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Making the difference I can as a HR professional

[Morenike @Rennyfadipe]

As a HR professional, I find it strange that some firms ask prospective employees to provide bank statements or payslips as part of the recruitment process. Shouldn't this be a data privacy concern? I know it's common in our terrain but I find it absurd and violating.

[Tega Oghenejobo | #SMD @TEGAMAVIN]

There are still worlds left to build and we are still hungry to do more, just like in the beginning. As Mavin celebrates its 14th anniversary, special shoutout to everyone who has supported our vision, artists, producers, teams, stakeholders and fans over the years.

[Dr Joe Abah, OON @DrJoeAbah]

A little while ago, my brother @pokigbo invited me to join a small book club of select people. Every month, we read a topical book, meet at his lovely home, discuss the book for two hours, and then enjoy a sumptuous dinner prepared by his beautiful, intelligent wife.

Last Saturday, we met in his home to discuss the book ‘How China Escaped The Poverty Trap’ by Yuen Yuen Ang. Remarkably, we were joined online by the author herself and in person by the Chinese Ambassador to Nigeria who shared his lived, empirical experiences of China’s transformation. I actually gave up watching a crucial Arsenal match and braved the Abuja rain to join. 😀

What I found most remarkable about the book was how China used what it already had, including imperfect institutions, to lift their people out of poverty. They did not wait until they had “strong institutions” or to eliminate corruption, before they led their people to prosperity. It was growth and economic prosperity that led to stronger institutions, not the other way round.

They used what could be called ‘Directed Improvisation’ where Beijing set out a vision and then allowed the provinces to innovate and compete among each other. Anything that worked in one province was encouraged and replicated elsewhere. It was humbling that cities like Shenzen alone had double the GDP of Nigeria! And there weee many more cities!

It was a refreshing break from the mud pit that Twitter can be.

And no, you cannot join because he carefully curated who he invited, and each participant brought a particular perspective that complemented others'. From policy makers to academics to senior government officials (current and former) to young men and women.

Although you can’t join this particular book club, you can start your own book club, since I’ve shared his template with you. 😀

I look forward to next month’s book, the informed discussions and intellectual sword crossings, and the lovely dinner and good wine. 😀

[Brytex👽 @Brightola11]

You bought your mother a car and a house with Yahoo money and you think you’ve made it.

Have you ever stopped to think about the mothers on the other side of the screen?

The ones who can no longer afford their medication because you emptied their accounts?

The ones who are crying every night because of the 'work' you did?

You are literally taking the tears of other people’s parents and using them to buy smiles for your own.

That is not a blessing, that is a generational debt. God is just, and He will not allow you to build your paradise on the hell you created for others.

Stop now, or get ready to watch everything you built on tears crumble in shame.

It’s better to give your parents 'pure water' money with peace than to give them a Lexus with a curse.

Stop doing yahoo.

[Olúwatósìn Olaseinde @tosinolaseinde]

May your day of opportunity not meet you unprepared.

[MAGGIE PARKER🇳🇬🇬🇧 @Maggiewitdsauce]

This is solid advice 🙌
And if he is teachable and applies wisdom, he will navigate it well. If I may add, marriage goes far beyond just the relationship between a man and his wife. Once children come into the picture, everything shifts. As a man, it becomes essential to grow in your understanding of parenthood and to learn how to be an even better partner to your wife as she transitions into motherhood.

Life will not always remain the same as it was when it was just the two of you, and that i something many people fail to prepare for.

Motherhood is a deep, demanding journey. For many women, it can bring a level of exhaustion that is not always visible, especially when most of the responsibility falls on them. This can also affect areas like intimacy, not out of neglect, but from sheer physical and emotional fatigue.

Sometimes, something as simple as checking in on your wife mentally after work can make a huge difference. On days when you desire intimacy, let it not begin with expectation but with care. Prepare a warm bath for her. Help with the baby to ease her load. Offer her a shoulder massage, and create space where she can also pour into you.

Take time to have meaningful, intimate conversations. Remind her that she is beautiful. Appreciate her for all she does for the child and for you. And in a healthy dynamic, she will also meet you halfway, expressing gratitude for your efforts and presence.

When both spouses feel seen, valued, and supported, intimacy flows naturally. Before you know it, connection is restored, affection deepens, and everything else follows effortlessly.

[MAGGIE PARKER🇳🇬🇬🇧 @Maggiewitdsauce]

A few years ago, back when Facebook was still new and people were just exploring connections, I made a post that came from a simple thought. I said that a lot of men had never actually been taken out on a date before. So I decided to do something different. I offered to take one guy out on a date, my treat, as long as he lived close by. I asked anyone interested to send me a message, and I would choose.

Among the responses, there was one guy I already noticed. He was handsome, and he always liked and commented on my posts. He reached out, and we started chatting. I asked if he was nearby and where he would like us to go. In the middle of our conversation, he paused and told me there was something important I needed to know before making my decision.

