more mental-health screenings for parents when they bring
in their kids. So, now we’ll identify even more kids and parents who are stressed but without any
solutions. No again.

Seeing the pattern here? The Surgeon General of the United States is telling us that our kids are
intolerably stressed and even mentally ill, and parents are every bit as stressed. Then he suggests
solutions without once considering the underlying NEEDS of the parents and kids. That’s like
seeing a drowning man and offering him new furniture instead of identifying his need for, you
know, air. Not once did Dr. Murthy consider what kids and parents need most, nor did he
question whether the failure to meet that need might be the real problem.

So, what do kids and parents need? Intuitively, everybody knows the answer. Gandhi knew,
Jesus knew, the Beatles knew, for heaven’s sake. All we need is love—but not just any kind of
love. Children need unconditional love—the kind they don’t have to earn, the kind without the
pollution of disappointment and anger. But parents don’t know how to give that because they
never got it themselves.

Children who have enough unconditional love are NOT stressed. Neither are adults who feel
loved. They don’t need the intervention of the government, business, pediatricians, or tech
companies. We all need to learn what unconditional love is, we need to learn how to find it, and
we need to share it with our children. THAT is what we need, and when we have identified our
primary need, we can move to a solution.

You’re not alone here. You can learn how to find and give unconditional love.

Imagine that you’re in a rowboat in the ocean. You see that a man is drowning. What would you
do? Would you shout to him that the government should make water safer for people?
Would you say that the U.S. Coast Guard should be more available?

Would you tell the drowner to be more mindful? Or just swim harder?

Ridiculous, and yet we—including the Surgeon General, who I am not picking on—are just as
foolish in making recommendations to parents who are drowning in stress.

If you are a drowning parent, get into the rowboat, right now, and that’s exactly what I’m
offering—a boat.

We cannot do parenting alone. We need help. If you really want to eliminate the stress of
parenting, go to https://t.co/AN6HCU6XrE
Study the Ridiculously Effective Parenting Training like your life depended on it, because it
does. And your children’s lives depend on what you learn.

[Greg Baer, M.D., Relationship & Parenting Educator @RealLoveCompany]

The Surgeon General of the United States, Vivek Murthy, has announced a formal warning:
“Parenting can be harmful to your mental health.” He states that half of parents say that the stress
in their lives is COMPLETELY overwhelming. They can’t function, and they don’t know where
get help.

He says that the youth mental-health crisis is the defining public-health challenge of our time,
and parents are stressed out of their minds.

So, what is Dr. Murthy proposing as a solution for this “challenge of our time?” Predictably, he
does what everybody else has done, which is to place the responsibility in all the wrong places.

1. He challenges lawmakers to create child income-tax credits. Well, that might create a few
dollars, years from now, but that’s just throwing money at the problem. Parents with enough
money are almost as stressed as those without. So, we’ll give that solution a big “incomplete.”

2. He’s suggesting that workplaces provide courses in identifying stress in parents, and then I
laughed out loud. Why? Imagine that you’ve identified a stressed parent—which hardly requires
taking a course. But now what? What will you do to help that parent to interact more calmly with
a child who is demanding and angry? So, that solution merits a chuckle at best.

3. He suggests that parents seek more mindfulness and self-care. Hmm, I know a great many
parents who have tried that, and it does not prepare them at all for the moments when a child is
screaming in their face or refusing to come out of the room where they are gaming or glued to
social media with friends who are just as stressed, confused, and lost as they are. So, no on that
solution.

4. He suggests that parents need the support of family members, friends and neighbors. But every
parent is already using all of that support they can think of, from people who know nothing about
parenting either. So, hard pass on that one.

5. He says that the issues of parenting “need to be a priority.” Well, who knew? Maybe all these
stressed parents simply didn’t know that parenting needed to be a priority. Silly. Another no.

6. He says that tech companies need to make their platforms safer. This will never happen. Tech
companies only care about profits, which they have proven uncounted times. Another hard pass.

7. Dr. Murthy wants a national paid family leave program. That might give parents more time to
be with their kids, but in that additional time the parents still won’t know how to interact with
kids who are stressed and on their phones all day and half the night. Another no.

8. He wants pediatricians to provide more mental-health screenings for parents when they bring
in their kids. So, now we’ll identify even more kids and parents who are stressed but without any
solutions. No again.

