@BaileyisBratty Exactly part of the point I was trying to make but idiots like to pick and choose what they read and make their own narrative and assumptions.
If you as a sub are DMing vanilla girls on social media (who aren’t Dommes), to send money to, you’re a predator.
Stop bringing unwilling & non-consenting people into your kink so you can take advantage of them because they don’t know any better. Disgusting.
@addictedtoaliza Thanks for sharing! Of course it can be a way for someone to discover the industry, but the intention behind it isn’t always consensual nor sincere.
A lot of you are missing the point entirely. This has nothing to do with jealousy or gatekeeping findom. How tf did you get that from me talking about involving people in your kink who haven’t consented to it?
This is about subs deliberately seeking out vanilla women who aren’t involved in or familiar with the kink. Findom is a fetish, and participating in a kink dynamic requires informed consent and an understanding of what you’re agreeing to.
Some men who call themselves “subs” intentionally target vanilla women because they don’t understand the fetish or the dynamics involved. They can send a measly $10, receive endless praise for it, and exploit that lack of experience under the guise of being “generous.”
Others do it because they want to mold an inexperienced woman into their ideal version of a “Domme,” controlling the dynamic to suit their own fantasies.. which is topping from the bottom.
If someone wants to genuinely explore findom, all the power to her. There’s plenty of real subs and money to go around. Some women will stay, some won’t, and that’s for them to discover on their own terms.
But deliberately targeting women because they’re unfamiliar with your fetish isn’t generosity. It’s manipulation.
Consenting to receive money is not automatically consenting to participate in your kink.
@J701981141168 Good point. However there’s a difference between participating in a kink consensually and the consequences of someone’s participation of that kink being a third party. I’m sessioning with the husband who’s making an active choice to participate and not the wife.