I told him to go ahead.

He said that if we went on the date, we would have to communicate only through text messages, even while sitting across from each other. I was confused and asked why. That was when he told me he was deaf and couldn’t speak. He explained that he wasn’t born that way. He lost his hearing at the age of four after an illness and medication. Because he was still very young and just learning how to speak at the time, he never fully developed his speech.

Hearing that broke my heart. He seemed almost apologetic, like he felt he might not be a good choice anymore. But for me, it changed nothing. If anything, it made me even more certain. I told him I had made a promise, and I was going to keep it. I asked him to get ready, because we were going out.

Later that evening, we met at the venue. We greeted each other with a hug, and I couldn’t help but notice how handsome he was in person. We ordered our food and sat across from each other, communicating through our phones just as he had said.

What stood out the most was how much he laughed. Even without sound, his joy was so visible and genuine. It felt good to know that I had brightened his day. As we talked, he opened up about his struggles with building real relationships because of his disability. I encouraged him not to give up, and I told him that one day, things would fall into place for him.

We stayed in touch as friends for a while after that.
Then one day, while scrolling through Facebook, I saw that he had gotten married to a beautiful woman.
And honestly, that made me really happy.

[Morenike @Rennyfadipe]

@jon_d_doe Yoruba or Igbo.
I'm Yoruba

[Morenike @Rennyfadipe]

@TEGAMAVIN Happy birthday boss.
Wish you many more amazing years.

[MAGGIE PARKER🇳🇬🇬🇧 @Maggiewitdsauce]

I don't really think the blame is mostly on "WOKE IDEOLOGIES " . This my reason for my perspective.

Men and women share responsibility in shaping a marriage, but both have contributed to its current challenges. Traditionally, men were primarily providers and took pride in that role. Today, however, it’s increasingly common to find men asking for financial contributions from women to build a home. As a matter of fact, you hardly come to this x app and not read from men talking about splitting financial responsibilities with their women.

At the same time, some women who were content in their supportive roles were made to feel as if they were contributing little to the family’s growth. There was a time few months ago, that i had to educate grown men about the work wives do in maintaining the home because a lot of them deliberately acted clueless and were undermining the role of a wife.

In many modern households, the role of a wife is undervalued like i have pointed out earlier, and the labor involved in maintaining a home is minimized. When this happens, resentment naturally grows, and women may feel compelled to take on responsibilities beyond the home and this reflects a broader reality in many marriages today.

Originally, Marriage was meant to be complementary. A man’s role is to lead, provide, and protect the household, make sound financial and long-term decisions, and create a stable foundation for the family in case of unforeseen events. Yet, today, many men prioritize short-term pleasures over building financial security. Trust is hard to maintain when there is fear that resources may be diverted to another woman or squandered due to impulsive behavior, promiscuity, or a lack of self-discipline. Some men also began to use their role to make their women beg or suffer before she could even get a penny from her husband and these men call this submission.

Gambling is another factor. Countless families suffer when a husband’s reckless gambling jeopardizes the household’s financial stability. The stories we hear every day reflect this reality. We have read how so many women have had to assume the role of a husband because the man became too comfortable not providing.

The truth is ,unless couples intentionally commit to supporting each other in all aspects,financial, emotional, and practical, marriage will continue to drift from its original balance.

A woman left without financial security must step into roles traditionally expected of men to sustain the household and this dual burden,managing both her own responsibilities and those of a husband,makes it difficult for her to fully embrace her femininity or thrive within the marriage.

Lastly, to be fair, some men were genuinely committed to providing, yet their spouses sometimes took advantage of their support. When finances were misused, whether through cheating or excessive spending, and it left these men with no choice but to step back.

All these and many more are contributing factors to why marriages have evolved from how it used to be way back.

[Morenike @Rennyfadipe]

@jon_d_doe 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾

[John Wick @bond_00Seven]

A woman who is in constant "worry" mode can never function properly as a wife.

Your ability to manage her emotions during this period is very key.

You must make sure you leave the house every single day. You must make sure you reduce her workload around the house.

You must

[MAGGIE PARKER🇳🇬🇬🇧 @Maggiewitdsauce]

This is reality and to add to what's already said. Anyone with wisdom understands that regardless of who you marry, financial stability plays a major role in the health of that union. A lack of it can quietly build resentment over time.

Many men overlook this. If you find yourself in a situation where you can no longer provide as you once did, step up in other ways that do not require money. At the same time, stay committed to rebuilding your financial strength.

As a man, being a provider carries weight. Do not rely on a single source of income. Love alone cannot sustain a relationship or a marriage.
Be kind. Be resourceful. Be industrious. Always have a next move.

[MAGGIE PARKER🇳🇬🇬🇧 @Maggiewitdsauce]

It takes real wisdom to read a message carefully and truly understand it. If the same words had come from someone they favored, there likely wouldn’t have been any uproar at all. People react selectively, depending on who delivers the message rather than the message itself.