Seeing the pattern here? The Surgeon General of the United States is telling us that our kids are
intolerably stressed and even mentally ill, and parents are every bit as stressed. Then he suggests
solutions without once considering the underlying NEEDS of the parents and kids. That’s like
seeing a drowning man and offering him new furniture instead of identifying his need for, you
know, air. Not once did Dr. Murthy consider what kids and parents need most, nor did he
question whether the failure to meet that need might be the real problem.

So, what do kids and parents need? Intuitively, everybody knows the answer. Gandhi knew,
Jesus knew, the Beatles knew, for heaven’s sake. All we need is love—but not just any kind of
love. Children need unconditional love—the kind they don’t have to earn, the kind without the
pollution of disappointment and anger. But parents don’t know how to give that because they
never got it themselves.

Children who have enough unconditional love are NOT stressed. Neither are adults who feel
loved. They don’t need the intervention of the government, business, pediatricians, or tech
companies. We all need to learn what unconditional love is, we need to learn how to find it, and
we need to share it with our children. THAT is what we need, and when we have identified our
primary need, we can move to a solution.

You’re not alone here. You can learn how to find and give unconditional love.

Imagine that you’re in a rowboat in the ocean. You see that a man is drowning. What would you
do? Would you shout to him that the government should make water safer for people?
Would you say that the U.S. Coast Guard should be more available?

Would you tell the drowner to be more mindful? Or just swim harder?

Ridiculous, and yet we—including the Surgeon General, who I am not picking on—are just as
foolish in making recommendations to parents who are drowning in stress.

If you are a drowning parent, get into the rowboat, right now, and that’s exactly what I’m
offering—a boat.

We cannot do parenting alone. We need help. If you really want to eliminate the stress of
parenting, go to https://t.co/AN6HCU6XrE
Study the Ridiculously Effective Parenting Training like your life depended on it, because it
does. And your children’s lives depend on what you learn.

[Greg Baer, M.D., Relationship & Parenting Educator @RealLoveCompany]

The Surgeon General of the United States, Vivek Murthy, has announced a formal warning:
“Parenting can be harmful to your mental health.” He states that half of parents say that the stress
in their lives is COMPLETELY overwhelming. They can’t function, and they don’t know where
get help.

He says that the youth mental-health crisis is the defining public-health challenge of our time,
and parents are stressed out of their minds.

So, what is Dr. Murthy proposing as a solution for this “challenge of our time?” Predictably, he
does what everybody else has done, which is to place the responsibility in all the wrong places.

1. He challenges lawmakers to create child income-tax credits. Well, that might create a few
dollars, years from now, but that’s just throwing money at the problem. Parents with enough
money are almost as stressed as those without. So, we’ll give that solution a big “incomplete.”

2. He’s suggesting that workplaces provide courses in identifying stress in parents, and then I
laughed out loud. Why? Imagine that you’ve identified a stressed parent—which hardly requires
taking a course. But now what? What will you do to help that parent to interact more calmly with
a child who is demanding and angry? So, that solution merits a chuckle at best.

3. He suggests that parents seek more mindfulness and self-care. Hmm, I know a great many
parents who have tried that, and it does not prepare them at all for the moments when a child is
screaming in their face or refusing to come out of the room where they are gaming or glued to
social media with friends who are just as stressed, confused, and lost as they are. So, no on that
solution.

4. He suggests that parents need the support of family members, friends and neighbors. But every
parent is already using all of that support they can think of, from people who know nothing about
parenting either. So, hard pass on that one.

5. He says that the issues of parenting “need to be a priority.” Well, who knew? Maybe all these
stressed parents simply didn’t know that parenting needed to be a priority. Silly. Another no.

6. He says that tech companies need to make their platforms safer. This will never happen. Tech
companies only care about profits, which they have proven uncounted times. Another hard pass.

7. Dr. Murthy wants a national paid family leave program. That might give parents more time to
be with their kids, but in that additional time the parents still won’t know how to interact with
kids who are stressed and on their phones all day and half the night. Another no.

8. He wants pediatricians to provide more mental-health screenings for parents when they bring
in their kids. So, now we’ll identify even more kids and parents who are stressed but without any
solutions. No again.

Seeing the pattern here? The Surgeon General of the United States is telling us that our kids are
intolerably stressed and even mentally ill, and parents are every bit as stressed. Then he suggests
solutions without once considering the underlying NEEDS of the parents and kids. That’s like
seeing a drowning man and offering him new furniture instead of identifying his need for, you
know, air. Not once did Dr. Murthy consider what kids and parents need most, nor did he
question whether the failure to meet that need might be the real problem.

