damn it sucks realizing people only really like you platonically and romantically because you’re reliable not because they actually care about you. whew.
I think when you’re transitioning from being a people pleaser into a person with more boundaries it can feel so weird – it's hard to tell if you’re being mean or if you’re actually just respecting your own feelings, because you’re so used to putting other people's feelings first.
I can’t afford to put myself in situations that bring out the worst in me anymore. it’s exhausting, draining. & requires way too much for me to recover from. I need calmness, stillness, & softness in my life. anything outside of that I simply do not have room for
It's not unrealistic to want a partner who adores you. It's not unrealistic to want to be with someone who enhances your life, makes you feel special, safe and cherished. Wanting someone to truly care about you? The same way that you care? You deserve that. Don't settle for less.
You deserve a calm love with somebody who's good for your mental health and nervous system. Somebody who brings out your soft side, not your survival side.
Being with someone who sees you, hears you, understands you, appreciates you, supports you, and loves you. Someone who is calm, communicates caringly, and creates a safe space to heal, grow, and bloom together...is a whole different level of intimacy.
I love a person who can put their pride aside, apologize and actually change their behaviour. That awareness, accountability, and emotional intelligence is so attractive.
soulmates aren't only lovers, they're friends too. Soulmates are naturally drawn to you, vibe with you & align with you. They understand you, see you, support you, love you, heal with you & grow with you. They instantly recognize you & make you feel beautiful for simply existing.
Intimacy is more than just sex. It's having heart-to-hearts, going on dates, sharing childhood memories, thoughts, feelings, fears, dreams, and hopes for the future. It's uncontrollable laughter, direct eye contact and feeling each other without touching - it's exchanging energy.