What you said on that topic was very simple for anyone with common sense to understand without misinterpretation.

[Morenike @Rennyfadipe]

@chairman7300 @jon_d_doe "I don't know why Agba blocked me". Na dem be this. You didn't have to make this type of comment. Varying opinions can and should be intellectual.

[Okafor @OkaforACO]

One thing people don’t talk about enough…

A relationship doesn’t just end in one day.

It ends in little moments.

When you keep explaining yourself and they don’t listen.
When you start feeling alone even though you’re not single.
When your effort is no longer appreciated, just expected.

You begin to go quiet.
Not because you don’t care…
but because you’re tired of repeating yourself.

And the other person?
They think everything is fine because you stopped complaining.

Until one day, you’re done.

And they’re shocked.

But the truth is, you didn’t leave suddenly.

You left slowly, in silence, long before you physically walked away.

[Blessing's Era @BlessingCh73232]

DEAR RESPONSIBLE MOTHERS,

Teach your daughters respect, contentment, honesty, the act of giving, gratitude, and integrity.

With these attributes, they'll attract quality men who will love and adore them for the rest of their lives.

My man and I have been dating for about six months now. Since we started dating, I have never visited him empty-handed, and I have never asked him for transportation fare to visit him.

I recall my first visit to his place. When I was about to leave, he brought out clean 1,000 naira notes and handed them to me for my transport back home and I declined.

He was puzzled. I could see the shock in his eyes because I hadn't come empty-handed.

I told him I already had my fare to and fro, so he could save it.
I know he thought I was faking it. It has now been six months, and nothing has changed. What he does now is transfer money to me at random.

Since we started dating, I have also never cheated on him, and I don't plan to. I have been brutally honest.

Our first open conversation? I tried to show him my phone's pattern. Noticing that he sometimes couldn't access my phone when he needed something from it, I changed the pattern to a PIN.

My phone can be with him forever and I won't fret. How many of the young ladies in relationships can say the same? My man is seeing this post for the record.

If a guy woos me today, I'm already giving him the full gist. And this goes both ways.

I remember when my man called me one night and said, "Babe, you've earned your place. This is my phone's password." I was shocked because I hadn't expected it.

That was when it dawned on me that I had built real trust, made him confident in me, and truly earned my place in his life.

I never forget to show him gratitude and respect. If he says, "Babe, do it like this," I do it. And because of this, he has grown to love me even more deeply.

When I'm not around, he's barely focused. My man is literally a finished meal, and I am the proud cook.

None of this would have happened if my lovely mum had not raised me right.

I would not have grown up to respect a man's authority if my lovely father had not modelled it.

Parents, this is your cue.

[aura_divinum @auradivinum]

Let me tell you something random… but stay with me.

I forget people’s names a second after they tell me their names😂 I don’t know why, but does this happen to you?

You know why that happens? It’s because that person is “new” to me. It means they haven’t given me anything to hold on to.

Humans are strange. We forget faces, we forget names.

But, you know what we remember? IMPRESSIONS!

That teacher you liked in school.. you may not remember what they wore… but you remember how they felt. Their presence and dazzling aura!

That one person you met briefly.. but somehow, you still remember them till today? It wasn’t just conversation. It was the after-effect. You may not even remember their names!

Fragrance is not just what people notice when you’re there. It’s what lingers when you’re gone.

It’s the one thing about you that stays in people’s memories without you.

And if you think about it, you’ll realize why a perfume like BLEU DE CHANEL is built the way it is.
Clean enough to feel familiar.
Deep enough to feel intentional.

So even if they don’t remember your name immediately… They’ll remember that feeling. And sometimes, that’s pretty much all you need.😌

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[Morenike @Rennyfadipe]

@Norm_TheNorm @jon_d_doe Interesting. I've learnt something new today. Thank you

[aura_divinum @auradivinum]

Dear MEN, if you’re going on a date this weekend with that woman you truly admire, here are 5 essentials you should never overlook:

1.) Dress the part:
Go for clean, and classy. Think an earthy-toned shirt, well-ironed chinos, and a sleek leather belt. First impressions matter, make yours count.

2.) Neat nails:
Attention to detail speaks volumes. Good hygiene is very attractive.

3.) Confidence: Yea, go with me😉 Carry yourself like you belong. Sit upright, maintain eye contact, and speak with intention. No slouching, no awkward fidgeting, own the moment.

4.) Kindness:
Small gestures, big impact. Offer her water, pull out her seat, hold the door. Chivalry is quite memorable.

5) The game changer: A great fragrance!
Smell unforgettable. 3-5 sprays of our BLEU DE CHANEL Parfume is all you need. Don’t overdo it.
With perfumes, little is more. Subtlety is power.

Because how you show up determines how you're remembered.

Price: 98,000
Size: 100ml

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