So, what do kids and parents need? Intuitively, everybody knows the answer. Gandhi knew,
Jesus knew, the Beatles knew, for heaven’s sake. All we need is love—but not just any kind of
love. Children need unconditional love—the kind they don’t have to earn, the kind without the
pollution of disappointment and anger. But parents don’t know how to give that because they
never got it themselves.

Children who have enough unconditional love are NOT stressed. Neither are adults who feel
loved. They don’t need the intervention of the government, business, pediatricians, or tech
companies. We all need to learn what unconditional love is, we need to learn how to find it, and
we need to share it with our children. THAT is what we need, and when we have identified our
primary need, we can move to a solution.

You’re not alone here. You can learn how to find and give unconditional love.

Imagine that you’re in a rowboat in the ocean. You see that a man is drowning. What would you
do? Would you shout to him that the government should make water safer for people?
Would you say that the U.S. Coast Guard should be more available?

Would you tell the drowner to be more mindful? Or just swim harder?

Ridiculous, and yet we—including the Surgeon General, who I am not picking on—are just as
foolish in making recommendations to parents who are drowning in stress.

If you are a drowning parent, get into the rowboat, right now, and that’s exactly what I’m
offering—a boat.

We cannot do parenting alone. We need help. If you really want to eliminate the stress of
parenting, go to https://t.co/AN6HCU6XrE
Study the Ridiculously Effective Parenting Training like your life depended on it, because it
does. And your children’s lives depend on what you learn.

[Greg Baer, M.D., Relationship & Parenting Educator @RealLoveCompany]

The Surgeon General of the United States, Vivek Murthy, has announced a formal warning:
“Parenting can be harmful to your mental health.” He states that half of parents say that the stress
in their lives is COMPLETELY overwhelming. They can’t function, and they don’t know where
get help.

He says that the youth mental-health crisis is the defining public-health challenge of our time,
and parents are stressed out of their minds.

So, what is Dr. Murthy proposing as a solution for this “challenge of our time?” Predictably, he
does what everybody else has done, which is to place the responsibility in all the wrong places.

1. He challenges lawmakers to create child income-tax credits. Well, that might create a few
dollars, years from now, but that’s just throwing money at the problem. Parents with enough
money are almost as stressed as those without. So, we’ll give that solution a big “incomplete.”

2. He’s suggesting that workplaces provide courses in identifying stress in parents, and then I
laughed out loud. Why? Imagine that you’ve identified a stressed parent—which hardly requires
taking a course. But now what? What will you do to help that parent to interact more calmly with
a child who is demanding and angry? So, that solution merits a chuckle at best.

3. He suggests that parents seek more mindfulness and self-care. Hmm, I know a great many
parents who have tried that, and it does not prepare them at all for the moments when a child is
screaming in their face or refusing to come out of the room where they are gaming or glued to
social media with friends who are just as stressed, confused, and lost as they are. So, no on that
solution.

4. He suggests that parents need the support of family members, friends and neighbors. But every
parent is already using all of that support they can think of, from people who know nothing about
parenting either. So, hard pass on that one.

5. He says that the issues of parenting “need to be a priority.” Well, who knew? Maybe all these
stressed parents simply didn’t know that parenting needed to be a priority. Silly. Another no.

6. He says that tech companies need to make their platforms safer. This will never happen. Tech
companies only care about profits, which they have proven uncounted times. Another hard pass.

7. Dr. Murthy wants a national paid family leave program. That might give parents more time to
be with their kids, but in that additional time the parents still won’t know how to interact with
kids who are stressed and on their phones all day and half the night. Another no.

8. He wants pediatricians to provide more mental-health screenings for parents when they bring
in their kids. So, now we’ll identify even more kids and parents who are stressed but without any
solutions. No again.

Seeing the pattern here? The Surgeon General of the United States is telling us that our kids are
intolerably stressed and even mentally ill, and parents are every bit as stressed. Then he suggests
solutions without once considering the underlying NEEDS of the parents and kids. That’s like
seeing a drowning man and offering him new furniture instead of identifying his need for, you
know, air. Not once did Dr. Murthy consider what kids and parents need most, nor did he
question whether the failure to meet that need might be the real problem.

So, what do kids and parents need? Intuitively, everybody knows the answer. Gandhi knew,
Jesus knew, the Beatles knew, for heaven’s sake. All we need is love—but not just any kind of
love. Children need unconditional love—the kind they don’t have to earn, the kind without the
pollution of disappointment and anger. But parents don’t know how to give that because they
never got it themselves.

