Choosing Me/Her/Us

I’d rather be a good man than look like a perfect guy. Working to have the best marriage with my incredible wife

[Choosing Me/Her/Us @Rebuildingl0ve]

Had a fun .5 mi swim in the Gulf of Mexico during the international tri this month. I was not ready for the waves or the taste of salt water. Hell I wanted to quit 200 yards into it but my daughters hair and helped me quiet the fear and push through.

[Choosing Me/Her/Us @Rebuildingl0ve]

2025 goals
Be faster, better and stronger than last year.
Q1 marathon in under 4:54
Q2 hike 38 miles over 3 days
Q3 half iron marathon
Q4 over 843 lb at power lifting meet

[Choosing Me/Her/Us @Rebuildingl0ve]

Started running with a colleague and I’ll start inviting my subordinates to my lunch work out. Mentoring others does wonders to fill up my cup.

[Choosing Me/Her/Us @Rebuildingl0ve]

2025 goal

Take care of myself and then I can support others.

Sleep 7 hours a night
Drink more water
Eat healthy
Work out daily (at least 25 mins walking)
More sunlight
Less screen time
More physical social connection

[Choosing Me/Her/Us @Rebuildingl0ve]

I wish I could say I made more progress on this front… trying to rebalance my energy for work/dad/husband so I’m not just bringing her leftovers but rather prioritizing her part of my heart and only giving others from that remainder.

[Choosing Me/Her/Us @Rebuildingl0ve]

2025 goal

My most important relationship besides the one to myself is to my wife. I look forward to making more fun memories with her this year. I will plan weekly 4 hour dates. I want my wife to say I’m appreciative, supportive, open and vulnerable with her.

[Choosing Me/Her/Us @Rebuildingl0ve]

Had a great time camping with the kids and doing theme parks. This month we have a family trip for thanksgiving, coaching my son in wrestling and fishing with my daughter. I hope they’ll enjoy these memories with me as much as I’ll enjoy time with them.

[Choosing Me/Her/Us @Rebuildingl0ve]

2024 goals
I will always be the father of my son and daughter. My goal this year is 1 hour each weekend for each kid of one on one time.

[Choosing Me/Her/Us @Rebuildingl0ve]

@AlisaCoaches As always ma’am, you’re too kind.

[Choosing Me/Her/Us @Rebuildingl0ve]

An impassioned message so many benefit from listening to. *resumes taking notes*

[Mistress Alisa @AlisaCoaches]

Announcing a new season and a new episode of The Relationship Renaissance Podcast:

S03E01: Reclaiming Female-Led Relationships (Welcome To The Revolution!)

#podcast #femaleledrelationships #FLRRevolution
https://t.co/Fz7JPt9opb

[Choosing Me/Her/Us @Rebuildingl0ve]

@AlisaCoaches As always, very kind of you ma’am.

[Choosing Me/Her/Us @Rebuildingl0ve]

Sleeps not nearly as big of a problem as it was in the past but (in person) social connection continues to lag.

[Choosing Me/Her/Us @Rebuildingl0ve]

2025 goal

Take care of myself and then I can support others.

Sleep 7 hours a night
Drink more water
Eat healthy
Work out daily (at least 25 mins walking)
More sunlight
Less screen time
More physical social connection

[Choosing Me/Her/Us @Rebuildingl0ve]

Really excited about camping and all day Saturday with my daughter. Will have a theme park day with my son later on in the month.

[Choosing Me/Her/Us @Rebuildingl0ve]

2024 goals
I will always be the father of my son and daughter. My goal this year is 1 hour each weekend for each kid of one on one time.

[Choosing Me/Her/Us @Rebuildingl0ve]

In accordance with gottman principles and our busy lives, moved to 2 hour date but added weekly 1 hour review.

[Choosing Me/Her/Us @Rebuildingl0ve]

2025 goal

My most important relationship besides the one to myself is to my wife. I look forward to making more fun memories with her this year. I will plan weekly 4 hour dates. I want my wife to say I’m appreciative, supportive, open and vulnerable with her.

[Choosing Me/Her/Us @Rebuildingl0ve]

Looking like an international (shorter distance) instead of an oly or 70.3 triathlon this month just due to new location and different race availability but I’m feeling ready for this challenge.

[Choosing Me/Her/Us @Rebuildingl0ve]

2025 goals
Be faster, better and stronger than last year.
Q1 marathon in under 4:54
Q2 hike 38 miles over 3 days
Q3 half iron marathon
Q4 over 843 lb at power lifting meet

[Choosing Me/Her/Us @Rebuildingl0ve]

Always a great learning opportunity, @AlisaCoaches

[Mistress Alisa @AlisaCoaches]

🎙️New Chainbreaker Podcast Episode🎙️

E29: Dealing With the Guilt of Failure In Sexual Addiction Recovery
https://t.co/tbwE9kY9MR

[Choosing Me/Her/Us @Rebuildingl0ve]

@AlisaCoaches It’s always the goal to make it better for the next generation. Leave it better than you found it.

[Choosing Me/Her/Us @Rebuildingl0ve]

@AlisaCoaches Definitely worth aspiring towards.

[Choosing Me/Her/Us @Rebuildingl0ve]

Apparently x didn’t like my 2025 fatherhood goal…

My son has taken on football but wasn’t ready to get hit. My daughter is enjoying gymnastics.

[Choosing Me/Her/Us @Rebuildingl0ve]

2024 goals
I will always be the father of my son and daughter. My goal this year is 1 hour each weekend for each kid of one on one time.

[Choosing Me/Her/Us @Rebuildingl0ve]

This has been a big challenge this month. Looking to have small wins this month.

[Choosing Me/Her/Us @Rebuildingl0ve]

2025 goal

My most important relationship besides the one to myself is to my wife. I look forward to making more fun memories with her this year. I will plan weekly 4 hour dates. I want my wife to say I’m appreciative, supportive, open and vulnerable with her.

[Choosing Me/Her/Us @Rebuildingl0ve]

Hitting most of these though still need to work on tilting scales from screen time to real social time.

[Choosing Me/Her/Us @Rebuildingl0ve]

2025 goal

Take care of myself and then I can support others.

Sleep 7 hours a night
Drink more water
Eat healthy
Work out daily (at least 25 mins walking)
More sunlight
Less screen time
More physical social connection

[Choosing Me/Her/Us @Rebuildingl0ve]

Beat last years total. Hit 300 lb squat, 185 lb bench and pred the deadlift this month. Looking ahead to an Olympic triathlon next month and likely hike in q4.

[Choosing Me/Her/Us @Rebuildingl0ve]

2025 goals
Be faster, better and stronger than last year.
Q1 marathon in under 4:54
Q2 hike 38 miles over 3 days
Q3 half iron marathon
Q4 over 843 lb at power lifting meet

[Choosing Me/Her/Us @Rebuildingl0ve]

Change in timeline due to the summer heat. Weight lifting competition this month, triathlon in Oct, hike in Nov.

[Choosing Me/Her/Us @Rebuildingl0ve]

2025 goals
Be faster, better and stronger than last year.
Q1 marathon in under 4:54
Q2 hike 38 miles over 3 days
Q3 half iron marathon
Q4 over 843 lb at power lifting meet

[Choosing Me/Her/Us @Rebuildingl0ve]

Sleep hygiene has improved but still working on more in person social interactions to increase the base of support so I don’t over-rely on my wife

[Choosing Me/Her/Us @Rebuildingl0ve]

2025 goal

Take care of myself and then I can support others.

Sleep 7 hours a night
Drink more water
Eat healthy
Work out daily (at least 25 mins walking)
More sunlight
Less screen time
More physical social connection