If your significant other doesn’t like onions, you blend it into the food. Meet yourselves in the middle.
If your S/O doesn’t like sleeping with light on? The middle ground is usually that you should get an eye mask.
If you’re clingy and they aren’t? You cling a little less, they lean in a little more. That’s usually where the middle is found.
If you love PDA and they don’t? Dial it down a little, they dial it up a little. Meet yourselves in the middle.
Life isn’t hard, date considerate people that actually like you.
VDM is 100% right about what he said. My own experience was brutal.
During my abduction, I experienced what can only be described as slavery in the hands of bandits. After my family struggled to gather ₦15 million and other items they demanded, we thought the nightmare would end. Instead, the very next day, they increased the ransom to ₦55 million. That was when the real suffering began.
The group that kidnapped me had abducted 11 people. My driver was killed. Out of the remaining victims, 9 were eventually released, but I was not. The leader gave my family a five-day ultimatum to pay the ₦55 million or he would kill me.
On the 22nd day in the forest, a day before the deadline expired, he ordered two of his boys to take me somewhere else. We rode on motorcycles for hours through the night. When we finally arrived, I was handed over to another group. There, I met two victims who were already chained down. They handcuffed and chained me alongside them.
That was the last day I ever saw the group that originally kidnapped me.
The new group was even worse. I spent another 20 days with them, enduring severe beatings, torture, hunger, and constant threats. They demanded ₦50 million from my family. At one point, one of the bandits even collected ₦2 million through a bank transfer, yet they still refused to release me.
In the end, I escaped.
Sometimes when people discuss kidnapping online, they don't fully understand the horror victims go through. The physical pain heals, but the memories remain. No human being should have to experience such cruelty.
Honestly, this country's insecurity is heartbreaking and inhumane.💔😭🇳🇬
As a survivor of kidnapping and banditry, I can tell you that these criminals believe that no matter how much they take from you, you will eventually work and earn it back after your release.
Let me use myself as an example. After my family paid the ₦15 million ransom they demanded, along with other items worth over ₦600,000, they still weren't satisfied. They continued demanding more money and eventually asked for ₦55 million. They even told my mother to sell her house and car to raise the money.
Because my family rented a vehicle to deliver the ransom and other requested items, the kidnappers assumed we owned the car and were wealthy. They kept insisting that we sell all our properties and hand over the proceeds to them.
Omo, it was a terrible ordeal. The fear, pressure, and emotional torture were overwhelming. Watching my family struggle to meet their endless demands was heartbreaking.
One painful reality is that they often target ordinary and struggling people like us because we are easier to capture than the elites, who usually have better security and protection.
This is why we cannot continue to stay silent. Kidnapping and banditry have destroyed countless lives, families, and dreams across Nigeria. We need to raise our voices, stand together as a nation, and demand urgent action against insecurity.
Today it may be someone else's family. Tomorrow it could be yours. Enough is enough. 💔🇳🇬🙏🏽
“She came back with a spare key and entered his house. She burnt his papers, burnt his cloths, threw his gadgets outside under the rain. Destroyed his passport, and was waiting for him”
She did all these because she wanted to get a reaction from him, she wanted him to hit her so she’ll run to the police and report him. If he had touched her, she would have destroyed him.
If you master self control as a man, you’ve solved 90% of your problems in life.
Do you have any old friends that had so much potential but they took the wrong path that destroyed them? Now, anytime you see them, you weep for what could have been.
Same police man that asked me why my yansh was shaking even as I wore trousers, and he even had to touch my yansh also. There was a bit of hold-up a few years ago in 2023.
I had to hop on a bike when him and his squad stopped the bike. He asked me to come down. He, in particular, hit me with a gun and dragged the bike man down, and asked me to enter their shuttle bus. As I was approaching the shuttle bus, he hit me again with his gun and said why was my yansh shaking. I couldn’t say anything. He hit me again with the same gun and said I should thank God it’s daytime, if not he would have wasted me.
He said I must pay 50k. I asked for which crime. He said he will take me to the police station and they will deal with me if I don’t pay. I said okay, I prefer to go to the station. One boy in the bus said if I have money I should pay, if not they might rape me on the way. He asked another guy in mufti to follow me to a POS and withdraw, so I withdrew 50k and gave them.
I will attach how I was dressed that day. It wasn’t even indecent. I cried and cried and told him Earth will deal with him. Most of these police are brutal. He was so bold in telling me I should thank God it was in a day time if not… #endpolicebrutality
My husband appreciation to everyone for all your supports, please🙏 guys we're also seeking for more support so he can be able to achieve his dreams 🙏🙏,
God bless everyone, 🙏🙏