Children who have enough unconditional love are NOT stressed. Neither are adults who feel
loved. They don’t need the intervention of the government, business, pediatricians, or tech
companies. We all need to learn what unconditional love is, we need to learn how to find it, and
we need to share it with our children. THAT is what we need, and when we have identified our
primary need, we can move to a solution.

You’re not alone here. You can learn how to find and give unconditional love.

Imagine that you’re in a rowboat in the ocean. You see that a man is drowning. What would you
do? Would you shout to him that the government should make water safer for people?
Would you say that the U.S. Coast Guard should be more available?

Would you tell the drowner to be more mindful? Or just swim harder?

Ridiculous, and yet we—including the Surgeon General, who I am not picking on—are just as
foolish in making recommendations to parents who are drowning in stress.

If you are a drowning parent, get into the rowboat, right now, and that’s exactly what I’m
offering—a boat.

We cannot do parenting alone. We need help. If you really want to eliminate the stress of
parenting, go to https://t.co/AN6HCU6XrE
Study the Ridiculously Effective Parenting Training like your life depended on it, because it
does. And your children’s lives depend on what you learn.

[Greg Baer, M.D., Relationship & Parenting Educator @RealLoveCompany]

The Surgeon General of the United States, Vivek Murthy, has announced a formal warning:
“Parenting can be harmful to your mental health.” He states that half of parents say that the stress
in their lives is COMPLETELY overwhelming. They can’t function, and they don’t know where
get help.

He says that the youth mental-health crisis is the defining public-health challenge of our time,
and parents are stressed out of their minds.

So, what is Dr. Murthy proposing as a solution for this “challenge of our time?” Predictably, he
does what everybody else has done, which is to place the responsibility in all the wrong places.

1. He challenges lawmakers to create child income-tax credits. Well, that might create a few
dollars, years from now, but that’s just throwing money at the problem. Parents with enough
money are almost as stressed as those without. So, we’ll give that solution a big “incomplete.”

2. He’s suggesting that workplaces provide courses in identifying stress in parents, and then I
laughed out loud. Why? Imagine that you’ve identified a stressed parent—which hardly requires
taking a course. But now what? What will you do to help that parent to interact more calmly with
a child who is demanding and angry? So, that solution merits a chuckle at best.

3. He suggests that parents seek more mindfulness and self-care. Hmm, I know a great many
parents who have tried that, and it does not prepare them at all for the moments when a child is
screaming in their face or refusing to come out of the room where they are gaming or glued to
social media with friends who are just as stressed, confused, and lost as they are. So, no on that
solution.

4. He suggests that parents need the support of family members, friends and neighbors. But every
parent is already using all of that support they can think of, from people who know nothing about
parenting either. So, hard pass on that one.

5. He says that the issues of parenting “need to be a priority.” Well, who knew? Maybe all these
stressed parents simply didn’t know that parenting needed to be a priority. Silly. Another no.

6. He says that tech companies need to make their platforms safer. This will never happen. Tech
companies only care about profits, which they have proven uncounted times. Another hard pass.

7. Dr. Murthy wants a national paid family leave program. That might give parents more time to
be with their kids, but in that additional time the parents still won’t know how to interact with
kids who are stressed and on their phones all day and half the night. Another no.

8. He wants pediatricians to provide more mental-health screenings for parents when they bring
in their kids. So, now we’ll identify even more kids and parents who are stressed but without any
solutions. No again.

Seeing the pattern here? The Surgeon General of the United States is telling us that our kids are
intolerably stressed and even mentally ill, and parents are every bit as stressed. Then he suggests
solutions without once considering the underlying NEEDS of the parents and kids. That’s like
seeing a drowning man and offering him new furniture instead of identifying his need for, you
know, air. Not once did Dr. Murthy consider what kids and parents need most, nor did he
question whether the failure to meet that need might be the real problem.

So, what do kids and parents need? Intuitively, everybody knows the answer. Gandhi knew,
Jesus knew, the Beatles knew, for heaven’s sake. All we need is love—but not just any kind of
love. Children need unconditional love—the kind they don’t have to earn, the kind without the
pollution of disappointment and anger. But parents don’t know how to give that because they
never got it themselves.

