life hacks every man should learn and do at least once a year
1. wake up early on a saturday and take yourself out for breakfast. dress clean, smell good, go somewhere calm and order a proper meal. no rush, no pressure. just sit, eat slowly and enjoy the moment. take a few selfies too even if you usually don’t.
2. book a decent hotel room in your city for one night. nothing too expensive, just comfortable. carry a small bag like you’re escaping life for a bit. order food, take a long shower, put your phone away for some time and rest properly. learn that peace is the luxury.
3. take yourself to the cinema alone. buy popcorn. pick the exact seat you actually want. think deeply, laugh hard, cry if you need to, feel whatever you feel, no one talking to you. just you and the movie.
4. go to a café on a weekday, order a drink and a small pastry. sit by the window and face your phone down for a bit. watch people going to work, students rushing, cars passing, birds singing, children playing, just life moving in that pace.
5. take yourself somewhere peaceful outdoors. maybe a park, a quiet road, a waterfront or anywhere with fresh air. walk slowly with music in your ears or just enjoy the silence. clear your head a little.
6. learn to genuinely enjoy your own company, brother. if you can be happy alone, you become harder to break, harder to pressure and harder to control.
7. enjoy yourself man. come on, you need it, you deserve it.
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I once had a girl who reached out to me first and we started talking.
Then I discovered she deliberately extended her reply time. She’ll text me “hi, how are you doing” I’ll reply in minutes (like a normal human being) “I’m fine, how are you doing” and she’ll take another hour to reply that.
I told her if we are going to have a conversation then she might need to reply within normal time. She apologized and agreed and tried for that day.
But then she continued right after, replying after 1 whole day. I too decided to reply after 2 whole days (let’s all be mad together). I basically doubled every reply time she gave, even if I was with my phone at the time and not busy at all.
Then at some point I asked myself “what am I doing? Why am I playing all these games and doing all these mental gymnastics at this age?”
I reminded myself that women are always with their phones and if she wasn’t replying on time maybe she wasn’t so interested after all. And if she was and still playing these games then she wasn’t healthy enough for me to have anything to do with her.
Also, me intentionally replying late also was me playing her games. Games I didn’t need to play.
Let’s say I beat her at her games and she now liked me is this what I will have to keep up with to keep her interested? Endless mind games? Abeg abeg, I’ll pass.
They tell you do not double text, do not compliment, do not call until after so so time, you won’t need to play all these games with a person who actually wants a healthy relationship with you. Abeg let her go. It’s tiring.
Nothing Dey womanizing pass billing. Tell me why I am pressing 20k for a gal I met a week ago.. I know if I didn’t press it , The vibe will reduce by 80% . But since I did , see quicker replies, see video calls on tank tops . But is it worth it ? How long will I continue this ?
On first dates, I mostly ask questions around the following:
1. Genotype
2. I usually ask about themselves: things they enjoy doing, favorite meals, birthday, and the major things I need to know about them at first. Like, do you sleep with the lights on or off? 😂
3. Who in your life has influenced you the most? This is more important than it sounds. Listen to the kind of people they take as role models or who influenced them growing up. If they ever mention people like Tacha, Saida Boi, or BBNaija stars, you know what to do next.
4. How important is family in your life?
5. What’s one thing about yourself you think most people don’t notice?
6. How do you handle issues when you’re angry or when things aren’t going your way?
7. How do you feel about gender roles in marriage?
8. How do you handle conflict with family members?
9. What’s your take on feminism or gender equality?
10. What’s the one thing you refuse to compromise on in a relationship?
11. How much influence should parents have in your marriage?
12. How do you handle jealousy, your own or a partner’s?
13. How would you describe your relationship with your father?
14. How important is religion in your life and relationships?
15. How do you define success for yourself?
16. What’s the end goal of a relationship for you?
17. Have you ever thought about marriage, and when do you see yourself settling down?
18. How many kids would you want to have?
19. Have you experienced any childhood trauma?
20. What really happened in your previous relationships? Where did it go wrong?
21. What’s a dream you’ve had since childhood that you still want to pursue?
22. Do you regret any major life decisions, and why?
23. Have you ever sacrificed something important for someone else?
24. What’s your take on forgiveness?
25. What’s a personal habit you’re trying to unlearn?
Our generation is cooked. These days, you can’t even love genuinely or go all out for someone without holding back, because at the end of the day, you either feel used or actually get used.
I can’t focus. That video hasn’t left my mind all day.
That boy saw death coming and kept begging, pleading with someone who is meant to protect him to spare his life.
The officer wasn’t even in uniform. He picked up a rifle and still went through with it. There were moments to stop (the rifle didn't work after multiple trials), to rethink, to choose differently… but he didn’t.
It’s beyond cruel. Insanity!
Terrible. Terrible people.
People don’t understand how famous Michael Jackson was. Nobody else came close. He was known in every 3rd world country as well as the west. He couldn’t PA at nightclubs or restaurants like other celebs. No sitting court side at NBA games or ring side at boxing events. Why? Because fans would just cause chaos and shut the place down. People don’t understand that level of fame.
The whole world tuned in to watch the thriller premier, before social media and YouTube etc. He could sing, dance, choreograph, hardly did interviews, aura was another level, world leaders would ask to meet him. Roads shut down when he was staying at hotels etc.
Nobody before or since can compare, stop these lame comparisons. People used to faint when they saw him in person. It was insane and unheard of. There will only be one Michael Jackson and never again will we witness such talent and aura. Never.
I really love to see a woman who is well put together and looks really good. Always do your nails, maintain good skin, smell good, wear a quality wig, and invest in yourself. Looking good is never a waste of money.
A woman in boyfriend jeans, a crop top that shows a bit of her belly, a quality wig, clean skin, good-smelling, with flat slippers will always catch my attention any day, anytime.
I also have an unpopular opinion: if you can’t afford a good-quality wig, you can just braid your hair. Nothing reduces your appearance like fake, low-quality wigs.
I’m drawn to a certain kind of woman, the ones who look top tier. And honestly, I don’t care how good your character is; if you don’t look sophisticated, I’m not likely to stick around long enough to find out.