Children who have enough unconditional love are NOT stressed. Neither are adults who feel
loved. They don’t need the intervention of the government, business, pediatricians, or tech
companies. We all need to learn what unconditional love is, we need to learn how to find it, and
we need to share it with our children. THAT is what we need, and when we have identified our
primary need, we can move to a solution.

You’re not alone here. You can learn how to find and give unconditional love.

Imagine that you’re in a rowboat in the ocean. You see that a man is drowning. What would you
do? Would you shout to him that the government should make water safer for people?
Would you say that the U.S. Coast Guard should be more available?

Would you tell the drowner to be more mindful? Or just swim harder?

Ridiculous, and yet we—including the Surgeon General, who I am not picking on—are just as
foolish in making recommendations to parents who are drowning in stress.

If you are a drowning parent, get into the rowboat, right now, and that’s exactly what I’m
offering—a boat.

We cannot do parenting alone. We need help. If you really want to eliminate the stress of
parenting, go to https://t.co/AN6HCU6XrE
Study the Ridiculously Effective Parenting Training like your life depended on it, because it
does. And your children’s lives depend on what you learn.

[Greg Baer, M.D., Relationship & Parenting Educator @RealLoveCompany]

The Surgeon General of the United States, Vivek Murthy, has announced a formal warning:
“Parenting can be harmful to your mental health.” He states that half of parents say that the stress
in their lives is COMPLETELY overwhelming. They can’t function, and they don’t know where
get help.

He says that the youth mental-health crisis is the defining public-health challenge of our time,
and parents are stressed out of their minds.

So, what is Dr. Murthy proposing as a solution for this “challenge of our time?” Predictably, he
does what everybody else has done, which is to place the responsibility in all the wrong places.

1. He challenges lawmakers to create child income-tax credits. Well, that might create a few
dollars, years from now, but that’s just throwing money at the problem. Parents with enough
money are almost as stressed as those without. So, we’ll give that solution a big “incomplete.”

2. He’s suggesting that workplaces provide courses in identifying stress in parents, and then I
laughed out loud. Why? Imagine that you’ve identified a stressed parent—which hardly requires
taking a course. But now what? What will you do to help that parent to interact more calmly with
a child who is demanding and angry? So, that solution merits a chuckle at best.

3. He suggests that parents seek more mindfulness and self-care. Hmm, I know a great many
parents who have tried that, and it does not prepare them at all for the moments when a child is
screaming in their face or refusing to come out of the room where they are gaming or glued to
social media with friends who are just as stressed, confused, and lost as they are. So, no on that
solution.

4. He suggests that parents need the support of family members, friends and neighbors. But every
parent is already using all of that support they can think of, from people who know nothing about
parenting either. So, hard pass on that one.

5. He says that the issues of parenting “need to be a priority.” Well, who knew? Maybe all these
stressed parents simply didn’t know that parenting needed to be a priority. Silly. Another no.

6. He says that tech companies need to make their platforms safer. This will never happen. Tech
companies only care about profits, which they have proven uncounted times. Another hard pass.

7. Dr. Murthy wants a national paid family leave program. That might give parents more time to
be with their kids, but in that additional time the parents still won’t know how to interact with
kids who are stressed and on their phones all day and half the night. Another no.

8. He wants pediatricians to provide more mental-health screenings for parents when they bring
in their kids. So, now we’ll identify even more kids and parents who are stressed but without any
solutions. No again.

Seeing the pattern here? The Surgeon General of the United States is telling us that our kids are
intolerably stressed and even mentally ill, and parents are every bit as stressed. Then he suggests
solutions without once considering the underlying NEEDS of the parents and kids. That’s like
seeing a drowning man and offering him new furniture instead of identifying his need for, you
know, air. Not once did Dr. Murthy consider what kids and parents need most, nor did he
question whether the failure to meet that need might be the real problem.

So, what do kids and parents need? Intuitively, everybody knows the answer. Gandhi knew,
Jesus knew, the Beatles knew, for heaven’s sake. All we need is love—but not just any kind of
love. Children need unconditional love—the kind they don’t have to earn, the kind without the
pollution of disappointment and anger. But parents don’t know how to give that because they
never got it themselves.

Children who have enough unconditional love are NOT stressed. Neither are adults who feel
loved. They don’t need the intervention of the government, business, pediatricians, or tech
companies. We all need to learn what unconditional love is, we need to learn how to find it, and
we need to share it with our children. THAT is what we need, and when we have identified our
primary need, we can move to a solution.

You’re not alone here. You can learn how to find and give unconditional love.

Imagine that you’re in a rowboat in the ocean. You see that a man is drowning. What would you
do? Would you shout to him that the government should make water safer for people?
Would you say that the U.S. Coast Guard should be more available?

Would you tell the drowner to be more mindful? Or just swim harder?

Ridiculous, and yet we—including the Surgeon General, who I am not picking on—are just as
foolish in making recommendations to parents who are drowning in stress.

If you are a drowning parent, get into the rowboat, right now, and that’s exactly what I’m
offering—a boat.

We cannot do parenting alone. We need help. If you really want to eliminate the stress of
parenting, go to https://t.co/AN6HCU6XrE
Study the Ridiculously Effective Parenting Training like your life depended on it, because it
does. And your children’s lives depend on what you learn.

[Greg Baer, M.D., Relationship & Parenting Educator @RealLoveCompany]

The Surgeon General of the United States, Vivek Murthy, has announced a formal warning:
“Parenting can be harmful to your mental health.” He states that half of parents say that the stress
in their lives is COMPLETELY overwhelming. They can’t function, and they don’t know where
get help.

He says that the youth mental-health crisis is the defining public-health challenge of our time,
and parents are stressed out of their minds.

So, what is Dr. Murthy proposing as a solution for this “challenge of our time?” Predictably, he
does what everybody else has done, which is to place the responsibility in all the wrong places.

1. He challenges lawmakers to create child income-tax credits. Well, that might create a few
dollars, years from now, but that’s just throwing money at the problem. Parents with enough
money are almost as stressed as those without. So, we’ll give that solution a big “incomplete.”

2. He’s suggesting that workplaces provide courses in identifying stress in parents, and then I
laughed out loud. Why? Imagine that you’ve identified a stressed parent—which hardly requires
taking a course. But now what? What will you do to help that parent to interact more calmly with
a child who is demanding and angry? So, that solution merits a chuckle at best.

3. He suggests that parents seek more mindfulness and self-care. Hmm, I know a great many
parents who have tried that, and it does not prepare them at all for the moments when a child is
screaming in their face or refusing to come out of the room where they are gaming or glued to
social media with friends who are just as stressed, confused, and lost as they are. So, no on that
solution.

4. He suggests that parents need the support of family members, friends and neighbors. But every
parent is already using all of that support they can think of, from people who know nothing about
parenting either. So, hard pass on that one.

5. He says that the issues of parenting “need to be a priority.” Well, who knew? Maybe all these
stressed parents simply didn’t know that parenting needed to be a priority. Silly. Another no.

6. He says that tech companies need to make their platforms safer. This will never happen. Tech
companies only care about profits, which they have proven uncounted times. Another hard pass.

7. Dr. Murthy wants a national paid family leave program. That might give parents more time to
be with their kids, but in that additional time the parents still won’t know how to interact with
kids who are stressed and on their phones all day and half the night. Another no.

8. He wants pediatricians to provide more mental-health screenings for parents when they bring
in their kids. So, now we’ll identify even more kids and parents who are stressed but without any
solutions. No again.

Seeing the pattern here? The Surgeon General of the United States is telling us that our kids are
intolerably stressed and even mentally ill, and parents are every bit as stressed. Then he suggests
solutions without once considering the underlying NEEDS of the parents and kids. That’s like
seeing a drowning man and offering him new furniture instead of identifying his need for, you
know, air. Not once did Dr. Murthy consider what kids and parents need most, nor did he
question whether the failure to meet that need might be the real problem.

So, what do kids and parents need? Intuitively, everybody knows the answer. Gandhi knew,
Jesus knew, the Beatles knew, for heaven’s sake. All we need is love—but not just any kind of
love. Children need unconditional love—the kind they don’t have to earn, the kind without the
pollution of disappointment and anger. But parents don’t know how to give that because they
never got it themselves.

Children who have enough unconditional love are NOT stressed. Neither are adults who feel
loved. They don’t need the intervention of the government, business, pediatricians, or tech
companies. We all need to learn what unconditional love is, we need to learn how to find it, and
we need to share it with our children. THAT is what we need, and when we have identified our
primary need, we can move to a solution.

You’re not alone here. You can learn how to find and give unconditional love.

Imagine that you’re in a rowboat in the ocean. You see that a man is drowning. What would you
do? Would you shout to him that the government should make water safer for people?
Would you say that the U.S. Coast Guard should be more available?

Would you tell the drowner to be more mindful? Or just swim harder?

Ridiculous, and yet we—including the Surgeon General, who I am not picking on—are just as
foolish in making recommendations to parents who are drowning in stress.

If you are a drowning parent, get into the rowboat, right now, and that’s exactly what I’m
offering—a boat.

We cannot do parenting alone. We need help. If you really want to eliminate the stress of
parenting, go to https://t.co/AN6HCU6XrE
Study the Ridiculously Effective Parenting Training like your life depended on it, because it
does. And your children’s lives depend on what you learn.

[Greg Baer, M.D., Relationship & Parenting Educator @RealLoveCompany]

The Surgeon General of the United States, Vivek Murthy, has announced a formal warning:
“Parenting can be harmful to your mental health.” He states that half of parents say that the stress
in their lives is COMPLETELY overwhelming. They can’t function, and they don’t know where
get help.

He says that the youth mental-health crisis is the defining public-health challenge of our time,
and parents are stressed out of their minds.

So, what is Dr. Murthy proposing as a solution for this “challenge of our time?” Predictably, he
does what everybody else has done, which is to place the responsibility in all the wrong places.

1. He challenges lawmakers to create child income-tax credits. Well, that might create a few
dollars, years from now, but that’s just throwing money at the problem. Parents with enough
money are almost as stressed as those without. So, we’ll give that solution a big “incomplete.”

2. He’s suggesting that workplaces provide courses in identifying stress in parents, and then I
laughed out loud. Why? Imagine that you’ve identified a stressed parent—which hardly requires
taking a course. But now what? What will you do to help that parent to interact more calmly with
a child who is demanding and angry? So, that solution merits a chuckle at best.

3. He suggests that parents seek more mindfulness and self-care. Hmm, I know a great many
parents who have tried that, and it does not prepare them at all for the moments when a child is
screaming in their face or refusing to come out of the room where they are gaming or glued to
social media with friends who are just as stressed, confused, and lost as they are. So, no on that
solution.

4. He suggests that parents need the support of family members, friends and neighbors. But every
parent is already using all of that support they can think of, from people who know nothing about
parenting either. So, hard pass on that one.

5. He says that the issues of parenting “need to be a priority.” Well, who knew? Maybe all these
stressed parents simply didn’t know that parenting needed to be a priority. Silly. Another no.

6. He says that tech companies need to make their platforms safer. This will never happen. Tech
companies only care about profits, which they have proven uncounted times. Another hard pass.

7. Dr. Murthy wants a national paid family leave program. That might give parents more time to
be with their kids, but in that additional time the parents still won’t know how to interact with
kids who are stressed and on their phones all day and half the night. Another no.

8. He wants pediatricians to provide more mental-health screenings for parents when they bring
in their kids. So, now we’ll identify even more kids and parents who are stressed but without any
solutions. No again.

Seeing the pattern here? The Surgeon General of the United States is telling us that our kids are
intolerably stressed and even mentally ill, and parents are every bit as stressed. Then he suggests
solutions without once considering the underlying NEEDS of the parents and kids. That’s like
seeing a drowning man and offering him new furniture instead of identifying his need for, you
know, air. Not once did Dr. Murthy consider what kids and parents need most, nor did he
question whether the failure to meet that need might be the real problem.

So, what do kids and parents need? Intuitively, everybody knows the answer. Gandhi knew,
Jesus knew, the Beatles knew, for heaven’s sake. All we need is love—but not just any kind of
love. Children need unconditional love—the kind they don’t have to earn, the kind without the
pollution of disappointment and anger. But parents don’t know how to give that because they
never got it themselves.

Children who have enough unconditional love are NOT stressed. Neither are adults who feel
loved. They don’t need the intervention of the government, business, pediatricians, or tech
companies. We all need to learn what unconditional love is, we need to learn how to find it, and
we need to share it with our children. THAT is what we need, and when we have identified our
primary need, we can move to a solution.

You’re not alone here. You can learn how to find and give unconditional love.

Imagine that you’re in a rowboat in the ocean. You see that a man is drowning. What would you
do? Would you shout to him that the government should make water safer for people?
Would you say that the U.S. Coast Guard should be more available?

Would you tell the drowner to be more mindful? Or just swim harder?

Ridiculous, and yet we—including the Surgeon General, who I am not picking on—are just as
foolish in making recommendations to parents who are drowning in stress.

If you are a drowning parent, get into the rowboat, right now, and that’s exactly what I’m
offering—a boat.

We cannot do parenting alone. We need help. If you really want to eliminate the stress of
parenting, go to https://t.co/AN6HCU6XrE
Study the Ridiculously Effective Parenting Training like your life depended on it, because it
does. And your children’s lives depend on what you learn.

[Greg Baer, M.D., Relationship & Parenting Educator @RealLoveCompany]

The Surgeon General of the United States, Vivek Murthy, has announced a formal warning:
“Parenting can be harmful to your mental health.” He states that half of parents say that the stress
in their lives is COMPLETELY overwhelming. They can’t function, and they don’t know where
get help.

He says that the youth mental-health crisis is the defining public-health challenge of our time,
and parents are stressed out of their minds.

So, what is Dr. Murthy proposing as a solution for this “challenge of our time?” Predictably, he
does what everybody else has done, which is to place the responsibility in all the wrong places.

1. He challenges lawmakers to create child income-tax credits. Well, that might create a few
dollars, years from now, but that’s just throwing money at the problem. Parents with enough
money are almost as stressed as those without. So, we’ll give that solution a big “incomplete.”

2. He’s suggesting that workplaces provide courses in identifying stress in parents, and then I
laughed out loud. Why? Imagine that you’ve identified a stressed parent—which hardly requires
taking a course. But now what? What will you do to help that parent to interact more calmly with
a child who is demanding and angry? So, that solution merits a chuckle at best.

3. He suggests that parents seek more mindfulness and self-care. Hmm, I know a great many
parents who have tried that, and it does not prepare them at all for the moments when a child is
screaming in their face or refusing to come out of the room where they are gaming or glued to
social media with friends who are just as stressed, confused, and lost as they are. So, no on that
solution.

4. He suggests that parents need the support of family members, friends and neighbors. But every
parent is already using all of that support they can think of, from people who know nothing about
parenting either. So, hard pass on that one.

5. He says that the issues of parenting “need to be a priority.” Well, who knew? Maybe all these
stressed parents simply didn’t know that parenting needed to be a priority. Silly. Another no.

6. He says that tech companies need to make their platforms safer. This will never happen. Tech
companies only care about profits, which they have proven uncounted times. Another hard pass.

7. Dr. Murthy wants a national paid family leave program. That might give parents more time to
be with their kids, but in that additional time the parents still won’t know how to interact with
kids who are stressed and on their phones all day and half the night. Another no.

8. He wants pediatricians to provide more mental-health screenings for parents when they bring
in their kids. So, now we’ll identify even more kids and parents who are stressed but without any
solutions. No again.

Seeing the pattern here? The Surgeon General of the United States is telling us that our kids are
intolerably stressed and even mentally ill, and parents are every bit as stressed. Then he suggests
solutions without once considering the underlying NEEDS of the parents and kids. That’s like
seeing a drowning man and offering him new furniture instead of identifying his need for, you
know, air. Not once did Dr. Murthy consider what kids and parents need most, nor did he
question whether the failure to meet that need might be the real problem.

So, what do kids and parents need? Intuitively, everybody knows the answer. Gandhi knew,
Jesus knew, the Beatles knew, for heaven’s sake. All we need is love—but not just any kind of
love. Children need unconditional love—the kind they don’t have to earn, the kind without the
pollution of disappointment and anger. But parents don’t know how to give that because they
never got it themselves.

Children who have enough unconditional love are NOT stressed. Neither are adults who feel
loved. They don’t need the intervention of the government, business, pediatricians, or tech
companies. We all need to learn what unconditional love is, we need to learn how to find it, and
we need to share it with our children. THAT is what we need, and when we have identified our
primary need, we can move to a solution.

You’re not alone here. You can learn how to find and give unconditional love.

Imagine that you’re in a rowboat in the ocean. You see that a man is drowning. What would you
do? Would you shout to him that the government should make water safer for people?
Would you say that the U.S. Coast Guard should be more available?

Would you tell the drowner to be more mindful? Or just swim harder?

Ridiculous, and yet we—including the Surgeon General, who I am not picking on—are just as
foolish in making recommendations to parents who are drowning in stress.

If you are a drowning parent, get into the rowboat, right now, and that’s exactly what I’m
offering—a boat.

We cannot do parenting alone. We need help. If you really want to eliminate the stress of
parenting, go to https://t.co/AN6HCU6XrE
Study the Ridiculously Effective Parenting Training like your life depended on it, because it
does. And your children’s lives depend on what you learn.